- 6 years ago
So within a couple of months of dating we had acknowledged we would eventually get married. Sometimes we would talk about where we would get married or go on our honeymoon. Once when we were apart for a few weeks and I couldn’t sleep I texted him and asked him to tell me a story. He told me about our hypothetical 4th Christmas together saying that we would be newly married, in a new home, with space for a baby. Shortly after that we moved in together. I started getting pretty anxious waiting for a proposal which really bothered him because he said he wanted it to be a surprise, and exciting. He also wanted to make sure that I never felt likes he proposed to shut me up. So I tried really hard to stop thinking about it. It had been months since I said anything about it. This December will be our third Christmas together. Anyway, a few weeks ago, while I was half asleep, I said I wanted a baby, which I often do because I’m baby crazy. He’s fine with these comments and pretty much says, I know, it won’t be too long, we can’t afford it now, and agrees that a baby would be amazing if we we’re more financially stable. So then, half asleep, I said, “why don’t we get married?” he was really upset. He pretty much said, “why did you have to bring that up?” He suddenly doesn’t want to talk about it AT ALL yet is no less committed , or affectionate. He definitely hasn’t changed his mind about it. I realized that maybe he was thinking about, maybe planning? And I could have spoiled it? I remember my sister-in-law telling me that she asked my brother something similar weeks before he proposed (he already had a ring) and he was really bothered by it too. I know this is like their thing for the guy. And there’s so much pressure to do it right and give the girl a good story for her friends. So I’m wondering if he is getting ready to do it. I freaking can’t stand waiting much longer!