Post # 1
So another Bee just posted about what makes a person an “adult” and it got me thinking. I am 22, getting married, am financially independant..but I still feel like a child. My Fiance and I have been discussing children and have kind of decided we would both like children in 2-3 years..so about a year after the wedding maybe..but I feel like I am a kid and that I wont make a good wife or mother! (even though I have had several friends tell me they think I will be a good mom) Im not immature (usually) so I dont know why I feel like such a child…does anyone else feel this way or ever have doubts about making a good wife and or mother?
Just a little example: Fiance and I were shopping with his parents and an announcement was made that they were holding a presentation in the store and that all of the adults in the store would receive a free gift, I said to his parents ” ooh I wonder what you guys will get!”..not even clueing in that I am an adult and would be getting a gift too..(it was a vegetable peeler btw 🙂 )
Post # 3
22 isn’t exactly old. Maybe you are still “growing up”. I know I was at 22. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that either. You are young, it’s okay to feel that way.
Post # 4
I think its a neubous thing thing. Right now I am starting a masters program. Fi is doing a doctorate. Because of this we still live seperately and have had to push back our wedding date. We work full time, pay all of our own bills ( for the most part, parents let us live at home rent free), and make “grown up” desisions ( ignore my spelling) like where should we get our health insurance from, and how long can i go with my car before my trasmission blows out.
If neither of us were in school, we would be working full time with our own place. That’s the olny thing that would change. We would have an apartment.
Post # 5
To me that shows your maturity level…you’re not overconfident…like the one post in the other thread that talks about the people that say ‘I’m so mature’ are usually not. At 22, you are bound to have doubts…heck, I still have them at 42! I remember when I had my 2 older kids and was in my late 20s looking at my kids and thinking ‘I’m a MOM!’…’Yikes!I’m a MOM!’. It still seemed (and still does at times) unbelievable.
Post # 6
I think it’s a day to day thing. I’m almost 21 (5 days!) and there are days I feel like I’m 13, unsure, goofy, and a hot mess. Then there are days I feel like I’m 30 (especially at work with the kids). I’m in control on those days and very calm and sure of myself.
We’re always going to doubt ourselves at times. It’s the human condition. We jsut have to figure it out as we go.