Post # 1
OK guys- I know it’s super early (we’re looking at an August 2011 wedding), but after stalking this dress online for almost a year. I did everything from finding every picture I could possibly find online, trying on gowns that looked like it but not quite and just being disappointed. But last week, I finally tried on my dream dress.
I never thought I would have a "dream dress" – I’m the most indecisive person I know!! But when I showed it to my mom, the bug bit her and she urged me to find it locally to try it on. After calling 22 – TWENTY TWO! – bridal salons all over the state, all of whom didn’t have a sample, I found a store about an hour away that had one- in white, and in my size! When I saw myself in it for the first time, I cried! I never thought I’d be the type… even my mother teared up a bit!
I also tried on other gowns that night, but I ended up comparing every one to the dream dress, and almost a week later, all I can think about is the dream dress – I don’t even remember a few of the other ones I tried on!
So here’s my question: do I go for it? With almost 2 years to go til the big day? I’ve been stalking this gown for months, and worry that it may be discontinued soon – this style is supposedly a few years old, and a few shops I called looking for it mentioned that it may be discontinued soon since it’s almost 4 or 5 seasons old… help me out, hive!
Post # 3
it’s lovely, congrats! My advice would be: would you regret if you didn’t get it? You can always try and sell it later on if you change your mind, but if you think it’s going to be discontinued and you decide a few months from now you want it, you might not be able to get it. Basically, it seems easier to get it now and possibly have to get rid of it if you change your mind, than to not get it now and not be able to find it if you decide you do want it down the road.
Post # 4
I personally would wait. I am just 9 months away from my wedding and I’m waiting as long as possible to order my dress because I’m afraid I won’t love it as much come July… but maybe that’s just me. For me, the dress isn’t going to make or break my wedding day. But if it is super important to you, maybe you should take the plunge.
But from a practical standpoint, you might want to nail down the overall feeling you are going for with the ceremony and reception (modern, classic, vintage) and what the venue will be (outside, ballroom, fire hall, etc.) before you purchase your dress.
Questions I’d ask myself:
1. Would I have liked to wear this dress 2 years ago? Will it still fit my personality and likes/dislikes in 2 more years?
2. Is it within my budget, even if I have to resell the dress and take a loss?
3. Will I still fit in the dress in 2 years?
4. Why do I love this dress so much and why have none of the others compared?
5. Did I try on enough dresses to know this is the style and exact dress that I want?
How big is the bridal store? Sometimes if you buy a sample, the store will let you change your mind and put the money towards another floor sample… but maybe not if it is a couple of seasons old. Figure out exactly what your options are.
Post # 5
Go for it.
The what if would suck, especially about your dress for The Day.
Post # 6
I personally would wait too unless you are ABOSLUTELY sure, no doubts what so ever. August 2011 is a looooooong ways away and I would hate for you to spend so much money on something that you might change your mind about!
Post # 7
I’d go for it if I were you.
Post # 8
if you’ve already been stalking it for a year it sounds like it’s the one for you! go for it!!
Post # 9
I think I’d wait, too. Two years is a loooong time, and your taste might change as you go further into the preparations. So much can happen in two years, from wedding style changes, to personal changes.
Post # 10
I’d say get it. It’s not the only one you tried on and you’ve been “stalking” it for a year. It’s easier to change your mind and get a new one 8 months from the wedding than it will be to be wishing you had it on your wedding day. It’s not like you can’t get it altered closer to the day, either.
Post # 11
I was in the same boat as you. I was getting married two years from now..in May
and to be honest, my dream dress is in my closet at the moment and I have a year and eight months to go.
Go for it! Just make sure you buy a breathable garment bag to store it properly.
If weight goes up or down: wedding gowns usually allow 3 sizes so you can always have it alter.
I wasn’t worried about that because I don’t really go up and down on weight too much and I knew I wasn’t going to change my mind.
Post # 12
thanks so much guys! honestly, every time I even click on this post and see the picture, my heart starts beating faster and I don’t realize that I stop breathing, lol!! I found it on ebay a few days ago too, and I immediately got that rush of “omigod, no one else can have it, it was made for me!” While I can understand tastes and styles changing, it’s hard to argue with that reaction! I’ve tried on a lot of other gowns, but this is the only one that makes me feel the same way I do about my Fiance!! 😀
I’ll keep you posted if (or when) I get it!
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2018 - The Venetian
your dress is gorgeous and perfect. congrats on finding the one~! i actually cried when i found my dress as well.