Post # 1
Planning a wedding with your fiance is suppose to be fun and exciting! Well, it was for the first few months. Now, we have 5 months to go and I think I’m tired of planning. Don’t get me wrong, I am excited about it, but now I’m just beyond stressed!
My fiance and I have been fighting all week, mostly because he feels I’m not showering him with mounds of attention. I work full time, am planning a wedding, trying to keep everyone happy, taking care of our home, dealing with a married woman who I thought was a friend sending my fiance an inappropriate message, trying to lose weight for the big day, and I think his parents are upset with me for not including them more. His mom already got upset because she thought I wasn’t going to let her throw a shower…ugh, geez it’s not my job to ask you to throw me a shower and I would love nothing more than for her to throw a shower. Thank goodness we settled that a month ago. Oh, and I’m trying to help her find places to have our rehearsal dinner and my fiance is dragging his feet booking the dang honeymoon!!!
I’m tired. I’m stressed. I wish he would be a little more understanding. Yes, this time should be about my fiance and I and the relationship that we have. It is very challenging to juggle all these tasks, responsibilities, and emotions! Women are expected to be super heros, but I feel like I’m far from it. We have a great relationship that is 99% of the time a happy one. Why can he not focus on that..
Thanks for letting me vent 🙂
Anyone else having a similar experience?? What are you doing to keep your sanity?
Post # 3
Taking a year and a half to plan has made my life wayyyy less stressful. It wasn’t on purpose that we moved our date but getting those extra 6 months has been a life saver.
Post # 4
Ugh, YES. The last few month of planning our wedding was a torturous task. Darling Husband and I argued more than ever mostly because he didn’t understand how one needs to be detail oriented when planning a wedding. People would as/say things like “Don’t you just love this time right now?!” and my inside feelings were “hell no!” I just wanted it all to come together without any hiccups and it did. It was great, and now Darling Husband and I are back to being our normal selves but with the pride of being husband and wife, and have had a beautiful wedding. Not all brides relish/adore every second but you will get through it and be so glad you did (:
Post # 5
@atlbride2013: Second that. Just over a year and a half for us, and the only things I need to do still are DIY projects and other small things.
Post # 6
I’m extremely indecisive, so Darling Husband stepped in to help out with decision-making in terms of location and planner. Details? I handled it all. We were paying for the wedding stuff ourselves so even if anybody had input, nobody said it.
Post # 7
I hear you. Take a week (or at least a weekend) off from anything wedding related (don’t come on here, don’t go on pinterest, do NOTHING that has to do with the wedding). I did this a week ago and it’s amazing how much more free time you have to spend with your Fiance when you’re not constantly doing wedding research. Re-establish that connection with him then regroup on the planning.
Post # 8
This is why i am hiring a wedding planner!!! Sorry you’re feeling so stressed. Maybe take a week away from planning to recharge or deligate some of the tasks so you can spend some time NOT talking about the wedding with FI?
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! I hardly even mention wedding stuff to him anymore and I have most of the big details figured out. We should have a caterer next weekend and now flowers are the only big thing left. After that it’s just details left. The arguing stresses me out and makes me doubt if we are going to be ok after the wedding. I shouldn’t worry because we are normally a very happy couple except for these last couple weeks. I’ve taken a few weeks from planning to regroup. Maybe this is just a bad week.
Post # 10
Yes, the last few months can ride on you but it will get better. I had to take a week off wedding planning (or 2) just to regroup and do nothing about the 5-4 month mark. It was so relaxing and I got back to planning with such re-newed energy.
Right now, we’re on the little things with 25 days to go and fi is really dragging his feet on picking a song for his ceremony entrance. He had so much time and now he is being difficult about this one thing he really has to do and he won’t let me choose for him. I am trying not to rush him or stress him or argue with him but it’s really hard. And we have to find time to get all the music we want for the reception and I feel like he has no time for these things nor thinks of them as priorities. Men!
Post # 11
@future.mrs.c: you will be fine after the wedding. I def yelled at my husband saying that I worked long hours and all I do is wedding stuff in my spare time so that we could have the beautiful day that we BOTH decided to have , so his ass can put down the xbox controller help out and put stamps on the F*&$^n invitation envelopes.
We’re fine now, besides that I am so bored!
Planning is stressful and it sucks to feel like you are the only one putting time into it. Its a day for both of you! We had a talk when we got engaged where I said listen- we both want to have a big party for our family and friends, but its not fair that all this work falls on me. You have to help too. Its probably not too late to have that talk if you feel like you need to…