(Closed) i saw something yesterday and i can’t let it go:/

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh no! 

Realistically it’s probably not actually a big deal, I seriously doubt that it means he’s cheating, but I’d definitely be upset and hurt!!

Gotta say… you need to talk to him.  As much as you may not want to have to face it/bring it up, you need to.  But do it in a non-crazy way 🙂 Don’t immediately be defensive, but just say how her name popped up and so you figure he’s been looking at her fb so you just wanted to check in and see what’s going on since you’d basically forgotten about her.  Good luck :-/

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t say that is true anymore. I have a girl who has been MY MORTAL ENEMY since grade 11 (well, that’s what we used to call her. Still don’t like her, but also don’t give a crap about her). Her name starts with the same letter as my sister. Let’s say B. When I type “B” into my FB search bar, SHE SHOWS UP FIRST. Drives me nutty. I have visited her page maybe once, a few years ago, and visit my sister’s page every few days. No idea why her’s shows up first– perhaps because we have so many friends in common?

Anyways, I don’t think it is related to visits at all.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Do you both have a lot of friends in common with this girl? Because that is how the searches show up on facebook, not by how many times you have visited their page, especially if it someone who he does not have on his friend’s list. It also lists people by location. So I will type in “C” for Christy to find a girl I went to high school with. After I enter a first and last name, despite the dozens of girls with the same name, the girl I am looking for will usually come up first based on her location, high school listed (which would be the same as mine), and the fact we would likely have many friends in common. So don’t jump the gun and make a big deal out of this! It’s just the way facebook searches work. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think facebook orders them by whose page you visit most. I go on my SO’s page almost every day, and he comes up 5th when I type in his first name, with the first 4 people being people whose pages I never go to.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t worry about it. Ask him about it and see what he says but don’t base a huge fight on this. I just tried using my best friends name, lets say it stars with “K”, i entered K and it brought up some random girl from high school whose page i NEVER look at (while I look at my best friend’s page every day).

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s definitely wrong. The searches don’t work that way. It’s not JUST friends you have in common. It’s also location. Facebook tries to guess the person you are looking for based on a number of factors. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think this is anything to worry about – my searches never come up with the people whose pages I visit most frequently at the top of the list.  I just tried it again on facebook and the people topping the list are people whose pages I haven’t looked at in ages (if ever).   I also got several people who I am not friends with (but whom I have a lot of mutual friends) topping the list when I typed in one letter in the search box.

I think shirasagi is correct – it goes by who you have friends in common with etc.   This doesn’t sound like an issue and I think you should forget it and move on.  Don’t talk to your SO about this – you will sound incredibly jealous and insecure.   Unless you have other issues that are causing you to be suspicious, this is not something to worry about, so let it go. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t worry too much! When I type in letters, my friends come up first, then people who have mutual friends, even if it’s just one friend in common. Sometimes I don’t have a clue who the people are, sometimes I know them but have never been to their page.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hm.  Yes you may be overreacting, but regardless, these are your feelings so you can’t just ignore them, reasonable or not 🙂  How about, since you don’t really know why the name popped up, you just bring her up in a conversation and maybe just try to discuss whether he’s talked with her recently?

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