(Closed) I ruined the proposal surprise!!! Anyone else been there???

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2640 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

I personally don’t have any experience with this, but other girls who have gone through the same thing have written that the moment was still just as magical as they hoped. you may know when he will propse, but you don’t know exactly where or how or what he’ll say to you when he is down on one knee.

I think you just need to put it out of your mind right now and try to act as if you don’t know anything, lest he figures out you know and pushes it back!

Post # 4
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@ef2811:  I TOTALLY knew when he was going to. To the day. Basically to the moment. The circumstances really weren’t ideal. I kept saying we could come back to the beach later, after we ate, when it’d stopped raining (it was cold, too!), and we didn’t have a bunch of beach junk with us, and when I didn’t have to go to the bathroom. I really just wanted it to be nicer and not have a full bladder and not be freezing!! I thought he was good on waiting till later then, but halfway up the beach  he stopped and put the beach stuff down and hugged me and I knew it was coming. lol. 

Haha don’t think so much about it. It’ll still be memorable ^_^ 

Post # 7
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Does he know that you know? Or did you accidently come across it?

I knew when and how my fiance was going to propose to me, he’s not very good at keeping secrets. Pro/Con of that lol. But I mean, at first I was really excited about the fact that he was actually going to propose to me, but then after a while I was a little upset because it wasn’t going to be a suprise. I had to wait like 3-4 months until he actually did it.

I kept it to myself for a while, but once I told my two best friends, they got a little excited which got me excited again. He got the ring while we were shopping one day while visiting his grandmother and then a couple days later, he got the “second part” of my proposal gift. (I’ll get to that later).

I didn’t want him to feel bad that I knew everything that was going to happen so I pretended that I didn’t know. So when the day came that he actually proposed, which was Christmas morning of this year. After I threw away the wrapping paper and came back into the room, he was kneeling by the fireplace (we were at my parents house) and he proceeded to propose to me. Of course I said yes and hugged him and teared up a little and then he handed me my “second gift” which was a personalized ornament of a man proposing to a girl with our names and date on it.

I felt a little better after it finally happened because I didn’t have to deal with ‘pretending’ anymore. But he was so excited and happy that it made everything okay. He was the one that was taking pictures and sending texts/facebook messages/calling family and everything that the girl usually does that just seeing him so happy and excited about it just made it better.


Regardless that it wasn’t the ‘happy surprise’ proposal all the women wish for. I was still oh so happy because the love of my life shared my dreams and my love and wanted to share and spend the rest of his life with me. =) And thats all I can ever ask for!

Post # 9
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ll let you in on a secret. On the day my (now) fiance was to propose, my cousin sent me a PM on facebook congratulating me on my engagement…About 3 hours too early! Apparently our Dads like to gossip, haha. So I had a bit of a heads up, but it made absolutely no difference. It was still as special and memorable as I could ever hope for. 🙂

Neither my fiance nor my cousin know this, by the way. I told them both I checked my phone the next morning… I didn’t have to heart to tell them the whole truth!

Post # 10
2122 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

I’m not engaged yet, but I do have a suspicion my SO may propose on our next holiday as he dropped a ring hint last month.

I’m actually glad I have an incling because I’ve been extra helpful and nice around the house (we co-habitate), I’ve been taking care of my nails (for nice ring photos!), I’ll make sure I’m not whiney/complaining about things as I often do on our holiday, ad I’ve joined WeddingBee which has made me so excited!

I think this ‘waiting’ period is part of the whole wedding process, and this excitement and insomnia from imagining the moment over and over is something I’ll look back on and smile in the future.

Plus, even if I knew the exact time, I know I’ll still shake like a leaf and burst into tears anyway!!!

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