(Closed) I think I am totally selfish?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

why can’t she stand with you just because she got engaged? i’m confused…

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i’m with kitzy- are we missing something?

in terms of the actual friendship- there are a lot of these posts on here, and the answer tends to be the same: if she wasn’t a good friend before you got engaged, she probably won’t change once you get engaged. at this point, i think you need to make the decision as to whether or not you want to be friends with this girl, let alone have her be your bridesmaid. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yeah, what are her reasons?  Sounds like you’d be better off without her anyway!

Post # 7
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5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@weddingbeez79: um yeah.  i reiterate everything i said before, but more vehemently now.  this girl’s a beotch.  get her out of your life.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Soooo she can’t be in your wedding, but you’re supposed to jump to be in hers?  She is being completely selfish and rude.  I would not want to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 9
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586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@weddingbeez79: UGH! What?! Where are you? I look good in a dress, but not good enough to steal focus. I’ll be there!!

Seriously though, sorry you’re going through this drama. Tell her to piss off. Maybe she’ll come around once she has had some by her lonesome to grow up a little bit.

Post # 10
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7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

is this for real???

And if it is, did you read what you wrote…and your question is what exactly????

Post # 11
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That sounds like a toxic friendship.  Get away while you still can!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

She is just a bad person, it is not you at all.  2 of my bridesmaids got engaged while I was engaged, and it didn’t affect my planning or their involvement at all.  I think it made it BETTER because they knew how stressful planning could be, and they were much more eager to help me!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didn’t find your post that hard to follow, she sounds like a real piece of work. You should just tell her you can’t go try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses because you can’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her wedding due to having your own 🙂 Maybe she will get the hint.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@weddingbeez79: WOW the nerve of people will never cease to amaze me. Wow.  I hate telling people what do do with their relationships, but this one seems toxic, run!

Post # 15
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

With a friend like this, who needs enemies? 

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