(Closed) I sort of hated (yes, hated) my wedding.

posted 8 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You were an absolutely BEAUTIFUL bride!!  I love the sash on your dress!  I read your original post and was absolutely shocked about your dad’s behavior!  I’m SOOO SORRY!  In time, the pain will subside, but it is not fair that what was supposed to be one of your happiest days was such a sad one for you!  It would be wonderful if on your year anniversary, you could have some kind of big party/celebration, which could maybe help you get over some of your sadness/disappontment.  I’m so glad your family and friends were there for you! (HUGS)Smile

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You did look beautiful, and you can’t tell the anguish you feel in the pics. Hopefully, you will be able to let the anger aside and hopefully then you will be able to remember more of the wedding. At least you will have the pics to remember, and years down the road hopefully they will bring you the happiness you didn’t have on your wedding day

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry.  Honestly, I’m all for the ‘the worse the wedding, the better the marriage’ like Charlotte from Sex and the City says.  It being the happiest day of your live just seems like bunk to me, so that’s the happiest day and the rest of your life is all downhill?  That’s just depressing.

I’m so glad that your family and friends pulled together to support you during the difficult time.  Now things can only get better!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’m SO SO SORRY.  Maybe you and your husband can go somewhere special, just the two of you, and repeat your vows to e/o?  It might help it seem more real and give you a memory everything you promised e/o on your wedding day.  Hang in there.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with Amani. Get a few of your very closest friends (the people you can really really count on) and a meaningful officiant (priest, friend, brother, etc), find a quiet outdoor site with no one around, and repeat your vows. Make sure you have something wonderful to remember.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

When my mom talks about her own wedding day there are several things that didn’t go well.  It’s not always the happiest day of someone’s life like everyone says it should be.  I am a firm believer that a wedding is just a day… that the marriage is what you’re celebrating and that has just begun.  You have a lifetime of good memories to make with your husband, so get started! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

On the bright side, the pictures you posted here are really beautiful.  Most weddings don’t go as planned and there is always family drama.  I am sorry that you are disappointed.  However, you are married to the man of your dreams (presumably).  You have to let this bitterness go and focus on the positive!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I am so sorry that your wedding day went awry, but you look gorgeous in your pictures.  Congratulations on what I hope will be a very happy marriage!

Post # 12
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just want to say thank you for posting how you really feel. Sometimes things aren’t a fairy tale and that’s okay.  Those things should be shared too.  You look beautiful though. I’m sorry for what you went through. Try to look ahead.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Your wedding isn’t the happiest day of your life.  Too much pressure is put on it!  I spent my wedding day MENDING my gown after picking it up from the cleaners and getting sick I was so nervous and almost passing out while twisting around to do my hair.  Darling Husband and I were running around the room in our underwear when the photographer showed up- she was early, we were late- and he ended up helping me into my dress!  (He wasn’t suposed to see me until he helped me out of the car at the Chapel).  It was insane! 

At least you had family and friends there, you are so lucky.  Don’t worry if things didn’t go exactly right- this is life, after all!  Think of all you survived with your father and everything, and don’t worry.  Your groom looks awesome, and life is about a constant adaptation, not “one great day” and then you feel happy forever- that would be impossible. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

I think you should give it some time.  Darling Husband and I actually made a list of all the things that went “wrong” on our wedding day.  I don’t know what happened to that list, and I’ve forgotten most of what was on it.  By not constantly dwelling on it, all those details have faded and I only remember the big stuff now.  Give yourself time to “grieve” over what was done/not done and then move on.  In a year reconsider how you feel, it’ll be less new then and won’t sting as much.

From a fellow bride with a less than “best-day-of-my-life” HUGS!!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry it was so bad and there isn’t much that can change it.  You really do need to come to terms though with your wedding.  No wedding is perfect and while your wedding sounds like it was farther from perfect than most, you still got married to your husband that loves you and supports you.  Try to like MS said, make a list and forget about it.  

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Just today, my friend said, “the three biggest days in your life are your birth, your wedding and your death, and you only remember one of them.”

I didn’t know what to say to her! I’d like there to be other great days in my life, and to remember those!

Chin up, darling. Everyone else being horrible/stupid is not your fault, and while your day was not what you expected/wanted, it did what it said on the tin.

You got your fella!

Did you get a honeymoon to escape the asylum that followed?

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