(Closed) I think he needs some help cutting the apron strings.

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It sounds like this is the first time you’ve lived together– definitely a big adjustment.  There’s probably not a lot you can do about the trip since it’s already booked.

Rather than tell him you want him to spend less time with his parents– what about planning more quality time for the two of you?  ie, make a plan to make dinner together, watch a movie, etc.  Hopefully that will help you feel more connected, and if you can improve your connection, a side effect may be that he spends less time at his parents’.

Post # 4
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If he hadn’t said those things about your dad “letting you go” would you still feel he’s spending too much time over there?

Absolutely tell him how you feel about his dad’s advice- money is more important as newlyweds right now. 

The tell him that you want to spend more time with your husband alone. 

How he applies to jobs is really on him, unless you think he’s not looking for a job when he’s over at his parents place. If that’s the case, more unpleasant conversations must follow. 

Post # 7
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

How old are you two? Has he ever lived by himself (not like a dorm, but in his own apt)? I know when I first moved out of my parent’s house, I spent a lot of time over there because it’s just what I was used to and I was having a hard time accepting that I was totally on my own now. Gradually, I realized I was okay on my own and spent less and less time over there. Maybe he’s having a hard time transitioning. And if I’m being totally honest, I’m 27 and sometimes still call my dad about some things (car trouble, things like that) instead of my husband. Old habits die hard.

The PP that suggested scheduling more fun ALONE time activities had a great idea. Anything to strengthen and emphasize your life together as a couple is a great thing!

Post # 8
9647 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i also agree with scheduling things to do alone together 🙂

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