- 7 years ago
Here’s some background information: Before I was born and when I was little, my aunt was married to her daughter’s father. They got divorced about 12-15 years ago (can’t remember why), and 9 years ago she remarried. My aunt is a very sweet, calm, caring person. In contrast, her now-husband is loud, opinionated, overbearing, and often rude and/or drunk. He can be kind and caring when he wants to be, but when his bad side comes out, it seems like no one wants to be around him, but they give in and give him respect anyway because he can’t be reasoned with. He also seems to take everything my FH says the wrong way, and he yo-yos back and forth between saying he’s not too fond of my FH and saying he’s okay with him/acting like they’re best buddies.
Now I live with my aunt and uncle. Today, he unexpectedly took a day off work while she went to work (they work at the same place). When I went to the kitchen to make a snack, he was watching TV, and he got up and asked me if I missed my FH yet. (My FH and I are doing really well, so we decided it would be cool to try spending time apart, and he went away to work for his dad for a few weeks.) Then he went off about how my FH is “overbearing” (sometimes he is, and he can admit that, but we agree that my uncle is probably the most overbearing person we know). I simply replied, “Sometimes.” He said, “Pff, just sometimes.” After criticizing my FH/our relationship some more, he went back and sat on the couch.
My aunt got home about half an hour ago and appears to be making dinner all by herself (this is one of the rare days at this time of year that she doesn’t have to work overtime), just as I often wash dishes by myself while my uncle watches TV, hangs out in his man-cave, or goes out drinking with his buddies. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him help her with anything, he keeps things from her, and he calls other women beautiful, and yet, from what I observe, they get along great. I don’t get it.
I also don’t want to not invite my uncle to our wedding, but I’m afraid that if I do, he’ll go around making negative comments or getting drunk and acting out of control.