Post # 17
Oh darling, you were so beautiful 🙂
It may sound cliche but the most important thing is that you married your guy. The flowers, your father, the money…in the end none of it matters. The fact is, you looked beautiful, your Fiance handsome as can be and you made it through.
Post # 18
I know this isn’t what you want to hear but you married your man and that’s the most important part!
Please try not to think about all the things that went wrong…I’ve been guilty of it too but beyond your father and step father fighting try not to worry about it.
If you DH and you still want to resay your vows again in 6 months then plan a small ceremony/re-saying of your vows for your 1 year anniversary
Post # 19
I just read the post about your Father and am so sad. How DARE he be so selfish! It doesn’t matter if you sent a text that upset him, or forgot to tell him the plan… he should have A) Put down the whiskey for a day and B) had his daughter’s best interests at heart.
That said, I think after some time passes, all of the little things that didn’t happen (and yes, they are all little compared to marrying the man of your dreams), will fade away and you will be left knowing that you are in a wonderful marriage.
I agree that your honestly is very refreshing! I truly wish you the best. It’s a tough situation to be in. Ugh.
Post # 20
I am sorry-but you are very beautiful in your photos, you made it through it, and you are married!!! I wish you and your husband the longest and happiest of marriages!! You both deserve it!! Save up for a wonderful first anniversary trip-something great to look forward to and a happy occasion to remember for always!!
Post # 21
Thank you all for your support. I know it’s really going to be like a grieving process, like MightySapphire said. Yesterday my brother told me he has not talked to our dad either (my brother took him to the ground to deter him from hitting my stepdad so my father probably thinks my brother “disrespected him too) and that “you’d think that because violence and alcohol feul the demise of his family. he’d have learned something.” It makes me feel good to know so many people are supporting me, even you guys!
I think I got myself so worked up for the “wedding of my dreams” that it completely floored me when it didn’t happen. I also think I got so worked up because of all the time I spent on wedding websites, which was HOURS every week.
I know the most important thing is that I am married to my husband, but I made the wedding into something it shouldn’t have been maybe. In 30 years, I will still have my best friend and I am trying to think about how that is the most important part of the entire thing.
I am definitely considering a vow renewal, something very very private and special.
Post # 21
hello, I just got married may 30 and am having the exact same feeling’s about my wedding that you described. I know this post is from some years ago, but I just need reassurance from someone who can relate, that it will get better. I still find myself being consumed with could’ve should’ve would’ve thoughts and sometimes crying about it. ..thanks for any help you can offer. …