Post # 1
So I was doing really well on the Mr. Bee Plan Pact. Hardly mentioned engagements / marriage at all these past few months.
I don’t know what came over me, but I discovered Moissanite, and just HAD to tell SO. Here’s our conversation:
Me – I found a way that you don’t have to spend thousands of dollars on an engagement ring! More like $500 – does this interest you? (insert coy voice here)
Him – It will come. Relax, and trust me.
Me – Bah, sorry! I’m really trying to play it cool here (way to blow my own cover!)
Then later that evening I comment on how everyone mispronounces his last name. His response: “well get used to it, because it will be your name very soon!” He said this in front of his brother, so he must be actively thinking about it.
I just need to breathe, relax, stfu and trust him 🙂
Post # 3
Oh my gosh, this is funny! I was JUST looking at Moissanite and I want to tell my SO about it SO BAD!! So did you end up telling him about it? Did he dismiss it??
Post # 4
Most probably he already has the ring!
Post # 5
@missjuli: I decided not to bring it up, since he gave me such a prophetic answer of “it will come”. He already has seen the “dream ring”, and has the product info on a card inside his nightstand. I’m just impatient, lol. Not going to lie though, I did email myself the link to the one I like. If he wants more info, I’ll just forward him the email.
I think I’m just getting really antsy since both our birthdays are next month (theyre a week apart), and we’re going on this random camping trip to celebrate. Also, he keeps telling his mom & sister that he’s going to propose in the spring, so I can’t help feeling that it will be very soon! He might already have a ring – I honestly don’t know – so I’m not going to push it 🙂
Let me know if you bring up Moissy to your man! I think it’s interesting to see how they respond to the “diamond alternative”.
Post # 6
@happyface: +1 – My thoughts EXACTLY!
Darling Husband said the exact same thing to me (the night before he was going to propose). 🙂
Post # 7
@happyface: I freaking hope so! Like I said, a lot of big events coming up in the next month or so (and then an anniversary in July) – so it could be anytime! But shutting up is soooo damn hard.
Post # 8
Lol my SO was looking to spend in the range of 4500-5000, and I couldn’t let him do it. I prodded and poked, and nudged until he finally agreed to look at Moissanite (which is what I secretly wanted anyway) and he fell in love! 😀
Post # 9
This is too funny.
I mentioned Moissanite too few weeks ago and couldn’t even get him interested in it. I don’t think he has the ring however yet cuz 3 weeks ago he was asking me what kind of rings do I like to get an idea.
Plus he asked me the other day to get into his e-mail and forward him an e-mail from a friend with some info he needed, I overlooked that in that same e-mail he was being also congratulated on the engagement cuz he wrote to him that he will be getting married soon!
Like, WTH… hurry up already, not fair that he is talking to his friends about it and getting congratulated etc… and I am just sitting in the dark LOL
Post # 10
It sounds like the proposal should be pretty soon! I bet it’s hard not to say anything about it, it’s so exciting! But it sounds like he’s got the ring or is set on one already so now you’ve just got to be patient.
I know my Boyfriend or Best Friend would not want to buy Moissanite, but that’s just him. I have nothing against it and I think it’s a fabulous alternative to diamonds. Good luck!
Post # 11
Cute. You lucky girl! Some one is getting engaged soon. ^_^
Post # 12
Yep – just relax and enjoy the ride, he sounds like he is the right space!
Post # 13
To me it sounds as if he’s got it. Especially if you tried to bring up an idea of something you might like… Exciting!
Post # 14
I told mine about Moissanite last night. He loved it! He read the article on diamondssuck.com (the author’s opionion, not necessarily mine) and was so intrigued he even read the linking article to read about what strict control diamonds are held under.
He even summed it up for me later in lammans terms. We are pretty excited about the alternative!
Post # 15
So I found a way to bring up Moissanite without bringing up engagement again (if that even makes sense). The other day I took advantage of his inner nerd. Essentially, he was talking about how diamonds are the hardest rock (not sure why?), and I said “no, no, my dear – you’re wrong about that. I think there’s a different type of rock that is harder, but also cheaper. It’s like, M-something? Let’s google it”. *plays dumb*
So we did, and while he was impressed by them in terms of brightness and all that stuff, he said they were too cheap. That’s right – too cheap. I was shocked! I thought he’d jump at the chance for a $500 dollar ring. But he said he won’t spend less than a couple thousand. Grrrrrr. I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but I don’t need a fancy ring. I grew up poor (and he privileged), and it honestly doesn’t matter to me if it’s not a diamond. But it really matters to him, apparently.
So, while I’ve been wishing and hoping that he has the ring, I highly doubt it. My birthday is in 2 weeks, his in in 3 (we’re going camping – I thought it might happen then). Our anniversary is in July, and then there’s nothing till Christmas. Le’ sigh, I just wish he would tell me SOMETHING. He used to talk about it all the time. Now all I get are prophetic “It will come” comments.
Ok, vent over.
Post # 16
@readynwaiting58: Yep, I know how that feels. I had to CONVINCE my SO that I didn’t need a $4k ring. I would take a freaking ring pop if it meant marrying him! He wouldn’t even look at anything but diamonds, even though the price still overwhelmed him somewhat. I don’t get it.
But *sigh* he’s going to do what’s he’s going to do. So, what can we do? I guess we sit and wait for it. I guess the good part is that you’ll have a beautiful ring and the man of your dreams.
Patience is a virtue, right? I guess I’m learning to have more each day. Besides I still love him more than anything and I’m very lucky to be with such a wonderful man. So focus on the good and try to put expectations out of mind. Hopefully it will be sooner than Christmas for you!