- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
HIS texts sound innocent, as many have said – but you didn’t say anything about HER texts – were there none? That would seem very odd – as if they had been deleted.
The reason I ask is because we’ve been through kind of a similar situation, but in that case, the ex (their relationship, not marriage, ended 10 years ago) would send texts and write FB comments that were very flirty and constantly referring to things they had done together and making presumptions about what good “buddies” they still are. When she found out we were engaged, she even wrote him an email castigating him for not sharing that info with her first. (???).
He didn’t even reply to that message, and any messages he has replied to he has been friendly but very matter-of-fact and not at all flirty. I see his interactions with her as innocent, but hers are skanky and disrespectful of me.
I wouldn’t hassle him about it at all – but I would keep a close eye on her. If her messages to him cross the line, I would definitely point it out to him and tell him how uncomfortable she makes you, and ask that he cut off or at least down on any interactions with her.
If her messages are totally innocent as well, I don’t think you have a thing to worry about.