We eloped, and I can tell you most people were very supportive of our decision. My dad never said anything, but my mom made it clear she was very hurt and disappointed that we decided not to have our wedding in Michigan. She tried every trick in the book to try to manipulate us into changing our plans. Even my brother was on her side kind of, until I talked to him about it, then he said that we should do what we want or we would always regret it. My SIL said the same thing, do we we want or we’d regret it like she did.
I think it’s wonderful to have a big wedding with family and friends around. Sharing it with a lot of loved ones is special, and if that’s what a couple wants, then that’s what they should have.
Our wedding, aside from the mom thing, was stress-free. No wedding invitations or programs, not seating charts, no caterer, no band, no wedding party arguements or hassles, no dress coordination, no having to compromise to please someone else, no money worries…nothing stressful at all. Plus, we got an elopement package from the B&B we were staying at, so I didn’t even have to worry about any of the arrangements like finding an officiant, cake, flowers, etc. It was all taken care of except for the photographer and the videographer.
I would not change our wedding for anything in the world. I have absolutely no regrets about not having any family or friends there. It had everything that a large wedding has except the expense and the guests. It was sooooo intimate and romantic.
If you do elope, you’ll have people who will say that since your eloping you don’t need this or that. My mom said she didn’t understand why I needed a fancy dress to wear for strangers. Just remember, anything you do for your wedding is for the two of you. You decide what is important to you, and you don’t have to answer to anyone.
The ceremony is for the couple, not a show for the guests invited. Do what you really want to do, or you might always regret it. Those who don’t like it will get over it.