(Closed) I think I am about to snap…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2448 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Taking a year and a half to plan has made my life wayyyy less stressful. It wasn’t on purpose that we moved our date but getting those extra 6 months has been a life saver. 

Post # 4
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ugh, YES. The last few month of planning our wedding was a torturous task. Darling Husband and I argued more than ever mostly because he didn’t understand how one needs to be detail oriented when planning a wedding. People would as/say things like “Don’t you just love this time right now?!” and my inside feelings were “hell no!” I just wanted it all to come together without any hiccups and it did. It was great, and now Darling Husband and I are back to being our normal selves but with the pride of being husband and wife, and have had a beautiful wedding. Not all brides relish/adore every second but you will get through it and be so glad you did (:

Post # 5
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986 posts
Busy bee

@atlbride2013: Second that. Just over a year and a half for us, and the only things I need to do still are DIY projects and other small things.

Post # 6
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3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m extremely indecisive, so Darling Husband stepped in to help out with decision-making in terms of location and planner. Details? I handled it all. We were paying for the wedding stuff ourselves so even if anybody had input, nobody said it.

Post # 7
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hear you. Take a week (or at least a weekend) off from anything wedding related (don’t come on here, don’t go on pinterest, do NOTHING that has to do with the wedding).  I did this a week ago and it’s amazing how much more free time you have to spend with your Fiance when you’re not constantly doing wedding research.  Re-establish that connection with him then regroup on the planning.  

Post # 8
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3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

This is why i am hiring a wedding planner!!! Sorry you’re feeling so stressed. Maybe take  a week away from planning to recharge or deligate some of the tasks so you can spend some time NOT talking about the wedding with FI?

Post # 10
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2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yes, the last few months can ride on you but it will get better.  I had to take a week off wedding planning (or 2) just to regroup and do nothing about the 5-4 month mark.  It was so relaxing and I got back to planning with such re-newed energy.  

Right now, we’re on the little things with 25 days to go and fi is really dragging his feet on picking a song for his ceremony entrance.  He had so much time and now he is being difficult about this one thing he really has to do and he won’t let me choose for him.  I am trying not to rush him or stress him or argue with him but it’s really hard.  And we have to find time to get all the music we want for the reception and I feel like he has no time for these things nor thinks of them as priorities. Men!

Post # 11
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@future.mrs.c:  you will be fine after the wedding.  I def yelled at my husband saying that I worked long hours and all I do is wedding stuff in my spare time so that we could have the beautiful day that we BOTH decided to have , so his ass can put down the xbox controller help out and put stamps on the F*&$^n invitation envelopes.  

We’re fine now, besides that I am so bored!

 

Planning is stressful and it sucks to feel like you are the only one putting time into it.  Its a day for both of you!  We had a talk when we got engaged where I said listen- we both want to have a big party for our family and friends, but its not fair that all this work falls on me.  You have to help too.  Its probably not too late to have that talk if you feel like you need to…

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