(Closed) i think i just ruined his proposal…

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh don’t worry about it. I “ruined” my surprise, too (a surprise wasn’t practical in our situation and me no like surprises) so even though you *know* it’s coming, it’ll still be a big surprise and wondeful, and then you’ll look back and laugh at it. Seriously don’t fret!

Post # 4
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

oh it’s okay! everything will still be wonderful when he does end up proposing so don’t worry too much about it. i’m sure he’ll still ask you. you were stressed, it happens. no worries!

Post # 5
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I almost ruined his proposal too. I actually called him out on it a few days before (really long story) and he still proposed as planned.

I’d just apologize for being a little crazy and explain why–he’ll understand–we’ve all been in those hectic moments before. You could even add in how much he means to you and just leave it at that. I don’t think you messed things up, they’ll go back on track.

Post # 6
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Just apologize…it’ll be okay.  Explain how stressed you’ve been and it’ll be fine.

Post # 7
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My Fiance and I had a very similar fight.  I basically freaked out because he was never going to propose.  Turned out he was planning afterall.  I felt like a jerk.  Don’t worry, the proposal will still be special and maybe now you can relax a little.  Apologize, tell him you love him, then move on.

Post # 8
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s totally ok!  You have every right as a woman who isn’t yet formally engaged to question as to why you should contribute to his financial situation.  Every right.

And it’s going to be fine.

I almost did something like this recently..and he stopped me before I went too far and guessed something.  He said “uh uh uh…you cannot spoil the biggest surprise ever.” 

Post # 9
2680 posts
Sugar bee

I almost ruined his proposal while it was happening!  I had no idea and felt horrible that I made him jump through so many hoops just to get me in the right place at the right time!  Just apologize and tell him because you were stressed, etc.  Im sure eveything will be ok.

Post # 10
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I almost ruined his too. We were going to go to NY the weekend before the holidays and I PATTED him down to see if the ring box was in there. Turns out he had to do anything and everything he could to throw me off… he ended up waking me up at 2:30 in the morning so I would be caught off guard.

Post # 12
10216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

everyone else has given you great advise so all i have for you is ((HUGS)) he’s going to propose soon!!!!!!!!!!!EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 13
23 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

Haha I was convinced my Fiance did not have a ring (because I had been looking over his finances, we were trying to figure out what apt we could afford), and came home one night telling him about how I was getting frustrated being in the dark and didn’t want a big surprise I just wanted to be an adult about planning our lives together, and he left the room for a few minutes, came back and asked if I didn’t want to be surprised, I said I didn’t and when I looked up he had the ring out!  (haha so i ended up being surprised).  Anyway, everyone has a different story and you know what — it doesn’t matter.  I felt bad for a few days about not having a romantic story, but we have the rest of our life for romantic stories.

Post # 14
1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think an apology would be nice, and I’m sure he will plan something great! You may not be getting a pre-Christmas proposal anymore, but all the better to truly surprise you! Hang in there – stress in life can aggrevate the waiting-to-be-engaged stress so try totske everything in stride! I’m sure your man will understand!

Post # 15
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Girl, could you be any more like me? Except, I ruined my proposal indefinitely, because I was on his facebook (he knows I know his password/we shared a facebook for a while/why was he emailing his cousin on there about it?/I can’t handle another person telling me I am dumb, lol) SOOOOO, needless to say, November 14th will NOT be the day I will get my ring. Soooo…don’t feel as bad as I do!


But you know, guys can’t hardly keep their mouths shut when they get the engagement brain, either. In fact, the other day I just casually *asked* if bf had talked to my parents. And he texted me back and said he had; my parents had been stone-faced telling me that he hadn’t! Who knows anymore, haha.


But best wishes to you…I am sure everything will work out in the end…of course! 🙂

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