Post # 1
Okay so this weekend I attended a heavily hyped wedding of a family member. She is somewhat of an “all attention must always be on me” kinda girl and has relentlesly hyped up her wedding for the two year duration of her engagement. Now don’t get me wrong I love talking about weddings and I know that every bride is excited about her wedding, but there is a fine line between excitement and flat-out bragging. Let’s just say that for the past two years she has taken absolutely every opportunity possible to talk about how fabulous her wedding will be, even going as far as announcing that 2011 was “her year.” It was just obnoxious.
Anyway, this weekend was her wedding weekend and I was excited to see her much anticipated wedding. When I got there I sat with another family member who loves the show “Four Weddings” as much as I do. Her and I without even thinking began *quietly* critiquing everything from the food to the decor to the DJ, and came to the conclusion that her wedding was not what we expected at all. It just didn’t live up to the hype. When I got home I realized that I didn’t fully enjoy the wedding because #1 I was disappointed and #2 I was too busy critiquing the hell out of it. Is this because I am planning my own wedding or because I am seriously watching way too much Four Weddings? Whatever the case, I realized that I felt really bad picking everything apart despite the fact that she kind of deserved it since she had been bragging for years about how her wedding was going to be the best wedding the family has ever seen (we are in the same family).
Have any of you other bees caught yourself critiquing others weddings? Is this normal?!?
Post # 3
@BlondieBrideGirl: urgh that is what im going through! i really have to give myself a reality check and realize that no one has a perfect wedding…esp me. i just try to enjoy myself..which is what i hope people do at our wedding.
I have also learned not to talk “up” my wedding. the day will be special to us because it is our day….but to everyone else it is just another wedding.
Post # 4
I do (in my head)… but I think a lot of that comes from planning your wedding & just looking at SMP and all the blogs. I was asked to be on 4 weddings and turned it down, because I didn’t want to actually do that when it came down to it (or want my wedding critiqued)…
Post # 5
@MrsStrawberry24: Agreed! I’m the kind of person who only talks about my wedding to someone who asks about it. I am too afraid to hype up my wedding for fear that it will suck! 😛 And you are so right….to everyone else it is just another wedding!
Post # 6
@chittychittybanebane: I would be SO nervous to go on that show! I love it but it would give me major anxiety. And I don’t like that it has turned me into a self-made wedding critic. Ugh!
Post # 7
I think it’s normal to make comment on what you would have done differently, and to chat amongst others. When I went to a wedding with my ex he went as far as to tell the bride and groom how rubbish this and that was… now that’s not okay (and extremely embarrassing)
Post # 8
Real life weddings are not a competition (to me), so there’s no need to critique them imo. I honestly dont think I’ve ever critqued a wedding I was attending and have only gone as far as to comment on if I liked the food or not, which is pretty normal since I always comment on food whenever I’m dining out.
Post # 9
@BlondieBrideGirl: i dont think its the show so much that made you do that but the fact that she very much hyped up her wedding and you were underwhelmed.
Post # 10
I don’t critique everything, but I do notice and compare it to my own. My Mom and I are bad when we’re together at weddings. We did compare a few (yes, I went to several this year, lol) and sort of use it as “I liked it when X happened” or “I don’t want to do X.” Just a learning experience…..right? Lol.
Now, if it’s a “hyped up” wedding then I can see myself being a bit more aware of everything around me. I had a friend get married this summer and she and her mother kept saying how amazing her super expensive cake was and dropping prices…and it didn’t live up to what they had made it out to be. If they had never said anything along those lines, I doubt I would have noticed as much.
Post # 11
@MASPA: I think you’re right! 🙂
Post # 12
@MASPA: I agree. I think it would be obnoxious to be around her for a year while she did that, so you were kind of expecting something much better/larger/grander, and that’s what caused it.
I dont’ really find myself critiquing weddings except if the food is like, horrible or non-existent.
Post # 13
@jo.lee: Actually it was two years. Ahhhh!!
Post # 14
@MASPA: Agreed. I think wedding party is just a way you share your happiness with all the ppl you know, I actually went through it, some of my friends hyped up their wedding and finally turned out not being perfect as they expected, but I just left it alone, instead they still had my blessings 😉
Post # 15
I don’t watch the show, but I’ve definitely fallen into the wedding critiquing trap. I don’t so much judge their choices, but compare these weddings to what I have planned for my own.
Hype in general is really difficult to live up to, so I guess a lesson should be learned… we shouldn’t try to hype up our own weddings lest we disappoint others!
Post # 16
I never critique a wedding either. But then again, I haven’t attended that many anyway.