Post # 1
I fell in love with a dress the first time I went shopping. I was totally in love with it and my two BM’s were almost in tears they loved it so much. I love it because it is a little less traditional but still a beautiful wedding gown. After thinking about it NON STOP for two weeks, I went back with my mom. And she didn’t think it was as flattering as some of the other dresses I have tried on. It was so disappointing! I mean, I really can’t stop thinking about it. But once your mom tells you your hips look big (and I really don’t have much hips to begin with) it is really hard to have confidence in something! There are about 6 other people who have seen me or a picture of me in the dress and all say I look really thin and LOVE IT. But now I have to convince my mom! Or, do I say forget it and try on dresses that she likes just as much? She is paying and I really want her to love it. Here is a link to the dress. Ugh.. it is so beautiful.
I also love that it has two rosettes in front (which I did not expect to like!). But wouldn’t it be great if the BMs could have little rosettes on their dresses too?! Or even better maybe a cute headpiece?
Thoughts on the dress? Thoughts on what I should do?!
Post # 3
It is really beautiful! What kind of wedding are you having? Is it destination? Outdoor?
I wonder if your mom didn’t have a mental image of a more traditionally structured dress. She’s probably thinking "Ah you should show off your beautiful figure more…"
But if you love the dress so much (and who wouldn’t really!), I would talk to her about what she’s thinking and what her concerns are, to see if there is a way that she could be more pleased with your choice.
Post # 4
I love this designer and I LOVE this dress! You must have it if it’s in the budget.
My mom and I had totally different visions of what my dress would look like. She likes heavy beading, poufs, etc. And I wanted something with simple fabric details – like the dress you want.
Ultimately, pick the dress you love. If several other people (who you can trust to be honest with you) say you look great, then it must be true.
Post # 5
You are absolutely right doctorgirl! We had tried on probably 15 dresses that showed off my body that my mom loved. And then this one she wasn’t so sure about because it is definitely more flowy. I think that is why I like it! I just want to make sure that it looks good from all angles. I actually originally wanted a destination wedding, but decided against it because a lot of people I wanted to be there couldn’t afford it. So we are getting married where we live in Manhattan. The space has an outdoor wrap around terrace but it is indoors. Maybe that is why the dress is my style, because it is a little destinationy isn’t it!? I really think its the one, I can not stop thinking about it!
Post # 6
Thanks poli2B! That is the encouragement I need!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I think that dress is unreal gorgeous!! If it’s the one you love, then get it because otherwise I think you’ll end up not liking any other dress as much and it’s your wedding day, you should be head over heels in love with your dress! (As well as your fiance, ha!).
Post # 9
Ooooooh, I LOVE that dress. So flowy and gorgeous! If it makes you feel beautiful, and you like how you look in pictures of it, and it fits in your budget, I say get it!
Post # 10
I really dislike this trend of having to find the dress that is "The One." If it makes you feel beautiful and is within budget, then go for it.
Post # 11
oh goodness, how perfect!
Come the wedding day, your mom (and fi) will think you look stunning in a paper bag, for some reason they just tend to like to give us advice and opinions when we’d rather them say "how lovely dear, RING it up!" 🙂
It is stunning! And I think it is important to hear opinions of others but ultimately choose yourself what you want to be wearing on your big day!
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
Is it possible to wait a week or so and see if you see things more objectively? I’m not saying your mom is right. But if you’re even the slightest bit worried…
The POB/Melissa Sweet collection has some floral detailing. Have you seen the "cosette" dress (without the bolero)? It’s beautiful! Or even the Cosimma dress?
Also there are several other designers who make an empire waist organza dress with a rosette in front (Amsale is one of them; Maggie Sottero has this one).
Do you have a picture of yourself in the dress?
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
That dress is gorgeous and so unique! Who cares what your mom thinks? The dress is about YOU! There are some things you can compromise on for the sake of what others wants, but I don’t think the dress is one of those!
Post # 14
yah well its nice that your mom loves your dress, the most important person that needs to love the dress is YOU!
Post # 15
You love the dress – go with it!!! Think of all the supermodels, or girls that have supermodel bodies, that go Ballgown dresses. You think you can see their slim hips, and do you think they care? No, they feel like princesses!
Post # 16
It’s not about which dress makes you look thinnest or is the most flattering on your hips, it has to make you feel like a beautiful bride which this one obviously does. It’s a gorgeous dress, I say go for it! It’s understandable that you’re hesitant because of your mom, but remeber, you wouldn’t shop at the same stores so you have to take her opinion with agrain of salt.