(Closed) I saw a wedding last weekend, and…ick.

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I bet that bride felt beautiful.

 Of all the weddings I’ve seen, I’ve never seen one that was as tacky as a person that actually uses the word tacky to describe another brides wedding.

Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just a friendly reminder that menobride posts on here a lot, and I don’t think we should all flame her for something said, likely in the heat of the moment. I doubt she meant to be offensive.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Every time one of these “tacky” posts pops up I get that theme song from Weeds “Little Boxes” (little boxes made of ticky-tacky…) in my head. So thanks for that. That song is mad annoying.

For the record, beige/ivory with bright white is not OK but flip flops and whatever else is fine. It’s all about personal preference and personal style because weddings are about the people getting married. I suppose one could argue that wearing beige/ivory with bright white is also a personal preference, but if someone wants to make the personal choice to color clash, I can’t get behind that.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yes, the OP was critical of the other bride’s style, but I think the point of the post was that seeing it from afar made her think “I’m spending how much time, effort and money on this and the most important part of the day is over that quickly?!”

The mismatched white and ivory would stand out from a distance and looking through weddingbee at all the posts about little details or brides obsessing over insignificant things makes it clear that Menobride isnt the only one worried about the details (especially if they may look cheap or tacky!) And that’s fine if you want to wear flip-flops to your wedding, but you shouldnt be surprised that some people find them to be way too casual for special occasions (I can wear flip flops to work, but corporate rules wont allow foam flip-flops – and that’s for a retail clothing store, not a semi-formal event!)

Most of the Catholic ceremonies I’ve been to have been about an hour to an hour and 15 minutes. Most of the other (Christian, but non-Catholic) ceremonies I’ve been to have been 25-30 minutes. I think it really depends on what type of ceremony you choose and what you include. Personally, I would not want a super-short ceremony, but I could understand why some people might. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’m pretty sure all of us post on here a lot, and do so with tact.

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@Laylabelle: No need to be snarky. I am just pointing out that she probably didn’t mean it to be so offensive to people, so it isn’t necessary to flame her this badly. That’s all.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@crayfish: “Tacky” is something that is a no-no to say on the boards.  Additionally, her post was about how she didn’t like this random person’s wedding.  It wasn’t seeking advice about her own or anything. 

I’m also one who typically does give that other opinion that may not be the most popular, but its never to put others down.  All I know is that if I came onto these boards and read a post about how awful a wedding was that was clearly my own, my feelings would really be hurt.  There are a LOT of people who read wedding bee.  If the bride is a poster, it would really hurt her feelings because I bet on her day she felt beautiful and thought it was the happiest day of her life.

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@Laylabelle: 

“I bet that bride felt beautiful.

 Of all the weddings I’ve seen, I’ve never seen one that was as tacky as a person that actually uses the word tacky to describe another brides wedding.”

Amen sister.

What if she had some awesome shoes that got forgotten, and had to buy the best shoes she could find on board the ship? What if she cried about it before the wedding? Or what if, God forbid, she was just a laidback bride that said, “Eh, these will do, what’s important is marrying my fiance and spending time with our friends and family?” I just fail to see how someone else’s fashion choices can really be “tacky”. I’m not saying that “tacky” is a bad word all the time, but to me it usually means doing something in poor taste, like not inviting all of your wedding guests to the reception, or making some stand while others get to sit, etc. How she dressed for HER wedding day was a matter of PERSONAL taste that didn’t affect anyone but her.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@daniellemybelle: “I just fail to see how someone else’s fashion choices can really be “tacky”

 

I agree with everything you said except for that quoted above. See attached.

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Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Woah!

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t know if it’s pregnancy hormones or what, but I really sometimes can’t take the holier than thou attitude that this board sometimes takes on. OP isn’t insulting a specific race, or personally attacking anyone on the boards, or murdering babies, or calling anyone a whore. She just thinks non matching flip flops are tacky. It isn’t a big deal. All you have to say to her is “On these boards we try to not use to use the word tacky so as to not hurt the feeling of other brides who may be reading.”ANd anyway if someone who thinks they are mature enough to get married gets all twisted about an opinion a stranger on a message board has about flip flops, they probably need to re-think marriage because there are going to be MUCH bigger fish to fry. I don’t think OP means for her post to come off as mean and rude.

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had a full Catholic CEREMONY (not a MASS due to the heathen husband) and it was between 45 mins & 1 hour, but we had a candle thingy for my deceased parents and the sign of peace -we really stretched it.  Normal Catholic ceremony-20-30 mins, mass-1 hr.

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