(Closed) I ruined our pics…

posted 11 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
4479 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I bet you look way better than you think you do. I’m sorry you feel that way, though. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 4
683 posts
Busy bee

Well, maybe you can’t retake all the pics, but why don’t you do a “trash the dress” session? They may not be wedding pics, but at least you’ll have some pics you like of yourself…and you don’t have to “trash” the dress…but you could take this time to find a really cool location.

I would look at this as an opportunity, then maybe afterwards, you’ll come to like the other pics too.

Good luck!

Post # 5
350 posts
Helper bee

I haven’t seen your pics but spaniel is probably right – you probably don’t look as bad as you think.  We tend to be much more critical of ourselves than others are.  But, if you absolutely can’t stand them, then PHOTOSHOP is your answer!

Post # 6
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I ruined all our of reception photos. We didn’t hire a professional photographer but I still wanted some nice pictures of us and our first dance, our cake cutting, etc.

We got married in Las Vegas in an outdoor ceremony. I used some special makeup to cover up my arm tattoos. We had a professional photographer and our family took lots of photos and they all turned out great. You can see in my avatar, no arm tatts can be seen ๐Ÿ™‚ I was really pleased.

For our indoor reception back home, I used the same makeup to cover up my tattoos again. When we started developing all the photos that friends and family took, I was HORRIFIED. The makeup covering my tattoos turned out super bright white in every single picture. I think maybe it was the flash from the cameras made the makeup on my arms pretty much reflective. Hundreds and hundreds of photos and every single one of them I have these huge white circles on my upper arms. Like a bad tan line from hell. It looks incredibly bad and like I have some weird skin disease or something. Every last picture.

I was really embarrassed about it, every time a friend or family member would be like “look I got my pictures developed from your wedding… you look great…” except for these insanely large white spots on my arms!!! Wow, yeah I look amazing. If I had no arms!!

I cried about it first. And I photoshopped them as much as I could. But yeah, bottom line is I can’t go back. I can’t fix it. I just have to move on. I have a pretty good sense of humor about it now, it’s all I can do but to make fun of myself in the pics. It was my big day and I have to embrace it flaws and all. I’ve heard of other couples who have been disappointed with their wedding photos, going to get other post-wedding pictures done professionally of them in their wedding attire. See this post here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/wedding-photosis-this-weird it’s something you may want to consider.

Either way, it happens sometimes. Remember you are your own worse critic. I’m sure you look absolutely beautiful still and there are probably so many other things in the pictures to focus on: your makeup, your dress, your jewelry that even if your hair is less than perfect, I doubt it takes away from how you looked that day.

Post # 7
1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Liv, I know just how you feel! I had this little lace bolero jacket that went with my dress. When my dress came in the wrong size and they did the alterations, they came out good on the dress but the jacket looked funny because the sleeves were still too big. I was exhausted and knew I’d only wear it for the ceremony, so I let it slide. But then after the ceremony, I FORGOT TO TAKE IT OFF! It was in ALL my formal photos and I was completely distraught. No one to blame but myself. One of these days I’m going to talk my hubbs into a Trash the dress shoot, even though he doesnt know it yet.

Where are you from? If I can help you with that I certainly would be happy to. PM me if you are interested.

Post # 8
36 posts
  • Wedding: January 2002

Honey we are all much harder on our selves than everyone else is. I’m sure you were beautiful. The wedding is all about the love not the photos so smile you have your wonderful husband and he LOVES his wife bad hair day or not.  ((HUGS))

Post # 9
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sure they aren’t as bad as you think. You are probably being way to critical of yourself. can you post one of the pics so we can see and then be able to tell you that it really isn’t that bad?!

Post # 10
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

I’m sorry to hear that you are not happy.  I say do a post-wedding photo shoot or trash the dress.

Post # 11
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

I agree with the other bees that it is likely not as bad as you think.  Also, a day-after shoot is a perfect idea!  Try not to be so hard on yourself – we put so much pressure on this one day, and, in the end, nothing is ever perfect, so it’s like we are setting ourselves up to feel disappointed. 

Post # 12
1032 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Why don’t you do an Anniversary shoot?

I also am not happy with my pictures and I just cannot get over it. What has really helped is that I came up with the idea to put back on my dress….full hair and makeup…and take pictures with my hubby for our 1 year anniversary

You can’t ever get back pictures of the actual day….but maybe you can reshoot so that you can get some pictures of you…and your husband…that you are happy with.

Hang in there. I really can relate. It may seem trivial to others…but I know what it’s like to be let down…and not able to get over it.

Maybe re-shooting would make you feel a little better

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