(Closed) I think I betrayed my friend (long, sorry)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It sounds like they are stuck in the highschool drama stage. Let them hash it out and stay out of it. People’s lies can always come back to bite them in the booty.

We all think about the past and the things we used to do: I love talking about old times with my buddies. You’re not a bad person for doing the same. You didn’t do anything wrong.


I think you should distance yourself from them and don’t be so emotionaly invested weather their friendship makes it or not. It’s not healthy for anyone.

Post # 4
3770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Wow, crazy drama!  I don’t think you did anything wrong by telling your friend the lies that you heard.  You don’t need to explain or apologize anything; this is between your two friends and them only.  You are ony the messenger and you really did nothing wrong except for tell the truth.  Let them hash it all out themselves.

Post # 5
717 posts
Busy bee

if this Courtney girl has been making up malicious lies about Samantha for years, then it doesn’t seem like much of a “friendship” that should be sustained.  how do people get away with telling crazy lies like the ones you described…?  beyond me.

Post # 6
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

You didn’t do anything wrong!  That’s like if I said, “Omg Jessica, remember the time you and Becky got drunk at Roache’s???” You thought it was true.  You had no way of knowing it wasn’t!  People talk about the past all the time…

Courtney sounds like a real piece of work.

Post # 7
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I once accidentally outed a ‘friend’ for cheating on her boyfriend some time in the past — I thought they’d been broken up at the time, and the boyfriend asked me about it a year or so later and I responded something like “oh, so you heard about the whole ____ incident?”  Turns out they were together when it happened, and I was the first person to confirm to the bf that his gf had cheated.

Girlfriend calls me up and screams at me for betraying her, and much like you, I felt pretty badly about it, as if I had done something wrong.

It wasn’t until I had more years under my belt that I realized that HELLO, she is the one that CHEATED! She’s the one that did something awful, not me! So don’t feel bad in the least — Courtney is the one that effed up and Courtney needs to face the music. I agree with PP that you shouldn’t get involved, but if it comes down to it, stand by your word. YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG.

Post # 8
745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Let the two of them work it out between them, and don’t beat yourself up about it. 

Post # 9
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

How can it be your fault that you believed what this Courtney girl said – if she didn’t mean for people to believe it, she wouldn’t have said it, would she? If their friendship fails, then that’s probably a good thing – I’d be devastated if a friend of mine was talking about me that way and I never knew.

Post # 10
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Don’t go, it could just be more drama. It sounds like high school to be honest. I think I would look for more mature friends.

Post # 11
8430 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with PP’s but my concern would be that since Courtney is allegedly a master manipulator whose to say she wont turn this whole thing around on you?

Post # 12
1796 posts
Buzzing bee

You didnt do anything wrong babe, that Courtney girl sounds like a real peice of work.

Now Im curious. How did it work out?

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