Post # 16
Everyone else has made helpful tips on how to get the name change back on track. But I had two comments I wanted to raise: 1) Why is your fiance not taking more of a lead on this since it is his mother? and 2) Why are you both trying so hard to take her last name when she clearly doesn’t want you to? For example, why doesn’t he take your name if he doesn’t want to keep his ex-stepfather’s name instead of you both taking a name that his mother doesn’t want you to have?
Post # 17
We live in Canada. I know there is the option to just wait it out while we get everything sorted but it is a huge bummer that I probably won’t be able to take on his name after we get married and will need to pay for a passport with my maiden name and then pay for another one within a year with my married name!
I am not sure if you live in Canada but it certainly doesn’t work like that. City hall has nothing to do with this, we need to deal with the provincial governement. There is no way around mailing out the request and waiting to get a new certificate back, and there is no urgency when you are getting married to have a name change go through (yet apparently graduations get urgency!). I will certainly be looking into that passport information since mine is expired and I’ll need to get a new one with my maiden name this year… I am pretty sure though that here you have to get a whole new passport to simple change your name!
Post # 18
He doesn’t seem to want to beleive that his mother would actually go into our office and steal a document without coming clean about it. We both would like to take on his mother’s maiden name and neither of us want to use my last name as his name would just be very odd with it. She has no problem with us being her maiden name, she just can’t accept that they actually got divorced and is convinced that both she and Fiance need to keep his name involved. We did seriously consider other options and this is the way we wanted to go.
Post # 19
Actually that’s not true in all states. In my state I could only change my last name to my husband’s last name (the one that’s on the marriage certificate) or hyphenate, and there’s no spot on the marriage certificate to write a new name.
Post # 20
It is so weird that his mother would care that much about his name change, and really childish that she would steal the paperwork to prevent it. Honestly if it were me, this would prove to me that I would NOT want to have her last name. I would completely leave her out of it from now on. And since it’s going to be such a hassle to get a new document and it probably wouldn’t be done before the wedding, and you’ll have to deal with a name change after the wedding anyway, I would choose a completely new last name for both of you.
Post # 21
You should be able to rush a copy of the document you need from the ministry. It’s not cheap, but it will get it to you a bit quicker. I don’t have any advice about the passport. when does yours expire? I would think that you could wait until very last minute to its expiry date, and have one made in 24 hours. DHs was due to expire a few years ago, and we applied for his renewal one day, and picked up the passport 24 hours later.