Post # 1
When we first started planning this, I asked FI if going to the JOP was OK and he said he wanted a wedding ceremony and reception. We both knew it would be pretty small (30-35 people) but even this has been a huge source of stress for me since we started planning this. I so wish it was over now.
Worst of all, despite the time and money (yes, our budget is small, but it’s a stretch for us), I just had one person take back their RSVP and now we have a total of 8 confirmed including FI and I. What a HUGE waste of money!
Now I just found out there will be a festival a few blocks away during that same weekend. It usually happens during summer but somehow the dates were changed to October. I live in the area and during those 3 days each year I have to park blocks away from home because of the crowds. I live around the corner from the venue and it will be a nightmare for my guests to find parking.
I can’t make it into a courthouse wedding now because my sister and mother has confirmed their attendance and my sis has her dress, shoes, etc (she’s my MOH). I also have deposits for a photographer, officiant and the venue so it would be a huge waste now. I still don’t have flowers, FI’s suit tailored, his shirt, license, dessert, etc, etc.
I thought it would be exciting but all I have is stress.
Post # 3
Oh sweetie take a deep breath. I just had my wedding last saturday and I am also in Portland , Or. If you need any help I will gladly help you.
I did my wedding all by myself with the help of my mom and sister, you can look at pictures to see what I did, and my budget was very small.
Let me know if I can help, we are in the same city.
Post # 4
@CARA1978: honestly, I stressed out to the max during my planning. There were so many hiccups and so much time and money spent, I felt like crying at the thought of it. I’m now looking back at the photos and smiling from ear to ear. It was a magical time. The wedding may or may not be worth it in the end, but your marriage will be! You are almost there, you will be fine! 🙂
Post # 5
I feel your pain! I wanted to elope or JOP. Fi wanted wedding though. So we are having one. It has been stressful and not fun! But as the day has gotten closer, and their isn’t much left on the to-do list, it’s starting to become fun and exciting. I hope things turn around the same for you!
Post # 6
@SnowBunny420: Awwww, thank you so much! Strangely enough, I’m stressed over the flowers. We’re only having bouquets (2) and boutonnieres but haven’t decided if I should purchase or DIY. I don’t need an elaborate display, roses is good enough for me.
Parking will be a nightmare. If you’re familiar with it, the Greek Festival will take place October 4-6 and its always a nightmare when it comes to navigating the area and parking.
I will check out your photos – thanks for the offer!
@Chelwilly: That’s what I’m hoping for in the end!
Post # 7
I live in a neighborhood with a big festival and people in our neighborhood save spots on the street using orange traffic cones. Does your venue have any parking?
Good luck to you!
Post # 8
@CARA1978: I was going to offer the same as SnowBunny420. I will send you a PM. If you like Dahlias, they are simple to arrange-with no thorns, and come in a great variety of styles and colors. We got these in Canby, OR @ Swan Island Dahlias. It’s worth the trip just to relax and take in the “field of rainbows”. They say they are open through September, but since your wedding is the first week of Oct. I would check to see if you may be able to get some before the first frost?? I think these were picked up Wed or Thurs before the Sat. wedding. Oh, and I think they lasted a week after the wedding. I think we paid $7 for a dozen stems.
Post # 9
@CARA1978: I am honestly so sorry that your RSVPs turned out that way. I hope the intimacy of 8 people will end up being really special to you. Is there any way to get some of your money back and scale it down? Of course, some people just don’t RSVP. More may show up than you think.
Post # 10
@CARA1978: Suggest to your guests that they park and meet elsewhere and take a taxi to your venue.
There is always a solution so don’t waste our energy worrying. I used to be a big worrier years ago, till one day I realized that all the worrying in the world never accomplished anything.
Post # 11
For only six people they shouldnt mind walking a few extra blocks, jusburry and be happy to celebrate with those who want to be there! The little things really don’t even matter
Post # 12
@CARA1978: That is what I did. I cut flowers because My Mom and sister made all my linens and napkins and embroidered them with flowers. Because people charge som much for flowers. My wedding and reception was outside and in a Park and Garden. I did not care about flowers, nor will your guests. They would much rather eat and drink and be merry.
Post # 13
Perhaps you could invite a few more people. It may be short notice, but maybe it would be worth a try. People will have to figure out parking. That sucks, but it is almost over. I am using fake flowers! Best of luck dear!
Post # 14
@Sophie78: The venue itself doesn’t have parking. There is a very small borrowed lot for the photographer and officiant but that’s it.
@creativeplannertobee: Beautiful! I will check the place out!
@MsW-to-MrsM: I will check with the venue manager/owner to see if we can scale it down some…
@julies1949: I will suggest public transit on the website. There is a way to come there via bus and light rail.
@ash064: Thank you! I would be worried about late arrivers but I will update the site to let them know what’s going on in terms of parking.
@SnowBunny420: I wasn’t planning on doing any flowers for the tables, just for the wedding party (4 of us total).
@bebelicious1: I thought about fake flowers too! I’m trying to come up with a few more people but all of my friends are in another state, LOL.
Post # 15
@CARA1978: Well, I hope you enjoy going to Canby. Like I said, I bought 7 dozen stems of flowers for $70.00– so much likely that you would need much less of them. I purposefully bought more than I thought she would need, because she didn’t know if she wanted bouquets for her or the bridesmaids. There were 8 tables, and I think there were 5 or 6 bouquets and some for an arch/arbor, and more left over! If you aren’t doing any for tables, you could probably buy 2 bunches, lol-and spend less than $20 easy!
Post # 16
I stressed out to the max during the wedding planning. Often wondered if I was crazy – why had I not just eloped?
The day came and it was wonderful. Wouldn’t change it for the world.
Are you still waiting for other people to RSVP or has your deadline passed? I don’t think it’s too late to invite a few more people. Generally, if you want a crowd of about 30, you have to invite at least 45. In any event, you can have a lot of fun with a small wedding. Do things differently and be creative.