Post # 1
My husband and I began TTC this summer (we are on month 4). When we first started trying, I loved watching pregnancy announcement and gender reveal videos online. Each month I feel like it gets a little harder and I feel like pregnancy is EVERYWHERE. Every show I’m watching has someone having a pregnancy scare or getting pregnant, movies I pick on Netflix randomly have it, all over Facebook…. i feel like the universe is constantly reminding me that I am not yet pregnant and constantly terrifying me that it may not happen for us…and this is only cycle 4!!! I cant imagine if its cycle 14 and we are still trying. Any other bees feel this way? My heart goes out to those who have been trying for much longer than us <3
Post # 2
I feel the same too , it’s hard ….. I’m also on month 4 …. I’ve had one chemical pregnancy and it doesn’t get easier
I’ve just had another faint line come up today , but I’m scared it’s going to go the same way as last month 🙁
we just have to keep positive 🙂 and try focus on other stuff even tho it seems impossible when everyone is annoucing …
my friend took 16 months with her first baby and 18 with her second , so do t give up !
she has two lovely boys now x
Post # 3
I know the feeling. It took us 3 years. During our second year I had THREE relatives get pregnant.
It’s really hard. Your time will come. I hope you don’t have to wait as long as we did!
Post # 4
I felt this way not too long ago. As you know I just got my BFP on cycle 4. I hope the same for you!!! I felt bad being so down about it after “only three cycles” but when you have your heart on something it hurts your heart when its wish doesn’t come true time and time again. I also felt like pregnant people where everywhere after my MC in 2014. I think your mind is just so on one thing constantly that it jumps out to you more in life and entertainment. Keep looking forward to the next goal whether that be O, TWW, or POAS date. And stay with it. More BD = more chance of a sperm meeting an egg. Good luck!
Post # 5
yessss! I feel so guilty for feeling this way when so many people have known fertility issues and/or have been trying so much longer than us. It’s just so hard doing everything you know possible to get pregnant and I HATE how stark white those negative tests are!!!!
Post # 6
Major hugs and positive POSITIVE THOUGHTS. TOOK ME A VERY LONG TIME BUT then I had the two best kids ever, now adults. Too much media, EVERYWHERE.
Post # 7
yup, on cycle 15 and it just gets harder as time goes on. Even watching old reruns of shows I had seen long ago, now hypersensitive to babies/pregnancy. I tend to stay off Facebook pretty much now and I have a hard time with the POAS boards too.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2015 - City, State
I feel you! We are on our 6th cycle of really trying. Both my SILs had unplanned pregnancies and one of them just found out she was pregnant again (another unplanned). She was kind of nervous to tell us they were expecting since she knows we have been having difficulty. I’m happy for them of course. It just sucks when we have to try so hard and it’s not happening for us even though I’ve tried to do everything the right way.
Post # 9
After 18+ months TTC we are doing IVF right now. I deleted 70% of people off my facebook earlier this year. I unfollow anyone who announces a pregnancy. It’s really difficult to see pregnancy announcements when some of these people have announced TWICE in the time we’ve had exactly ZERO pregnancies.
It’s so hard, you have to do what you can to make it bearable. I call it self-care 🤷♀️
Post # 10
This month marks year 2 or us ttc. I definitely see pregnancy everywhere too. Like you when we first started trying I used to watch pregnancy announcements. That would be way too hard to do now. So sorry you’ve been feel down. -hugs-
Post # 11
I can’t imagine how hard this would be.
I work in advertising so can give you a bit of advice. Delete the cookies on your computer, phone etc after searching for anything on pregnancy.
Otherwise Google, facebook etc will show you ads targeted to you based off your searching behaviour
Post # 12
Oh Bee. This is hard. I’ve been in your shoes. It took us over a year to conceive and then we lost that baby at the start of the 2nd trimester. It took several more cycles to conceive again. So I’m pregnant right now (sorry!) with our first baby. Over 2 years after getting my IUD out.
In the months after we lost our pregnancy when I saw pregnancy and babies and it broke my heart, I found it helpful to remind myself that I didn’t know their story and it might have taken them a long time to get to where they were. (Easier said than done)
Protect your heart as much as you need to. And feel your feelings. And I will cross my fingers for you to get your baby soon!
Post # 13
I did the same. With a TTC saga of 22months and IUI/ ICSI within the next months, I just don’t want to deal with pregnancy announcements and babies.
I actually unfollowed Kensingtonroyal on IG this morning, but I just don’t want to deal with any of these news.
Post # 14
All I can say is a suggestion to turn those triggers into something positive. My mom always told me growing up that whenever I was sad about something i should go over in my head what i have to be grateful for. A step further was, when I was down about wanting a relationship and a famiy and was having a hard time finding someone she said, When you see couples out and about, instead of being sad or jealous instead try thinking, That is mine too! That wonderful sense of family isn’t just for one person or one couple, that joy is also yours too. Love isn’t finite, it can’t be used up by any one person or people. Family is the same, it is a spiritual quality that is abundant and you can’t be deprived of it. So when you see it, think to yourself, that is mine too!
Post # 15
Wow, this is a really beautiful way to look at things. I’m going to start doing this! Thank you for sharing!