(Closed) I think I got the short end of the stick…

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
7219 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sofialovesmikey:  Did I read that wrong? You’re upset that they are picking presents FROM your registry? Like- they are buying you things they know you want, like & need? This is exactly the opposite of everyone else’s complaints here.

I say take it as a testiment to your taste. The only time I buy something not on the registry is when I look at what they’ve picked and deem it all hideous. 

Post # 4
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@sofialovesmikey:  I got married last year.  It was not a secret, though I didn’t invite anyone from work.  One week I left on Wednesday and came back the next Tuesday with a new name.

“Oh that was this weekend?!  We should have taken you out for lunch or something!”  (My boss did give me a generous gift)


My assistant is having a baby – soon.  Last week we all went out for lunch and all the guys chipped in for some gifts for her.  I got her my own gifts weeks ago.  When another guy in our group married, it was like pulling teeth to get them to sign a card for him and give $5 for a gift.  They were more willing to give the $5 (some more) a year later when they had a baby. 

So… have a baby?  At least you get something and they care a little.  🙂

Post # 5
2958 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

You are looking a gift horse in the mouth. You picked those items. If you wanted them to be creative you shhouldnt have registered.

Post # 6
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Perhaps they would all pitch in for a big gift if you had one on your registry instead of small simple things. They are doing the next best thing and buying you lots of little things. Who knows maybe with all their powers combined they are going to put it in a nice basket sign you up for cooking classes for you and your FH…I’m grasping here, but also trying to point out you dont know what their final gift is. And even if it is just those simple things off your registry at least they got you something other than pat on the back.

Post # 7
3572 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should re-read your own post several times.  And really think about it.  REALLY think about it. 

1. you are getting married
2. you have a job
3. they are buying you gifts for your wedding. 

Post # 8
3686 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t understand:

1. Why you registered for gifts you apparently don’t need or want.

2. Why you’d be upset that people were buying you gifts that you asked for.


Post # 9
9199 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@MrsTVLover:  +1

I understand a tiny bit, OP.  You feel a little left out compared to what they do for others in your office.  But look at the big picture here….

Post # 10
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sofialovesmikey: Perhaps your co-workers have done something similar to what they did for the other bride in the office – you could have something waiting for you during your honeymoon. Maybe they’re passing your registry around as a ruse. 

That being said, you should be happy your co-workers are doing anything for you. Unless it’s a condition of being employed at your office, they don’t owe you anything.

Post # 11
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Why register for gifts if you didn’t want any?  That’s kind of contradictory! 

Post # 13
1420 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Am I understanding correctly that you expected them to pool money together to have some lavish gift/event/etc for you, and are disappointed that they’re only buying gifts off of your registry?  So you feel like because they aren’t putting in as much effort (I guess??) that your wedding is not as important?

Post # 14
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think peopel are being a bit hard on you here.  Your coworkers have set a standard of going above and beyond for things and being very creative, but have gone a more low key route for you.  It’s only natural to be a bit confused and feel singled out because this is out of the normal for them.  I’m sure they didn’t really mean anything by it.


Post # 15
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Kit_Kath:  +1  The other comments are definitely harsh!

OP, I totally understand feeling upset that your coworkers seem to be putting less thought into your gift than they did with others. It would make me feel like they didn’t care for me as much.  Maybe the other people had honeymoon registries or didn’t register for anything?

Post # 16
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Why would you register for stuff you don’t want? That just baffles me.

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