(Closed) I swear I’m going to kill her….

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Back out now!!! This chick is crazy! Tell her you can’t eat the cost of the flowers, and that you absolutely will not be paying for alcohol for the wedding (how did she even come up with that idea?), and that the bridesmaids plan a bachelorette that they can afford to host. 

Or just run like hell. I think I would run.

Post # 4
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

OMGeeeee!!! That’s ridiculous. Can you and the rest of the BMs get together and have an intervention? She needs to take off the crazypants. Having a wedding doesn’t suddenly make a person an empress. You are not her feudal serfs who have to pay fealty in the form of bridesmaid dresses and flowers and big nights out. Get your rampage on, Corilee13! This broad needs a reality check or at the very least a good shaking. Sorry you have to deal with this!

Post # 5
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6823 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would either back out or tell her straight up unless she is going to foot the bill you refuse to do any of it and will wear the ugly original bm dress. 

Post # 6
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9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Umm seriously you guys need to explain to her that you cant simply buy another dress. She asked for lavender and lavender is what she is gonna get. Personally I would just wear my lavender dress or step down. I wouldnt buy two dresses for one persons wedding just because she changed her mind.

Also you have to explain to her the even though she already paid you, that payment was for different flowers and if she was to change her mind now, then she has to pay extra for the new flowers

Post # 7
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

quit.  quit that wedding right now.  for real.

Post # 8
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

0_O I’m all about sticking things out through the end, but I agree. RUN, girl. Run…Next thing she’s gonna have you paying for is the reception itself, or HER dress. She sounds like a loony tunes Bridezilla, and you’ve got zero obligation to be treated like something she found on the bottom of her shoe. If she’s gonna be a nutcase and change everything and then blame you all for the problems she’s having with “her vision”, I’d tell her she needs to find a new bridesmaid… AND florist. Bite the bullet on the dress and flowers and get out while you still have your sanity!!!

Post # 9
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2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This makes me think of the anti-drug campaign in the eighties – Just Say No.

Seriously, she needs to hear it.  Tell her no to the flowers, no to the dress.  No.  There’s just no other acceptable response here.  She is so far out of line – if she wants to impetuously change everything at the last minute, she can do it on her own dime.

Post # 10
Member
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

this isnt a friend.  i would walk away from the entire thing and not look back.

Post # 11
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Corilee13:  If any of you bees hear about a crazed red-head on a rampage in Oregon, I was on here all night ok? 😛

Hahahaha…

Seriously though – run!!  This would be a friendship-ender if I or any of my girlfriends did these sort of things.  At the very least, I’d be telling her – so sorry, but I just can’t afford to be a bridesmaid in this wedding.  Since you’ve planned the flowers with her, tell her she can have the flowers the way you’ve already planned them, or she can find another florist.  She’s turning everything upside down already, tracking down one more vendor shouldn’t be a big deal at all!

Good luck, and remember – murderous rampages are bad! 😉

Post # 12
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921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wow, you need to stand up and tell her no. It was nice enough you were willing to buy another dress.. but she is completely taking advantage of you. It’s not your job to pay for booze. If is wasn’t you doing the flowers she would expect to pay the difference for them.. she has no right to ask you to pay the difference.  I would have a chat with her.. and if she doesn’t stop being crazy back out!!

Post # 13
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I can’t even imagine doing what she is going to anyone, much less my bridesmaids!  They’re supposed to be your best friends!  Gah.  Get the hell out of there.  Girl is crazy.

Post # 14
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Hoookay.  This lady is crazypants.

Friends don’t treat friends liek the hired help, and they certainly don’t mistake them for ATMs.

I would explain, in writing, that you’re very sorry but you simply can’t afford to eat the cost of the flowers, pay for alcohol and buy a new dress.  If she throws a tantrum you have every right to bow out.

 

Post # 15
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3166 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

wtfffffffffffff please. step down and RUN AWAY, BRIDEZILLA ON THE LOOSE!!!

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