- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I still can’t believe he proposed! Mr.A and I have been togethe for over 5 years. We had been talking about marriage for a while, which I fondly called negotiations because we are both nervous going into this commitment. Both of our parents are divorced and remarried badly. We also had hoped to move back to Berkeley in a couple years, but this fall ended up being the best time. We were able to buy an amazing house. Part of the negotiations were that I did not want to move into a house with him without a ring, but I had not expected to move so soon. Being magnanimous (;P) I rescinded the ultilmatum. I did not think it was fair that our time frame moved up for him to increase the engagement pressure.
On Christmas we flew to New Orleans to vacation. The first 24 hours were amazing, we had the best food, met an amazing couple to hang with and things were just easy. I was totally relaxed and I told Mr.A how happy I was. I got comfy to take an afternoon nap in the hotel room. The rest is a blur. But I know that it happened because I have this amazing ring on my finger and I have this calmness in my heart knowing that my one wants to be with me forever.
Turns out Mr.A had been thinking about marriage very seriously before we even went to look at houses. He just found the incentive to give me the ring before we moved in so I could fully enjoy the house. I loved hearing all about how sneaky he had to be to pick out the ring and conceal it. He is very excitable and often gives me presents early because he can’t wait. I am impressed that he waited for a moment that would be good for me and I will always be grateful for that.
Since then I have loved reading the posts on these boards. I still can’t upload my pics because we are still waiting for the movers to bring up all our stuff. I can’t wait to start looking for wedding stuff, but need to first get moved in before I can seriously start planning anything.