(Closed) I Spazed On My Mom's Doctor

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
2130 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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seraphina :  I’m a great believer in the power of a referral. I love my PCP but I only found her after being bounced around for years getting more and more sick and having no one take me seriously.

If you have a doctor you like at all, I’d tell them what you’re dealing with and ask them to suggest someone. Preferably  a GI or infectious disease specialist.

Your mother’s condition is extremely serious, painful, and difficult to manage. She needs a provider that takes her care seriously; not someone who praises the result of her illness as a benefit she should be grateful for.

I would also contact the clinic manager, or, if that doesn’t get a response, the ombudsmen for the health system the clinic is affiliated with. Not only is her attitude inappropriate and deeply insensitive, it is dangerous and poor stewardship of resources.

No doctor should EVER dismiss preventative measures and suggest the ED or 911 as a first course of action. She’s failing to uphold her duty as a physician AND putting the clinic at risk for malpractice by dismissing legitimate concerns so glibly.

I’m so sorry you had this experience. As a person who struggled with a painful chronic illness for several years, I know how terrible it is to have a provider dismiss concerns or minimize potential consequences. Thank you for challenging this doctor; it takes courage to do so. I’m glad your mom has you to advocate for her.


Post # 18
2340 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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seraphina :  The doctor was being unprofessional and dismissive , so you shouldn’t waste too much energy worrying about whether or not your behavior was appropriate.  The only thing that matters at this point is your mom’s health. 

Does she have a gastroenterologist? If not, she needs to find a good one asap. They will be much better equipped than a PCP to manage her conditions. 

Post # 19
7222 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

If your mother had been there on her own the doctor’s cavalier attitude might have downplayed the severity of her health issues. Having you there consulting Google and calling out the doctor at least presenced the fact that something serious is going on.

That doctor was doing a shit job and inadequately serving a patient. She deserved to get called out and more.

Post # 20
1671 posts
Bumble bee

I think you are just concerned for your mum and that’s okay. If she doesnt like the doctor then she can get a new one. 

Regarding the “spazzing” it’s hard to say, maybe you can try control yourself more in future because I don’t think adults should really act like that. 


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