Post # 1
Darling Husband and I are going to a wedding overseas in January. I’m a bridesmaid (the bride was in my wedding). When I agreed to be in her wedding, I looked into plane tickets, looked like they’d be $1300-$1500 each. A lot, but we can deal. Then I figured, we have to connect in London or Frankfurt, why not spend a few days there too. That’s only an extra couple hundred each, why not (and Darling Husband isn’t too keen on the first leg of the trip so this part is for him).
Well, Darling Husband took a while deciding where he wanted to go (London vs Frankfurt), by the time the decision was made, the tickets were about $2200 each – YIKES! The plane tickets almost doubled but we booked. I didn’t really think about it, we did it.
Now as we’re looking at booking hotels etc for London I’m realizing how much this is all going to cost and it’s way more than what we’d hoped. I’m sure it’ll be an amazing trip and totallly worth it, I just feel really bad that we’re spending all this money when we’re also trying to buy a house etc.
We can’t cancel the trip – we won’t get the money back.
I’m not really looking for advice, I just needed to get this out…
Post # 2
Ugh that’s a bummer. But it does sound like it’ll be an amazing trip and I always feel better about spending money on experiences rather than things. You’ll have a great time!
Post # 3
I am a vacation money spender stresser. No matter the cost, until I am on the plane or sometimes even until I am at my destination, I stress about everything, especially the price of the tickets and hotel and such.
Once you get there, it wont bother you becasue you will see the beauty all around you…but yeah, I hella feel you =)
Post # 4
Oh, no! I’m sorry that happened to you.
I always try to book as early as possible to avoid large hikes like this. That’s a totally unexpected hike in price!
Post # 5
PunkRockPrincess: I actually didn’t think there was anything that could make me feel better but you did – thank you! You’re right, I do this every time I book travel and pretty much any time I spend a chunk of money.
The trip IS going to be amazing. Darling Husband and I haven’t really gone on a proper vacation ever (every trip we’ve ever taken has involved seeing family) – so this is also kind of our honeymoon – the last part, not friend’s wedding.
I think I’m also worried that Darling Husband will hate the Asian part of our trip – he’s really nervous about it and he’s never left Canada so this is a GIANT first trip for him!
Post # 6
Maybe to sideline some of the costs, book an AirBnB in London instead of shelling out for a hotel? Might save a few bucks here and there and then you could get a space with a kitchen so you can prep some meals at home and pack sandwiches and snacks for lunches where you’ll be out sightseeing or whatnot.
It sucks they went up so much, but once you get there, forget about the money spent and enjoy the memories of the vacation and wedding overseas!
Post # 7
jlc3: we’re looking at AirBnB and I think we’ve settled on one 🙂
Packing snacks is a good idea, maybe we can do a pack lunch of some sort a couple of days too – thanks!
Post # 8
MsGinkgo: Do you always blame yourself for your husband’s actions (or lack thereof)? He is the one who delayed, resulting in the price increase for the tickets.
Post # 9
julies1949: lol – I’m glad you see it that way. Yes, I’m a little annoyed at him as well for taking so freaking long to make up his mind!
Post # 10
MsGinkgo: I don’t see how your husband’s actions (or lack thereof) is your fault, but ok.
I once booked 125 USD / night at the Hilton Paddington London, so deals are possible if you know where to look. I can also give you a Hotel Tonight promo code, if you can yolo and travel that way. Let me know!
Post # 11
bitsybee: Same as what Jules said – I guess I feel like I screwed up because I was sure we could afford it and now we can’t so much and the whole reason we’re doing this in the first place is so I can go to/stand in the wedding of my friend (DH doesn’t really know these people). I know it’s not all on me, I just feel responsible (even if I shouldn’t) it’s part of my personality.
ETA: thanks for the offer, but we’d rather have something booked. We’ve actually found AirBnB for about $150CDN/night.
Post # 12
MsGinkgo: I’m sure you’ll have a great time and the opportunity will be worth the money. It seems like you’re more concerned about your husband not enjoying himself. What’s he so nervous about regarding Asia?
Post # 13
Bummer. It is always difficult to know when the prices are going to go up. I don’t think you messed up at all.
Post # 14
spiffanee: I think you’re right. He’s never travelled. His entire travel experience is within a 1500km radius of his hometown (maybe not even that big!)
His family doesn’t travel so it’s not something that he really considers. It also doesn’t help that my step-mom and most of his family are making rude comments about how much he’ll probably hate it.
He’s convinced he’s going to hate that part of the trip as well – I keep trying to get him excited about it but I can’t seem to do anything that helps.
Post # 15
MsGinkgo: Think of it like this….the London part of the trip is totally an opportunity, one you wouldn’t be doing if not for the trip to India. Yes, you’re trying to buy a house, but now instead of saving up for a year, you’ll save up for a year and one month….not a huge impact in the grand scheme of things. And honestly, once you buy the house, you’ll be tied up with a lot of expenses for quite a while and an opportunity like this won’t present itself for a long, long time. Don’t beat yourself up, spend time together planning all the things you’re going to see and do…..excited anticipation is a huge part of travelling and it’ll really make it a positive experience for your Darling Husband. Get excited about India too, it’s a vibrant rich culture that not many North Americans get to experience. Be prepared for the heat and the crowds, take plenty of imodium with you, DO NOT drink the water unless you open the bottle yourself, DO NOT eat street food and keep jewellery to a minimum. Safe and happy travels!