Post # 1
We’ve only been married 3 months. But all of the sudden I’ve been having the urge to get pregnant. He’s had the urge long before we got married, but I was like “Oh hell no!”
I should start with we already have 4 kids between the 2 of us ages 9, 11, 11, and 19. I just sent my “baby” to the 4th grade yesterday and was so glad I don’t have any more toddlers at home. She finally stopped holding my hand last year and will be 10 in a few months.
So why do I want a baby? We don’t need anymore kids. I definitely don’t want to be pregnant or go through childbirth again. I guess because love my hubby so much that part of me likes having that close of a connection to him that could create a baby – or something like that.
ANYONE have any words of reason for me that could snap me out of this?
P.S. I’m also on the heals of Post-wedding blues, so maybe that’s where this is coming from…
Post # 3
I don’t have any children of my own, but I can sympathize regarding the post-wedding blues and baby fever. I thought for sure I would be waiting at LEAST a year or two after the wedding before TTC. But as soon as the wedding was over, I started thinking I wanted one (it’s been a month!) It’s almost like “okay, that wedding was FANTASTIC—what’s next??” My best advice (to both you and myself) is to wait. Wait 6 months and if the feeling is still there, then I’d say it’s more than post-wedding blues! I’m the type of person who always has to have something to look forward to, but having a baby for that reason alone isn’t great! lol. I think the feeling you have after the wedding (ie. strong love, deep connection, starting your life together….) all of those things might equate to BABY, but I want to also listen to the practical voice in my head, to make sure that it’s a well thought out decision and that we are ready on all other levels as well (financially etc.)
Post # 4
@jules28: So true! Common sense tells me we don’t need another child right now. I just keep getting those thoughts and feels. Plus our friend, family and church members our age are all having babies. Which makes it even harder.
Thank goodness I have an almost iron clad birth control, which requires a doctors visit to remove it. Otherwise my heart might overtake my mind LOL!
Post # 5
@MrsACarpenter: I agree with @jules28: ! Wait a few months and revisit the idea. DH and I have been married less than a month, and are 4 months pregnant (the wedding had already been planned when we became pregnant – it was not a surprise)…and let me tell you….it’s a LOT to handle at once. I’m still getting over my post-wedding bliss (and financial toll the wedding took on us) + pre-baby stress = one hot mess of a mama to be. Lol!