Post # 1
So bees it’s been a while since I’ve posted an update. There has been a lot going on in the last month or so and I just wanted to come tell my waiting ladies the update.
I got a great job about 6 wks ago. I love it. My SO has been on and off of jobs all year. Literally off more than on. We’ll he’s finally found a very good, promising, and stable job. And not only one but TWO. So he’s working two jobs totalling from 12-18hrs a day. I know that’s a lot but he wants to do it and I have to say I’m proud of him. Sooooo last week we went to the jeweler to pick up the ring. He actually took me with him. I was surprised. I was so nervous I couldn’t even get out of the car. LOL. But he got the ring. I saw it in the bag. It was weird driving home because I didn’t even want to look at the bag in the car. So when we arrived home he quickly got out of the car, took the bag and said “I’ll take this. And you’ll be getting this when I think it’s the right time.” He came in the house so quickly I knew he was trying to hide it (which he didn’t do a very good job of by the way because I put away clothes) I didn’t feel bad because I still want SOME kind of romance with the proposal not just him giving me the ring. So I was cool. But NOW 8 days later I’m like “okay buddy, really?”. I haven’t said anything to him and I don’t think that I will (trying so hard not to). Our 4 year anniversary is next week (Wednesday). And I won’t see him that day unless he wakes me up out of my sleep so I don’t think he will do it then. I hope he doesn’t let that day pass without proposing then or beforehand.
There’s been a lot going on. I have a relative in ICU so we’ve been to the hospital quite a bit in the past week. I also graudated with my 2nd degree a couple weeks ago. So I know it’s been hectic for us lately so I don’t want to put the pressure on and take away his joy in proposing. I think I know enough already so I want to give him his time.
How do you ladies that know he has the ring NOT say anything? I seen a post from this week where a bee stated she finally cried after knowing he had the ring for weeks and he proposed the next day. I don’t want to do that. But I may if he waits too long. Especially after our anniversary. 🙂 I thought that once knowing your SO has the ring it’s a sense of security and smooth sailing. Not so much. I’m like a kid who just ate a bag full of candy. Bouncing off the walls here!
Post # 3
I know my SO does not have the ring yet so i don’t know what it would be like to know it was in the house!! I would want that ring NOW!! I am hoping that it happens for you on (or around) your anniversary!!! Let us know what happens…stay strong…NO crying (if possible!!) Good luck!
Post # 4
@misskittykakes: Thank you! I don’t think I would cry but just bring it up to him that could possibly have him propose due to me feeling bad, etc. We’ve just been through so much with family loss, job loss, etc. That I’m ready for us to start a new chapter in our lives. I want to marry the man I love. My best friend and I have wanted to for over a year now.
Post # 5
He brought you to pick it up and still hasn’t given it to you?! That’s downright cruel!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
I know that mine is in the house (I even can suspect where) and somedays, it’s all I can do not to look for it. But, then I think of the proposal and how dissapointed both he and I will be if I spoil the surprise.
Hang in there! I really think it will be worth it!
Post # 7
hang in there! i know my SO has the ring too! just hang in there knowing it will be SOON! i am hoping my SO finally asks me tonight…i know he wants me to have the ring before his family reunion on saturday…ahhhh!
Post # 8
@Pretty, good luck, just because the anniversary might pass–and it might drive you crazy–let him do it in his own time. If you rush him or get upset with him it might turn into an unhappy memory and no one wants that. PLease be happy and patient in the knowledge that it is coming soon!
My MR and I ordered the ring in February and he got the ring in April and still no-go. Our 7 year is this weekend, but I don’t think it is going to happen. Actually, I am not sure he’ll ever propose at all. Every time he gets my hopes up that we are moving forward he ends up getting cold feet about the whole idea of marriage, saying it is a prison and he’s more likely to leave me if we DO get married than if we just stay dating. 🙁
Post # 9
My SO has had the ring for months now. It’s very hard to know that he has had it for so long but I am trying to be patient. I know he probably has a plan that he has put some thought into and I don’t want to spoil it. I think it is coming soon, but no idea when. We are actually looking at venues this weekend (a little unorthodox, I know) but we don’t have a car and this weekend we are visiting my parents who have a car for us to use. If it saves us the $75 rental fee I’m all for it so we are planning on visiting 6 venues this weekend. SO said it was “silly” that we were waiting for a ring to start looking for this high demand date range (Fall 2012 in New England, no specific date in mind) and some of the places are already sold out. Hang in there, I’m sure it will happen for both of us soon and I’m sure your SO has a great plan.
Post # 10
PS- Congrats on the new jobs for both you and your SO!
Post # 11
I would not be able to act normal. There’s no way.
Thank God my SO is so impatient and would never be able to wait too long (I don’t think). He got his dad Mets tickets for his birthday a month early, and wanted to tell him about them right away. The only that that stopped him was that he was too tired to drive over there (lol, lazy). So he ended up waiting maybe a week until he saw him. Still 3 weeks before the actual birthday. I hope he’s that anxious with giving me my ring (whenever he buys it, that is)!
Post # 12
@PrettySedity: YAY! I’m mad that I’m just now reading this, LoL. I’m so glad that you’re getting close to the engagement. i don’t know how you’re handling it, girl. If he had the ring & I knew it, I would be out of control. Fiance had my ring for a bit over a month before he proposed, but I had NO idea. I didn’t think it was coming for another two or three months.
I hope you don’t have too much longer! I’ll be waiting to read your proposal story!!! :o)
Post # 13
I don’t know how I miss this either- yay almost here. I am waiting right along with you *hugs*