Post # 1
Hey Waiting Bees
So this is a vent more than anything, because there really is nothing to do about the situation. My SO has told me since Xmas that he had the ring in his possession but was waiting for a date he had in mind. We have no significant days coming up in our relationship, but he said it was wry soon. I’ve kept tight lipped about the ring and have just enjoyed our relationship knowing the ring was soon to be on my finger. Yesterday I was at the mall with my friend when she pointed out my SO inside a jewellery store. He was at the engagement ring counter because this is the store we went shopping for my ring. He was with a sales associate and looking at different rings. My first thought was that he was looking at rings because he hadn’t got mine yet like he said. I’ve been thinking for months now that he was leading me on to believe he had the ring. I went to the bathroom because I was so upset and couldn’t share this with my friend because I haven’t told anyone about the upcoming ring so it would be a surprise. When I met back up with my friend she was in the store, eavesdropping on my SO who didn’t notice her standing several feet behind him. She told me that he overheard my SO pricing out rings but it will still be sometime before he purchases to ensure he picked the perfect ring, she was ecstatic for me because she had no idea how close I thought I really was. WTF??!? Why would he lie to me and string me on like this? I though I was so close, guess not 🙁
Thanks for letting me vent ladies!!! And sorry for any typos, I’m on my iPhone lol.
Post # 3
Oohh how frustrating!! I guess this really comes down to what you plan to do with this information? On the one hand, he has led you on and on the other, he is moving forward and looking to buy a ring.
I would just take some time before you do anything so you dont react when emotional.
Maybe it is as simple as something fell through with the first ring purchase, or an expense came up that stopped him buying then?
Post # 4
Do you think there could be some problem with the ring he had? Maybe he changed his mind and decided to get a different one? Or maybe he only had a band before and was planning to let you pick out your ring?
Try not to assume the worst because we really don’t know what’s going on. I hope everything works out!
Post # 5
Well thats not the worst thing to have happen……find your SO in a ring store at the mall! lol but I understand your dilemma. At the end of the day you will just have to trust that he has good intentions in mind.
How did you guys both end up at the mall without knowing?
Post # 6
My friend and I were going to see Hunger Games but the show was sold out so we had about an hour to kill so headed over to the mall, and there he was. I know I may be jumping the gun, and I shouldn’t be mad he was looking at e-rings, I’m just mad because I thought he had it and that might not be the situation now. You ladies are awesome at calming a girl down, thank you for that. I’m going back to patiently waiting, if it’s sooner or later I guess he has a grand plan, as hard as it is to wait that’s all I can do for now.
Post # 7
I think it’s justified to be disappointed, assuming he truly did lie about having the ring. But keep in mind that it was probably to put you at ease that he does plan to marry you. I think it is very sweet how your friend said he told the associate it may be awhile b/c he “wants to pick out the perfect ring”…clearly he’s thought about it and wants to make sure it’s something you like. THAT’S a good thing! 🙂 Whether he had the ring or not doesn’t really solidify the date he asks…he could have the ring for months and then ask, or ask the same day he picks it up. Either way, he’s looking and planning!!
Post # 8
Oh my goodness, I’m sorry! I bet it was hard not telling her why you were upset, and watching him do something that you knew he had lied about… It can’t be easy. But as posted above, I do agree to take some time to calm your emotions, take a day or two so you can go to him with this information in a more calm manner.
It may not be happening today or tomorrow but you know he is out looking at e-rings on his own for you, it’s closer then you think and closer than many women are right now. Try to hold onto that before getting upset with him. Sure he lied and in a relationship lies are not very good, but he could have a good reason for this, it could be part of his plan to surprise you. You thought you knew what ring right? Well maybe he is trying to surprise you with a nicer ring, and making you think he already picked out and purchased one not as nice.
He seems to be putting thought into this, I’d say give him a little more time, He may really surpise you. I know it’s easy and seems right to be upset, but relationships are about giving and taking, and sometimes well just giving in when you know that’s the last thing you want to do. It seems like he really wants to do this his way, I’d say let him