I think I already know…..

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
Post # 31
1680 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

soshelp :  Just because you receive blood work, doesn’t mean you get your hormones tested.  I just had a blood test this week with 4 different vials of blood, and today when I asked my doc if my hormone levels have changed (I have hormone imbalances but these blood tests weren’t for that) she said she hadn’t asked them to test my hormones and asked if I wanted another blood test.

Have you started planning a wedding/set a date?  

You don’t sound sure where you want to go from here, so I would just not move forward with a wedding while you sort out what your feelings are.  Do NOT start planning a wedding until you are 100% that’s what you want (if it’s what you want)  My husband drives me insane with the “she’ll be right mate” attitude – he’s had a (tiny) fungus thing on one of his toes for 5 YEARS and it seriously disgusts me, but I still love him dearly, so I think there may be more to your feelings.

I suggest sitting him down and say I am not your mum, and you are a grown ass adult.  I expect you to arrange to have your lip and erection issues diagnosed by a doctor by the end of the month (or whatever realistic timeframe) as I expect my life partner to maintain their health.  then don’t bring it up again.  At the end of your timeframe if he hasn’t had it looked at, you know you communicated a clear and reasonable expectation and it hasn’t been met, well only you can decide where to go from there. 

Post # 32
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

you should really reconsider marrying him bee. a regret after it’s too late just won’t help

Post # 33
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

After reading your other thread it is painting a pretty sad picture. He won’t change for you, bee. He told you that. So unless you can love and accept him the way he is, do not marry him because you’ll be sacrificing your own happiness. 

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