Post # 1
We’re going to Italy next week. We’ve been trying to go for the past few months and it’s finally working out that we can go. The issue? EVERYONE is expecting him to pop the question there. I know for a fact that he isn’t going to do that. I know some bees will try to say that he could be trying to throw me off, but it’s just not going to happen in Italy. I know our finances, and I know it’s not happening till after he gets his bonus in Jan. My mom has my whole entire gossipy family thinking that we are getting engaged there. Everyone I talk to says things like, “I hope to have a congratulations for you next time I see you.” IT’S ANNOYING!!!! I know it’s not happening there, I’ve told my mom it isn’t, but she refuses to accept it. It’s just kind of a buzz kill on the whole trip. I called my brother and told him to try to drill it into my mom’s head that it is NOT happening in Italy. Sorry, I’m just annoyed, and I’m trying to focus on the fact that we’re about to have an amazing vacation, but there is just this annoying cloud hanging over the whole thing…..
Post # 3
Don’t you LOVE when people try to tell you something that you know is just NOT gonna happen? Can you send out an email to your mom to forward to the family and let them know that while you can’t wait to become engaged, you are waiting for him to do it in his own time – Unless of course HE could tell her that he has something else planned? I can see where they would assume – it is Italy after all!
Just try to get her out of your mind and enjoy the pre-engagement trip!
Post # 4
Well here are the positives:
– you’re going to italy!!! How amazing and exciting!
– you know you’ll be engaged in the nearish future
– your family loves your bf so much they can’t wait to have him as a part of your family
These are SUCH exciting things. I’m sure this is really annoying to listen to… but honestly I would be so excited just to have a family who was HAPPY about me marrying my bf that I wouldn’t care if they bugged the crap out of me until he proposed 🙂
Post # 5
I totally understand how you feel and yes, you should be excited: YOU ARE GOING TO ITALY!! (JUMPING UP AND DOWN) Plus you are going with your MANNNNNNNN!! Girl, I would be uber excited!
When someone brings up the fact that your Boyfriend or Best Friend will propose in Italy just say, HIGHY DOUBT IT and laugh it off!
WHATEVER YOU DO, PLEASE GET EXCITED BECAUSE YOU ARE GOING TO ITALY!
(Maybe you can put me in your suitcase, I’m pretty petite) LOL
Post # 6
Yep, same sort of stuff happens here, though I’m fortunate that my mum keeps it to herself (ish), she just tells me after I come back with no ring! I know it’s frustrating, but I hope you have a BRILL time in Italy 🙂 walk around there until your feet are sore! (my friend got blisters from all the walking she did in Italy)
Post # 7
I totally know how you feel…I just posted about this today…I am going to Brazil in december and i dont think the ring is going to come until after that either! From the help of some supportive bees they just told me to enjoy the trip…and not think about that stuff and let it bother you! You are going to ITALY…and im going to BRAZIL with our SO’s!!! Nothing can beat that!
Post # 8
I love this website! I took a hot bath (with a nice glass of wine), and read all of your very sweet comments—not while in the bath, afterwards:) It makes me feel better knowing that everyone does deal with this, and I just need to quit being a brat and get excited that I’M GOING TO FREAKING ITALY with my man, and yes the engagement will come in due time….when it’s our time!!
Post # 9
OMG YOU’RE GOING TO ITALY!!!! I am thinking that is actually better than a proposal?! I mean you get to see the Italian countryside pretend you’re in the Italian Mafia (okay maybe that’s my dream) and walk around quoting scenes from the Godfather! You get to taste the wine and eat the food OMG I would come back 50 pounds heavier with an accent (remember when Madonna went to England and came back with a British accent?!) well that would be me. I’d be Italian spouting all sorts of made up words… It would be like the scene on Bill and Giuliana where he gave the toast! Yep that would be me 😀
Post # 10
You could play a joke on your friends & family and pretend that you guys did get engaged in Italy…
My then boyfriend, now fiance took me on a surprise birthday trip to Nantucket a couple of summers ago. Of course all of his friends expected a proposal. So… we texted all of his friends from Nantucket to ask them over to our house for dinner the following week. They took it as a sign that he had popped the question, and we wanted to announce the engagement in person. Ha! Actually, I had a ton of veggies in the fridge that needed to be used up, and I wanted to turn them into a giant pot of pasta primavera for a dinner party. Imagine our guests surprise when they showed up and I had no ring on my hand 🙂
Post # 11
crebre– you would not come back heavier. i studied abroad in Tuscany for 5 months and lost almost 35 pounds. Worst food I’ve ever had. And no, I’m not kidding.
I’m SUCH a foodie, and I was so dissapointed in the food in Italy. So I just drank wine and made the best of it!
Post # 12
@texaslawgirl: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO i refuse to believe it. most of my former coworkers were italian and omg their food was amazing!
Post # 13
@texaslawgirl/crebre- I lost weight in europe too! The first time I was there for 2 weeks in france and italy and lost 12 pounds! Although I didn’t think the food was bad really, there was just so much walking and not that much time to eat.
Make sure you get some gelato!!
Post # 14
My family did the same thing… my family spread it to all my extended relatives & they were all like “I hear you’re engaged!!” when I wasn’t yet. Oh my gosh I was so angry & annoyed with my then Boyfriend or Best Friend & the poor guy had no idea why.
Seriously, enjoy EVERY SECOND of Italy together!! Drink lots of chianti & enjoy some yummy pizza 🙂
Post # 15
Ah poor girl! My family did the same thing when the then boyfriend and I took a trip to my hometown Chicago to meet my extended family. EVERYBODY kept asking about, and guess what – it was a big let down when it never happened, and having 9,000 obnoxious czech relatives tell me how disappointed they were was NOT enjoyable! So girly, I feel your pain. I do hope you enjoy beautiful Italy – have some delicious food for me and as excruciating as it is, try not to think about it!! You’re going on a vacation!
Post # 16
I lost 10 pounds reaaaally quickly in Munich once…but then I went to Vienna, and Austrian chocolate shops and morning markets happened…
Enjoy Italy, and DONT WORRY about what everyone else says! I dont know why families are so anxious/questioning about it all…maybe because they just love us and they somehow know that we’re anxious too?!?! Just enjoy your time with the bf, and be happy in knowing that the proposal’s on its way. 🙂
And who knows…there’s always a teeny tiny little chance that your mom knows something you don’t…