(Closed) I showed my Fiancé my wedding dress :o uh oh..

posted 13 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Aug 2010 is a long time away, so my bigger concern would be you getting antsy about the dress. Most brides I know go through some second-guessing. But I wouldn’t worry at all about your fiance’s reaction. I think sometimes guys think they want a strapless so when they see straps they’re thrown off … mine has straps too … it’s amazing and he’ll love YOU in it. That’s a fact. Since you already ordered it, trying to cancel might be more stressful. I’d just move according to plan!

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I second Miss Burgundy and third Mrs. Bear.  Men, bless their poor stupid souls, just don’t know better.  My Darling betrothed made the comment how boring strapless dresses are and how almost no one looks good in them.  Needless to say, I have a strapless dress.  One look at my face and he started backpedaling like he was riding the Tour de France in reverse,  "Um, no, but I meant plain women, not like you, cause well you’re gorgeous and, um, see the thing is, um…I’m sorry?" 

Come wedding day, he will inevitably think I’m perfect, just as your fiance will. The dress is gorgeous, you will be gorgeous in it and he will grin and/or blubber like an idiot.  Go with your dress! 

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I say you try on some new dresses.  If you still can’t find any dress that compares to the original one you picked out then I say you wear that one.  If you find something new that you like better then cancel the other one.  In the end you need to be in the dress that makes you feel gorgeous and I’m sure whatever dress that is you new husband will love.

Post # 20
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Worker bee

First of all, I don’t think your dress looks like a nightgown. It’s very pretty.

Secondly, my fiance has seen my dress too, with me in it. It’s no big deal. If yours is anything like mine, he won’t even really remember the details.

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

This is why we don’t ask for their opinion! When they see it as a purchase, they see it as a regular item with a cost and features, like a car. When they see you in it, suddenly you’re HIS BRIDE in THE DRESS and everything changes! He’ll feel differently when the day comes, especially with a year to go.

Post # 22
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I kind of know how you feel.  I showed my fiance my dress too and he started saying little things that kind of hurt my feelings.  SOME men just don’t understand any of womens clothing. I think it is breathtaking! I think on that day by the time you get it on, and are all done up you will be the most gorgeus woman he’s ever seen! Just don’t show him anymore pictures, not even when it comes in, I bet even if you asked him now he couldn’t tell you any detail about it.  I think you should not fret about it, definately keep the dress, you know it’s the one! When it comes in and you try it on again your feelings will be re confirmed, I promise!  Everything will work out for you. Congratulations!!

Post # 23
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Wannabee

That dress is absolutely gorgeous! You should keep it. Dont worry, he will love you in it! Sometimes men judge the dress by the model wearing it, like how her hair is or something silly like that. When he sees the love of his life in that dress he will love it just as much as you do. Congratulations and best of luck with your marriage.

Post # 24
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Blushing bee

LOVE your dress!!! It is absolutely beautiful and I agree with the above posts. Guys don’t pick up on all the details, and often times have difficulty conceptualizing the dress, on you, with shoes, hair, makeup, etc. I say, stay with the dress, ignore his reaction (I know it can be tough!) and stick with your gut. You are going to make a beautiful bride!!!! 🙂

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Seeing your dress on a model and seeing it on you, in full wedding day glory, is completely different. Since you love it, and you know what it looks good on you…stay with it…he will love it too!

Post # 26
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Plantation Bay Country Club

This dress is seriously Gorgeous! It is always hard for men to imagine something from a picture on you. I’m sure it looks fantastic on you, if you love it, then keep it…or when it comes in..try it on for him and then show him. If he still feels the same way then sell it and look for another dress. My Fiancee saw tons of pictures of wedding dresses and could never imagine me in one. THey just don’t see the whole picture sometimes. Go with your guy. Your dress is amazing!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

This is totally something that would happen to me. I also agree with PPs.  My Fiance would look at the weird hair or makeup of the girl in the photo and somehow that would translate to the dress being ugly.   I finally had to cover up the heads of the models when showing my Fiance dresses in magazines. 

If you love it, wear it.  He will love it because you are in it.  Besides, dresses always look different in person anyway.

And for what it is worth, I think it is gorgeous, too.

Post # 28
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Wannabee

I showed my fiance my dress…all the choices for my dress and he hated every single one of them. Can’t say it didn’t suck, but I don’t care. I’m going to wear it anyway. You should wear what you want too He’s still going to think you look stunning on your big day once he sees you, even if he hates the dress in the picture.  I found that what helped my fiance "accept it" is showing him a youtube of it on the runway.  Hope this helps!

 


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Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

If you still want the dress and love it on you then keep it. Clothing rarely looks the same on two different people because we have all different bodies and we just wear things differently. AND guys don’t really understand that at all. It really is the same concept as the clothing doesn’t look good on the hanger but can look amazing on. Think of it that way.

Anyway, I showed my Fiance the dress that I was going to buy and showed a picture of a bride that was wearing it the way I would and he did not like it at all but when he saw the model wearing it, he liked the dress. When he expressed his dislike for the dress I was upset because it was what I wanted. Well I stayed with the dress. I love the way it looked and felt so it’s all mine. I am sure you groom will be absolutely in awe when he sees you in the dress and may not even recognize it at all.

Post # 30
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What do guys know. If you love your dress and feel beautiful and confident in it, then he is going to think the same when you walk down the aisle. If you love your dress than don’t worry about it! By the way it looks nothing like a nightgown.

Post # 31
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Helper bee

If you love your dress (your mom cried in it – so we know she does!) then don’t worry about his poo-pooing … the thing is – dresses look a whole lot different online on a model than they do when they’re on the bride and usually – the bride looks more amazing – because she glows in that dress. And I’m willing to bet you glow in your dress!!

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