(Closed) I said yes to the dress!!!!! (Pic) 👰🏻

posted 4 years ago in Dress
Post # 31
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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calibee331:  Good news that the pubic bump ( there is no possible way a person’s vagina/vajayja could possibly show, unless she is lying down with her legs open, vaginas are internal!!!!!) is underwear bling,that’s easily fixed, as is spanx type foundation generally.     I really  like the brilliant white colour.                      

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

This dress is for someone who is 5’10” and weighs 100 lbs. Sorry, but this just isn’t flattering on you. Even spanx and extra fabric over the bust are not going to make it work. I think there are many other dresses that would work with your figure much better and wouldn’t show everything. 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - SLS Las Vegas

Seriously I am all for having confidence and loving a dress however this dress looks cheap and slutty. Plus it accentuates your body in all the wrong ways. Please reconsider

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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calibee331:  UNPOPULAR OPINION: I like your dress. When I saw your pictures, I thought ‘Yes! A woman with curves in one of those dresses you mostly see on smaller types. She has got BALLS. And I love the lace straps and side details.’ Then I scrolled down to comment about the straps and wow. Bees are so quick to jump on the shamewagon. Some women on here need to make peace with their own lumpy bodies before hanging out a perfectly happy bride to dry. I hope that you post 1,000 pictures of your wedding showing all these haters how you SLAY on your wedding day.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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calibee331:  the dress is very different and we all have our own tastes. I wouldn’t wear the dress, but I feel that since you have a year till your wedding you can work out to get that area right under your bellybutton smoothed out (don’t worry most women have this problem area, I do too) as you said you are going to get a bra and I would do some push ups and chest press routines. Cardio and just eating very well will help get rid of the fat cat… Its actually is not a bad thing, the dress material just clings a certain way. 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

Awww OP, I dont like it at all and I dont think it’s flattering on you. Sorry but I would have wanted someone to keep it real with me as well.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee

 

And for the record, it’s not about ‘haters’ (a totally overused word in my opinion) and for me, it’s not about the OP having curves or being more full figured….but if it doesn’t look good to me, it doesn’t look good.  It has anything to do with her size (especially coming from me who is vocal about wanting to gain weight and I actually come from a culture where bigger women are considered the shyt), it just does nothing for her. I see many bigger women with mermaid and fitted sillhouettes that they rock on here all the time. 

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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calibee331:  some of the comments were a bit harsh. however, I have been on the bee for quite some time and I have never ever told a bee to reconsider a dress. But in this particular situation, first time I am ever saying this, I really think you should. This dress does not flatter you at all. You could find a dress that is way better, way more flattering. I would hate for you to be the talk of the town on your wedding day because of this dress. Regardless if you love it or are comfortable in it, deep down no one wants to know that no one thought the bride looked gorgeous on her wedding day. I would hate for you to look back on your pictures and say “what was I thinking”

Post # 39
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Sugar bee

I beg to differ from a PP; choosing a bridal dress should not be an act of defiance with the thought process being “I love this dress! I don’t care if no one else loves it!”. Because the truth is, no matter how much we protest otherwise, all of us care. We want others to like, even love our choice for that day.

OP: I understand your wish to wear something different on your wedding day. In fact, I applaud that wish.  Having said that, the dress you posted would hardly flatter anyone; it’s one of those dresses that would present challenges to basically all of womankind. I realize some PPs have been rather boisterous in their opinion. However, I believe there’s no underlying wish to put you down. I think all who have shared their opinion hope that you will look your best on your wedding day. It’s just that this dress doesn’t meet that goal.

Post # 40
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Worker bee

While I do think some people are a tad too direct, honesty is always the best policy.

I just think it’s too much – it’s either back or boobs or side mesh not all 3 of them 

And the ruffling on the bum. I really do think you could do better but obviously if *you* love it – rock it! Did you go with friends or family to try dresses on? 

Post # 41
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Helper bee

Sorry about other comments… Nothing like an anonymous online thread of people to body shame you into what works for you when you clearly said you LOVE it. Your wedding is 10 months away, these folks have no idea on what you will change to get ready for your dress!

I hope this doesn’t take away from your moment. Congrats on finding your dress!

Post # 42
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Worker bee

I also am happy you like it. Here is why the dress in my opinion is not good for you

1.  Dresses that are very form fitting look best with women with more butt and less stomach.  It helps to fill it out in the right places.  From the back it gives you the flattest pancake butt ever.  In pictures you will regret this.  

2.  It is ok to be more full figured (I am) but you have to be realistic with yourself and find things that really compliment your shape.  I know this can be hard because we see dresses looking amazing on certain ladies and we think “i want it!”   But the truth is you always have to look at your body proportions and the dress proportions and say “does this make sense.”

3. Unless you are gonna wear a full body suit( with butt and hip enhancers, push up bra, waist cincher to the max), nothing is gonna make this lay the way it should.  Even spanx will not help.  Your body is beautiful as is every womans but not in this dress.  This dress calls for more butt, more hips, smaller stomach and back, and perhaps smaller boobs.  It does not mean your body is good enough, it means that those qualities are what this specific dress needs.  So you simply move on and then there will be a dress tha andt will look amazing on you another women may have too little or too much curviness. 

4. I would honestly take your body measurements and put it into a body shape site through google.  Find out your shape and first look at dresses that will compliment your shape.  You appear apple shaped to me and the dress youpicked is the worst for a apple shape.  Also take pics of yourself in different dresses and show friends and family you trust or even post here to get honest feedback.  Sometimes we see ourselves in a way we really aren’t.  On your wedding day you dont want to be laughed at or people thinking “why would she pick that.”  I hope you reconsider, good luck and im sure you will look great on your day

 

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  jilliri.
Post # 43
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Whether or not you wear the dress is up to you. The deal is…what these bees are saying to you right now is what your guests will be saying about you behind your back. If you’re confident enough to not give two sh*ts about what pepole say, then rock that dress!

I was in a similar situation when I posted the first dress I bought here. Ultimately, I didn’t have the confidence to rock a dress that I had learned people hated. Anonymous bees are one thing, but I hated the thought of my guests saying the same things about me behind my back, so I got a different, more with-the-times dress. Which one you choose is up to you. Your FH will think you’re stunning no matter what!

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Sorry OP I normally would not chime in but someone had to speak up for your poor buttocks.  everyone is so focused on the boobs (which I’m sorry but yeah, you need more coverage and support) but also your backside is not flattered in that dress at all. Seriously we are all coming from a genuine place of concern and not meanness.  I love a sexy bride but you can do so much better.  Sometimes it’s hard to see yourself objectively. What do your family / friends say?

Post # 45
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Blushing bee

Man I go away for awhile and come back to straight BLUNT bee’s. Although I agree with some it’s in the delivery ladies. I really like the back of the dress! The front just doesn’t seem to match the elegence of the back. But again it’s your day do you!

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