(Closed) I Suspect FMIL Stole Paperwork For His Name Change

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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WeddingBells2014:  Everyone else has made helpful tips on how to get the name change back on track. But I had two comments I wanted to raise: 1) Why is your fiance not taking more of a lead on this since it is his mother? and 2) Why are you both trying so hard to take her last name when she clearly doesn’t want you to? For example, why doesn’t he take your name if he doesn’t want to keep his ex-stepfather’s name instead of you both taking a name that his mother doesn’t want you to have?

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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nawella:  Actually that’s not true in all states. In my state I could only change my last name to my husband’s last name (the one that’s on the marriage certificate) or hyphenate, and there’s no spot on the marriage certificate to write a new name.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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WeddingBells2014:  It is so weird that his mother would care that much about his name change, and really childish that she would steal the paperwork to prevent it. Honestly if it were me, this would prove to me that I would NOT want to have her last name. I would completely leave her out of it from now on. And since it’s going to be such a hassle to get a new document and it probably wouldn’t be done before the wedding, and you’ll have to deal with a name change after the wedding anyway, I would choose a completely new last name for both of you.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You should be able to rush a copy of the document you need from the ministry. It’s not cheap, but it will get it to you a bit quicker.  I don’t have any advice about the passport. when does yours expire? I would think that you could wait until very last minute to its expiry date, and have one made in 24 hours. DHs was due to expire a few years ago, and we applied for his renewal one day, and picked up the passport 24 hours later. 

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