Post # 1
Why is it that anything to do with weddings always seems to bring out some people’s “true colors”? seriously?
I my wedding is in 8 months away and I have been planning for so long already and now all of a sudden my bridesmaids can’t stand in my wedding because they just got engaged? I am so upset and so heartbroken I have been crying off and on all day!
I have grown up with my Bridesmaid or Best Man since I was a little girl. We have been there for one another through everything it seems, but when I got engaged things seemed to change, perhaps even before I got engaged, I was pregnant with our daughter and my Maid/Matron of Honor was so jealous because she was older than me and “your life is falling into place” as she would say. She was never there for me during my pregnancy and since she was my “bestfriend” I never got to share any of those happy times with her because of her attitude towards me. After I had my daughter she got pregnant within the year and all I heard was baby this, baby that, she was put into the hospital due to complications for a month and I was there with her taking her what ever she needed. She had her little girl premature, and I was there for her through everything. I was at the hospital during the scary times and the happy times. I gave her everything she needed for her little girl from clothes, to baby furniture.
Now with my wedding, she cried to her bf off and on for months saying that he didn’t love her because she didn’t have a ring, she got one now and all of a sudden she’s changed towards me. I just have no idea why I continue to be her friend, (well cousin actually). My wedding is just thrown on the back burner in my family. She is going around already demanding and giving oreders. I guess this is more of a pity post then anything, I consider myself to be a good friend, I try my best to be there for her, why can’t she be there for me? she’s like my sister to me, but she’s so competitive and so selfish? or am I the selfish one here? now I have to scramble last minute to find bridesmaids!
Post # 3
why can’t she stand with you just because she got engaged? i’m confused…
Post # 4
i’m with kitzy- are we missing something?
in terms of the actual friendship- there are a lot of these posts on here, and the answer tends to be the same: if she wasn’t a good friend before you got engaged, she probably won’t change once you get engaged. at this point, i think you need to make the decision as to whether or not you want to be friends with this girl, let alone have her be your bridesmaid.
Post # 5
Yeah, what are her reasons? Sounds like you’d be better off without her anyway!
Post # 6
I should have clarified…………she says she can’t be my Maid/Matron of Honor anymore because she has her own wedding to plan and she needs to focus all her time and attention to her own day……..but she called me this morning and told me to go to the bridal store today and put down a deposit on my bridesmaid dress…….……….after reading this and the responses what the he** am I doing? geesh, I need new friends, LOL
Post # 7
@weddingbeez79: um yeah. i reiterate everything i said before, but more vehemently now. this girl’s a beotch. get her out of your life.
Post # 8
Soooo she can’t be in your wedding, but you’re supposed to jump to be in hers? She is being completely selfish and rude. I would not want to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Post # 9
@weddingbeez79: UGH! What?! Where are you? I look good in a dress, but not good enough to steal focus. I’ll be there!!
Seriously though, sorry you’re going through this drama. Tell her to piss off. Maybe she’ll come around once she has had some by her lonesome to grow up a little bit.
Post # 10
is this for real???
And if it is, did you read what you wrote…and your question is what exactly????
Post # 11
That sounds like a toxic friendship. Get away while you still can!
Post # 12
She is just a bad person, it is not you at all. 2 of my bridesmaids got engaged while I was engaged, and it didn’t affect my planning or their involvement at all. I think it made it BETTER because they knew how stressful planning could be, and they were much more eager to help me!
Post # 13
I didn’t find your post that hard to follow, she sounds like a real piece of work. You should just tell her you can’t go try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses because you can’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding due to having your own 🙂 Maybe she will get the hint.
Post # 14
@weddingbeez79: WOW the nerve of people will never cease to amaze me. Wow. I hate telling people what do do with their relationships, but this one seems toxic, run!
Post # 15
With a friend like this, who needs enemies?