Post # 1
So, I’m not getting married for gifts. I’m having a big wedding so my absolute favorite aNd most loved people can witness our commitment to each other and I get to celebrate with them. I do not want gifts, I absolutely do not NEED gifts. i have registered at target for some small, random kitchen nonsense that I don’t even need, just for the traditional gift Givers.
That being said, I’m upset that my coworkers are all buying gifts off my registry. I know this sounds shallow and ungrateful, but hear me out.
Whenever someone in our building gets married, has a baby, moves, etc. everyone in the office pitches in for a big, wonderful out of the box kind of gift. Earlier in the year, they called to another girls honeymoon resort and set up and paid for a romantic dinner and massages on the beach – and this girl wasnt even nice to the office!
Now, my wedding is soon. The girls (that I’m very close with!!) are passing around my registry and talking about what they got. I’m happy they will be there to share my day with me, but I can’t help but feel like my occasion means less to them than everyone else’s big day…
Post # 3
@sofialovesmikey: Did I read that wrong? You’re upset that they are picking presents FROM your registry? Like- they are buying you things they know you want, like & need? This is exactly the opposite of everyone else’s complaints here.
I say take it as a testiment to your taste. The only time I buy something not on the registry is when I look at what they’ve picked and deem it all hideous.
Post # 4
@sofialovesmikey: I got married last year. It was not a secret, though I didn’t invite anyone from work. One week I left on Wednesday and came back the next Tuesday with a new name.
“Oh that was this weekend?! We should have taken you out for lunch or something!” (My boss did give me a generous gift)
My assistant is having a baby – soon. Last week we all went out for lunch and all the guys chipped in for some gifts for her. I got her my own gifts weeks ago. When another guy in our group married, it was like pulling teeth to get them to sign a card for him and give $5 for a gift. They were more willing to give the $5 (some more) a year later when they had a baby.
So… have a baby? At least you get something and they care a little. 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
You are looking a gift horse in the mouth. You picked those items. If you wanted them to be creative you shhouldnt have registered.
Post # 6
Perhaps they would all pitch in for a big gift if you had one on your registry instead of small simple things. They are doing the next best thing and buying you lots of little things. Who knows maybe with all their powers combined they are going to put it in a nice basket sign you up for cooking classes for you and your FH…I’m grasping here, but also trying to point out you dont know what their final gift is. And even if it is just those simple things off your registry at least they got you something other than pat on the back.
Post # 7
I think you should re-read your own post several times. And really think about it. REALLY think about it.
1. you are getting married
2. you have a job
3. they are buying you gifts for your wedding.
Post # 8
I don’t understand:
1. Why you registered for gifts you apparently don’t need or want.
2. Why you’d be upset that people were buying you gifts that you asked for.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I understand a tiny bit, OP. You feel a little left out compared to what they do for others in your office. But look at the big picture here….
Post # 10
@sofialovesmikey: Perhaps your co-workers have done something similar to what they did for the other bride in the office – you could have something waiting for you during your honeymoon. Maybe they’re passing your registry around as a ruse.
That being said, you should be happy your co-workers are doing anything for you. Unless it’s a condition of being employed at your office, they don’t owe you anything.
Post # 11
Why register for gifts if you didn’t want any? That’s kind of contradictory!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
Am I understanding correctly that you expected them to pool money together to have some lavish gift/event/etc for you, and are disappointed that they’re only buying gifts off of your registry? So you feel like because they aren’t putting in as much effort (I guess??) that your wedding is not as important?
Post # 14
I think peopel are being a bit hard on you here. Your coworkers have set a standard of going above and beyond for things and being very creative, but have gone a more low key route for you. It’s only natural to be a bit confused and feel singled out because this is out of the normal for them. I’m sure they didn’t really mean anything by it.
Post # 15
@Kit_Kath: +1 The other comments are definitely harsh!
OP, I totally understand feeling upset that your coworkers seem to be putting less thought into your gift than they did with others. It would make me feel like they didn’t care for me as much. Maybe the other people had honeymoon registries or didn’t register for anything?
Post # 16
Why would you register for stuff you don’t want? That just baffles me.