(Closed) I think 4 Weddings has ruined my ability to enjoy a wedding :(

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@BlondieBrideGirl: urgh that is what im going through! i really have to give myself a reality check and realize that no one has a perfect wedding…esp me. i just try to enjoy myself..which is what i hope people do at our wedding.

I  have also learned not to talk “up” my wedding. the day will be special to us because it is our day….but to everyone else it is just another wedding.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I do (in my head)… but I think a lot of that comes from planning your wedding & just looking at SMP and all the blogs. I was asked to be on 4 weddings and turned it down, because I didn’t want to actually do that when it came down to it (or want my wedding critiqued)…

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I think it’s normal to make comment on what you would have done differently, and to chat amongst others.  When I went to a wedding with my ex he went as far as to tell the bride and groom how rubbish this and that was… now that’s not okay (and extremely embarrassing)

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Real life weddings are not a competition (to me), so there’s no need to critique them imo.  I honestly dont think I’ve ever critqued a wedding I was attending and have only gone as far as to comment on if I liked the food or not, which is pretty normal since I always comment on food whenever I’m dining out.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

@BlondieBrideGirl:  i dont think its the show so much that made you do that but the fact that she very much hyped up her wedding and you were underwhelmed.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t critique everything, but I do notice and compare it to my own. My Mom and I are bad when we’re together at weddings. We did compare a few (yes, I went to several this year, lol) and sort of use it as “I liked it when X happened” or “I don’t want to do X.” Just a learning experience…..right? Lol.

Now, if it’s a “hyped up” wedding then I can see myself being a bit more aware of everything around me. I had a friend get married this summer and she and her mother kept saying how amazing her super expensive cake was and dropping prices…and it didn’t live up to what they had made it out to be. If they had never said anything along those lines, I doubt I would have noticed as much.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MASPA: I agree. I think it would be obnoxious to be around her for a year while she did that, so you were kind of expecting something much better/larger/grander, and that’s what caused it. 

I dont’ really find myself critiquing weddings except if the food is like, horrible or non-existent.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MASPA: Agreed. I think wedding party is just a way you share your happiness with all the ppl you know, I actually went through it, some of my friends hyped up their wedding and finally turned out not being perfect as they expected, but I just left it alone, instead they still had my blessings 😉

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t watch the show, but I’ve definitely fallen into the wedding critiquing trap. I don’t so much judge their choices, but compare these weddings to what I have planned for my own.

Hype in general is really difficult to live up to, so I guess a lesson should be learned… we shouldn’t try to hype up our own weddings lest we disappoint others!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I never critique a wedding either. But then again, I haven’t attended that many anyway.

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