- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
She sounds like she has attatchment issues. My mother has TERRIBLE attatchment issues and poor DH has to deal with them (though I try to limit them and intercede wherever possible). My mother is very jealous of DH and Mother-In-Law because my mom lives far away and she’s unhealthily attatched to me. Some of the things you said reminded me of my mom. She’ll cry on the phone about how she’s so lonley and whatnot (yet she asked my stepfather to leave and pushed away all of her friends and, to some extent, me) and how I haven’t been the same since I met and married DH. Basically, she can’t seperate or deal with the fact that I’m a grown up and living my life (despite the fact that I’ve lived 9 hours away from her for 8 years now). My point in all this, is that I empathize, AND that you can only do so much. If you’ve made the effort to include her and to be the bigger person, that’s about all you can do. She’s made her choices, she’s an adult, and she needs to deal with her own issues. She may come around or (like my mother) you may have to accept that things will be like this and do your best to try and maintain a healthy relationship with her. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk.