- 4 years ago
My mom and I have always been super close; I’m an only child so we share a lot with each other. For the past year she’s been going through a lot: stress from a divorce and then c.diff colitis. From the colitis she lost weight rapidly, and she was trying to hide how sick she really was. She ended up in the ER a couple of times due to extreme flair ups and she’s been on medicine to try to manage it.
However, through the course of 7 months she’s lost well over 50 lbs. She’s 5’6 and can now fit into a juniors 0 and 00 slacks. She’s been at a 0 for a little bit and actively trying to put on weight. Her BMI is 15.5 and her goal is to get it to 21 or so. She eats, but the problem is that the flair ups still happen and when she gains 3 or 5 lbs, it gets undone, and this is a weekly sometimes bi-weekly issue. (Extreme, severe flair ups every other week or so.) The pain from these was so bad that She finally went to a Primary care doctor to do lab work since the ER visits and see what other medications are available to help.
This doctor is an idiot! All she goes on to my mom is how young looking and beautiful she is, and “look at that figure.” “you’re perfect!” Wait, WTF! What do her looks have to do with anything when she’s still losing weight and doesn’t have it fully under control. Then the labwork comes back and she’s reading it to my mom telling her that her body fat and triglycerides are so low. She tells my mom, “How lucky are you, I wish I didn’t have any fat to deal with.” I looked up the triglyceride levels and there dangerously low! I googled it right in the office and brought this to her attention. Now, she’s aware of the flair ups, colitis and former c.diff issues and has the ER records from when it was at its worst. And here she is praising my mom’s lack of health and telling her how great she looks! I spazed on the woman and really told her off. After that she just excused herself; She didn’t call in any new prescriptions or make recommendations. She told my mom to keep an eye on things and if she gets really bad she can always call 911 or go to the ER.
My mom was upset at how upset I got (I’m 9 months pregnant) and keeps pretending that she’s fine and doesn’t want me stressed. I told her to switch doctors and she keeps saying no, no everything’s fine, I’m better it’s ok.
Ugg, it’s not fine, she’s not better. I’m so angry that this doctor didn’t handle this better and now because I spazed on her, my mom is working harder to hide this from me.
I know she’s an adult and maybe I’m overstepping, and maybe shouldn’t have told the doctor off like I did; but sheesh.
Was I wrong for telling the doctor off? I feel like I made things worse. So now what.. do I just leave it go and let my mom handle it how she’s been or push her to see someone else?
I appreciate your advice! Thanks Bees.