Post # 1
I recently got engaged 10/15/11.
3 nights ago. My sisterd boyfriends sends me a messge saying he has a question. (I think engagement for her.) Come to find out I was right! He wants to ask her on x-mas! I am happy for my sister! She deserves to be happy like I am.
My Fi and friends (A.) think I am nuts because I am happy for her, being that I only got engaged in October. They say its steeling from me. I don’t feel that way. Exp cuz her engagment will be totally diffrent from mine, with her own story. We also live 2 hrs away and barly see each other, so not like we are going to try and out due eachother.
(B.) He wants me to help pick out the ring. I’m all for it! I fell honored that he wants my help. Exp since my sister and I are not as close as most. Its been better since we were kids in high school. They think I am manly crazy because I want to help, but he wants to get her something like my ring. Well, they can’t afford my ring tho,… so her ring will be diffrent in ways. I have also, been sending pics to him of a diffrent cut (non- princess)
I don’t think in any way that I am crazy for being supportive… AM I? Would you ladies do the samething?
Post # 3
I definately think you did the right thing by being happy and wanting to help. Noone is going to steal the spotlight on your day and we all share engagement time 🙂 Good for you for being a good and happy sister. Plus this time might bring you guys closer together! Congrats to both of you!!
Post # 4
I think you are a very kind and selfless person to act the way you are. Your sister is lucky to have such a caring and supportive sister. Congrats to all!
Post # 5
I think you are doing the right thing! I mean, its not like she got engaged the same time you did and I think that her guy asking for your advice is so sweet.I don’t think that you are crazy at all.
Post # 6
I can’t believe your friends are telling you you’re crazy for being supportive! That is definitely the exact opposite of how this situation usually goes down. Are you sure they’re not saying it out of impressed surprise? Like: “Really? You’re not upset about this!? [That’s so mature and respectful of you!]”
Post # 7
I have never understood the whole idea of people thinking that just because someone else gest engaged it “steals your thunder”. You did the right thing. Of course you should be happy for your sister. I got engaged the weekend before my friends wedding- she was happy for us. It sounds like this could be a great opportunity for you and your sister to get closer sharing something this important in your lives at the same time. have fun!
Post # 8
No, They think I am totally crazy… like loony bin crazy! They think I should talk him into waiting a while. Not, saying waite until I get married cuz thats not till 2013, but at least having him waite like a year or so. Giving me a lil time to have some glory. Saying that when I do go home, all the attion will still be on her. I think that me coming home when I do, I will get more then enough attion from my family.
Yes, I think that in ways that it will help bring us closer. If not then it is what it is.
Post # 9
I think it’s great that you are excited and want to help! Your friends are just displaying what has become an all to common reaction, jealousy.
Post # 10
I just realized that I voted no (meaning you are not crazy) but I guess I should have voted yes – that I would have done the same thing as you! You are NOT crazy!! Congratulations to you!! : )
Post # 11
I think it’s great that you are excited for your sister! There’s no reason not to be. I understand brides wanting a little bit of time to bask in the attention a new engagement brings – but by the time your sister’s Boyfriend or Best Friend proposes, you’ll have been engaged for well over two months. That’s plenty of time to be the “newly engaged person” in your family.
Don’t listen to your friends. You sound like a great sister!
Post # 12
I wish my sister was as nice as you are! The same thing happened to us (she got engaged a few months before me) and she was a nightmare. She became super passive aggressive and just stopped talking to me completely, meanwhile I kept hearing rumours she was mad that I ‘stole her thunder’. It was such a shame because we could have been using our engagements as an excuse to bond and get closer.
Post # 13
My sister got engaged a month after me and I was so excited! Personally I think your friends are the ones being a little rude and crazy!
Edit: Just saw your update. I’m sorry but they think you get a whole year to celebrate your engagement and have that glory? That’s ridiculous! No offense, but when a friend or family member gets engaged I’m happy for them but then the world moves on. Do they honestly think that people are going to be excited about an engagement longer than a few days? Yep I’m sorry, you are so in the right. Your friends need to come off the crazy train.
Post # 14
@ffemt: I think it’s awesome that you’re so excited for your sister. Though it wasn’t my sister, my BFF and my roommate both got engaged just before me and right after me. I couldn’t be more thrilled for both of them. I think it really speaks of your character to help your sister’s boyfriend in picking out the ring and being genuinely happy for the two of them. You’re a great person!
Post # 15
I have no idea why anyone think you’re crazy for supporting! I mean it’s your sister! I don’t think there is anything wrong with you being there for them… this isn’t the movie Bride Wars… It’s real life!
Post # 16
You are definitely in the right here – your friends are being weird, frankly!