(Closed) I think I have more proposal ideas than he does

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
479 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MissRuthie:  Lol I always do that nothing thing or IDK for christmas and birthdays. He was smart enough to listen to things I said i want weeks before time and just get it lol. My so did say he was tryigin to think of ways to do it when we reach tht point. i told him as long as it’s not cheesy we are good. I hate clichés and super cheesy stuff..unless it’s organic and not planned or thought out. He’ll figure it out sometimes they really do think to hard and overthink something so simple lol.

Post # 4
1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

I kind of know what you mean XD I recently decided that if we aren’t engaged by our 4th anniversary I’m going to take the initiative and do it myself, I decided this like a month ago?

In that time I’ve worked out when I’d like to do it, run though many different possible locations and started thinking about how I’d like his ring to look. I highly highly doubt that he’s come up with anywhere near the amount of ideas I’ve had – and he’s supposedly known that he wants to marry me for a lot longer than a month (I hope so anyway lol).


Men just suck at any kind of planning is all I can say XD Birthdays and Christmas is basicly me having to send him links to what I want online, oh the romance :3

Post # 5
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I haven’t thought of a single way for him to propose to me. I’ve told him that I would prefer something quieter, with just the two of us or a small group of people. NOT in front of his large family. I’ve told him that he could propose while we were cuddled up on the couch and he said he could think of something more romantic than that. All I know is that he wants it to be a surprise. *sigh*

Post # 6
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MissRuthie:  I thought of many different, perfect ways he could have proposed–in Puerto Rico when we were watching the sun go down. In Wyoming when we were watching the waterfalls. My birthday, 4th of July.

Instead, he chose a Friday in September with no signifanct meaning. I had no makeup on, unwashed hair, I looked a mess. And it was perfect. I underestimated his ability to plan a perfect proposal. I thought it had to be at a grand dinner on the Carribean beach or something. No, it was on my couch as I am watching the most beautiful memories captured in pictures roll by on the screen.

He was completely capable of planning a perfect proposal without my help…or the help of a sunset, waterfall, or expensive trip.

Post # 7
289 posts
Helper bee

I have the best proposal idea that I wish I could forget about!  He told me he loved me for the first time on my birthday two years ago at this beautiful little beach after a romantic dinner.  I would love to go back there for my birthday again this year(in a couple of months) and have him pop the question!  Sadly I don’t think it’s going to happen.  I wish I could get the idea out of my head though so I won’t be disappointed on my birthday! 

Post # 8
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I ALWAYS do this! Simplicity! I love architecture so take me on a drive to look at beautiful buildings, pull over and pop the question! I would love that! 


I wonder if anyone here could leak that to my SO. PM me if you are willing to make that call!


Post # 9
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MissRuthie:  Yikes, I think you really need to let all of these expectations and ideas go, unless you’re planning on proposing to him. It’s his moment to plan. Have a little faith in him that he’ll make it special no matter what :). If you guys are meant to be, how could it not be special? He’ll figure it out on his own :). 


Post # 10
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’ve told him he can do whatever he wants for a proposal as long as it’s not at Christmas in front of the whole family. He says “okay, it’ll be at a basketball game at Madison Square Gardens.” NOOOOOOOOO!!!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 12
30 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

I have had so many awesome proposal ideas for myself…and I told my SO all of them!  He was very impressed with my creativity, but now of course can’t use any of the ideas, haha.  SO is very quiet and private, so I know his proposal will not be anything extravagant or public.  My only hope for the proposal (aside from it actually happening) is that I am surprised.

Post # 13
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@MissRuthie:  OOh I hate this feeling! I have thought of so many local places that would be perfect and intimate for a proposal. Back where we had our first date (a Starbucks in San Francisco), where he first told me he loved me (in front of my childhood Church when I took him on a tour of my hometown), at a quiet spot in our favorite museum in front of a wall of glass that looks out over the Golden Gate Bridge… But of course I can’t share any of these ideas. I know he’s freaking out about it, and I am the one who plans EVERYTHING in our relationship (seriously, I don’t think he’s ever planned a date), and when he tells me he is nervous about proposing and doesn’t know how to do it, it breaks my heart, but I can’t do this for him! So I’ve just told him that I want it to be relatively private (no flashmobs), meaningful, and sincere. I don’t need a vacation, I don’t need it to involve fireworks or all of our best friends randomly showing up. Honestly I don’t care as much about the proposal as I do the sentiment behind it, but I do feel like this could go any which way since I’ve never seen him plan something like this before! Not sure what his style is… 

Post # 14
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

(Sorry, I’m going to gush… please forgive me)


I was in the EXACT same boat. I was expecting it at every turn and always thinking “the would’ve been perfect” after a great date or random adventure or bike ride to a romantic spot or whatever.


Finally, on our anniversary, we had a really nice date planned. He had reservations for a romantic little booth at the Melting Pot (which is a big deal… we usually do Subway or something when we eat out). I was SO expectant I was discreetly checking my drink every time a new one was brought out ๐Ÿ˜‰ The meal was delicious and it was a lovely time… but he didn’t ask. I was so disappointed.


Then he asked if I would mind going up to Horsetooth Reservoir for some fishing. The way he phrased it was “I kinda want to go fishing, you down? If not we can just go home”.  I was still pretty crushed about the lack of proposal but I grudgingly agreed.


I was completely unaware that he had arranged to use his family’s boat to take me to a private cove on the lake. Oh man, I was SHOCKED. He’s not romantic or good at planning things, but when we arrived at the reservoir and I got out of the car — it was incredible. The fully stocked boat (smores, firewood, champaign) was out on the water, right at dusk, ready to whisk us away. Well done.


Long story short, it can still happen and be beautiful. I wanted to rush things and just be engaged but I’m glad, now, that we waited and he didn’t feel pressured.


(PS: I found out later it took him almost a month to figure all that out and pull it all together. But I’m glad he took the time to do it well!)

Post # 15
1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

@Benni:  Oh man that is a beautiful proposal! Congratulations to you both ๐Ÿ˜€ I love how casual he was about suggesting it – though I wonder what would have happened if you’d declined the fishing? Lol :3

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