I see pregnancy EVERYWHERE

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

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CloverBells :  Glad you like it! I find it super helpful to me 🙂 

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

It is so hard.  I know at least 12 different pregnant women, 6 of them just announced.  It kills me e very month.  but I am happy for them.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Literally just saw 3 pregnant women on a 7-minute walk to get lunch. 

Right after I started seeing spotting indicating that our 4th cycle trying is about to be a failure. 

At the same time, I also feel like I don’t have much of a right to be upset since it’s only been 4 months, especially when there are other women on this board who have been trying for SO much longer. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard

I can totally relate to this. For me, we started trying one year ago, but have only actually tried 4 cycles (and only one BD per cycle) because my husband has low drive. I made the mistake of telling people we were trying back when we started and my stepmother had the nerve to tell me this weekend “maybe if I had a less stressful job I wouldn’t have as much trouble getting pregnant.” Little does she know, I’m not having trouble (or maybe I am?) and just need to have more sex lol. Obviously I can’t tell anyone that so in the meantime I’m just pretending to have a hard time? It’s so frustrating. So I can commiserate with the whole, taking a long time thing, but at the same time I am grateful that I don’t have a known problem, that we’ve only actually tried 4 times, and it can take normal couples a full 12 cycles to actually be successful. So I can sort of imagine what the ladies are going through who are 1+ year trying, except not because I still have a chance of successfully conceiving within the normal 12 cycle timeframe. TTC is what you make of it, I guess. Basically a total crapshoot.

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

I feel like this too! DH and I just started trying but I’ve been hyperaware of pregnancy related things over the past month, and to top it off, my SIL just announced that she’s pregnant with Baby #2, I’m so happy for her, and looking forward to our babies being close in age. 

I look forward to the little things, ovulation, TWW, POAS date, the start of a new cycle and new hope, estimating my due date dependent on when I fall pregnant, thinking about how I would announce it to my husband, family and friends, thinking about gender reveals etc. Perhaps I won’t feel this way as the months pass by, but I believe that always having something to look forward to definitely helps when you’re waiting for something to take place. Just think about that beautiful miracle baby you’re going to have in your arms one day!

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i felt this way in the beginning, then it took us 2 years, $$$$$, and IVF to get pregnant.  it happens, but statistics are on your side that your time will come sooner.  and if not, shit happens.  we do what we have to do and make the best of our sitauations. i learned a lot, made some seriously amazing friends who went through the whole thing.  it is apart of me.

 

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

Ugh this thread seriously could not be more timely for me too. I feel like I just got sucker punched… One of my SILs just texted us that they’re expecting again. Their first oopsie baby is now 7 months old I think. And she is apparently a few weeks along but isn’t really sure. Just wow. Seriously between my 2 SIL’s both of them now will have 4 oopsie babies. Meanwhile I’m going on 6 months and nothing. It’s hard to be happy for people who get pregnant without even wanting to. Just trying not to cry at work.

Post # 23
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Helper bee

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BeepBopB00p :  I feel this way, we are now moving onto cycle 11 of trying. And honestly I’m sad. I’m sad it hasn’t happend for us, I get upset when people with disfunctional marriages announce they are having a “fix the relationship” baby (this just happened yesterday and made me want to fling my phone at a wall….it’s a long story)

I try not to be angry or upset, and be happy for people. But it also just hurts, I feel often as though my body is betraying me, not doing something it should be doing (I know this is a bit of a dysfuctional way to look at things). Sometimes you just have to let those feelings out, I had a huge cry yesterday with my DH and then again when talking to my mom after getting AF a day early. Sometimes you just need to let it out, especially when this kind of thing can be isolating (usually only your DH and you know if you are TTC, unless you choose to be vocal about it). Letting yourself feel upset is fine, sometimes it just needs to come out. 

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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BeepBopB00p :  I am in the same boat. We started TTC in August. My best friend is pregnant, DH and our other close friend is pregnant, and another couple is trying, DH’s cousin is pregnant with their second… the last 2 Ubers I’ve gotten in, the driver’s wives have been pregnant so it’s the topic of convo. It’s just everywhere. Even random Office re-runs we watch, are always pregnancy ones.

And some of it is self-induced, I watched Netflix “One More Shot” documentary for some reason w DH. lol. A few days later I got my period so DH and I had a long convo and he even admitted that pregnancy is “in my face” a lot more right now, which has got to be hard. We’re going to “step up our game” a little more (frequency wise) and he’s switched to male fertility supplements.

I mean, we’re not even really on our 4th month of trying yet but we’re also 35 so it’s scary since I’ve been off BCP for awhile, and looks like I ovulate regularly… I’m hoping my thyroid levels decrease enough before 2019 so we can get our positive. Otherwise, it’s straight to infertility Drs for us. 

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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BeepBopB00p :  Also on month 4 over here. My SIL announced her pregnancy on Father’s Day this year, which also fell on my husband’s birthday. That was just after my best friend told me that she accidentally became pregnant. And I can’t even count the number of acquaintances who are also pregnant right now. It’s only natural to feel a little envious when someone else gets what you want. Especially if you feel like you’ve really been trying and working for it, and for others it just happens. Sometimes people struggle but you’d never know because they didn’t share that with anyone else. Allow yourself to have those feelings but then shake it off and try to remember that it will happen for you too in due time. I know my baby will be right on time, even if it’s taken longer than I originally anticipated. This whole process has been a great lesson in doing what I can (making dietary and lifestyle changes) and letting the rest go. For a type A planner, it hasn’t been easy, but I’m a better person for it. Fingers crossed for you!  

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