(Closed) I saw a wedding last weekend, and…ick.

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Wow Menobride…thats pretty ballsy to get up on here and trash someones wedding.  Not all weddings have to be an hour ceremony and a 4 hour reception.  

I don’t think flip flops are “tacky”…i’m planning on wearing flip flop because like this bride I am having an outdoor wedding.  I had also entertained the idea of having it on a cruise ship .  Besides the flip flops are probably more attractive looking than some of the other shoes that have been posted on here but I don’t go here and say other bee’s shoes are tacky.  

As long as the bride and groom are happy who cares about everything else..they weren’t putting on a wedding to impress you!

How would you feel if you came on here and someone trashed your wedding?  

Post # 18
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ours will be on a beach and about 10 minutes long. I don’t think it’ll make it any less special, plus we have TONS of fun post-ceremony activities planned.

PS – i’ll be in bare feet for my wedding.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@Ms Sassy: I totally agree with you and I’m surprised it took so long for someone to say that.

It’s one thing to somewhat critique other things you have seen, but don’t trash a wedding on a wedding board.  Who knows, the bride may very well be one of our fellow bees.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@Ms Sassy: I totally agree with you and I’m surprised it took so long for someone to say that.

It’s one thing to somewhat critique other things you have seen, but don’t trash a wedding on a wedding board.  Who knows, the bride may very well be one of our fellow bees.

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve shot weddings that were under 5… Mine will be about 1.5 hrs (Nuptial Mass). The biggest downside to a short wedding, is that there isn’t much time for variety to your pics… 🙂

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

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@Ms Sassy: I’m wearing flip flops at my reception. I took her flip flop comment as the bride didnt match (ivory with bright white) and it looked tacky. which i think that it probably would look really funny not matching. But I’m not EXACTLY sure what she meant by it.

My ceremony will probably be about 30 minutes and i think thats a bit long! because i know my daughter and all the rest of the kids will be squirmy atfter about 10 minutes lol

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Mrs. Louboutin: People are allowed to have a negative opinion and think things are tacky. If a bride is wearing mismatched colors and a hairstyle that they don’t like, it’s ok to say that. It’s OK to have an opinion that isn’t sugarcoated. It really bothers me that people in these forums are so set on everything doing the “girl” thing and not speaking up if you have an unpopular opinion, or trying not to hurt anyone’s feelings, ever. Women are allowed to have an opinion, period, and I think that is sometimes forgotten here.

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@Ms Sassy: Same to you. She has the right to her opinion. Just as you apparently have the right to be nasty to the OP.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@Ms Sassy: I agree. What if that bride is a lurker on the boards? I can’t imagine how hurt I would be if someone came on here and said something about my wedding!

As someone else said, to each their own. Our ceremony was pretty quick – about 20 minutes. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

ours will be about 30 mins – hopefully – we arent having any singing just the ave maria played via organ.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Geez, @menobride.  Just because a wedding isn’t to your taste and doesn’t meet your standards of formality does NOT make it tacky.  This is not the first bride in the history of the world to wear flipflops–I don’t see the big deal.  If she’s happy, what’s the problem?  I’m not sure I understand why you’re freaking out…the length of another bride’s ceremony has not bearing on the length of yours–you can do whatever you want!  That’s the fun of wedding planning!

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@Ms Sassy: Took the words out of my mouth.

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@crayfish: I think theres a difference between posting negative opinions when a bride is asking for feedback. Yes, on these boards people tend to try to sugarcoat their opinions BUT there is a difference between that and just writing a post about how cr*ppy someone else’s wedding is. Its pointless and petty and I think thats what is offending people.

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

As long as the bride and groom are happy who cares about everything else..they weren’t putting on a wedding to impress you!

How would you feel if you came on here and someone trashed your wedding?”

Quoted for truth. I 100% agree, Ms Sassy. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

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@crayfish:  i agree everyone has a right to their opinion.  

However, its not very classy to come on here and rip someone else’s wedding when they weren’t even a guest there!  It would also be one thing if this cruise bride or any bride came on here asking for opinions and asking if something is/was tacky…they do it all the time.

But it’s very classless to come on here and bash someones wedding about being short or that her flip flops didn’t match her dress and to describe it as “ick”.

 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

There’s a difference between responding to a post where someone asks for your opinion and creating a post with the SOLE PURPOSE of saying something negative about someone else’s wedding.  If the bride in question came on WB and said, “Hey guys, I’m planning to wear this dress with these flip flops, and my ceremony is going to be 5 minutes long.  What do you think?”  Then it would be perfectly acceptable to say, “Ummm, not really my thing…I don’t care for flip flops and I think the ceremony should be longer since it’s the whole point of the wedding.”  No one could bash her for having an opinion and expressing it when asked.  But it’s just mean and petty to write a post with no other purpose than to crap all over the choices of a fellow bride.  

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