Post # 1
Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been talking seriously about getting an apartment but seeing that we are both from good southern baptist homes our families didn’t feel that we should live together before we are married….blah blah blah…
Anywho I have been going over my finances for the past couple of days and I figured that even if I didn’t live with him I could at least help him out some…now that he will have to pay for it all himself this time with no roommate or football scholarship money. I knew in the back of my head that my dream ring was fading far into the distance. Come to find out he has plenty of money and I was just being dooped.
Well I don’t know what happened but today I snapped…I think it’s that I have a major project due next week and a test and Christmas shopping and Boyfriend or Best Friend is TOMORROW!!! (Don’t worry I already have him a kick booty gift…4 seasons of seinfeld to be exact) so I snapped on poor unexpecting Boyfriend or Best Friend on my lunch break. I told him that maybe he didn’t need the pressures of a Girlfriend and all that gib gab.
So he got pissed, understood, and told me basically that he had already planned out everything and was going to propose before Christmas so that we could show my ring off to our families. I honestly thought that he couldn’t afford my dream ring and I was semi fine with that…being that he picked it out and everything. He told me about all of these various hints over the past couple of months that I just flat out missed! How could that be since I do after all have the nose of a blood hound when it comes to wedding stuff…
OH ladies don’t be like me! I ruined it kinda, I mean I still don’t know how or when or anything. But now I don’t know if he will even ask at all. I know I’m crazy and psycho so you don’t have to tell me!
Post # 3
Oh don’t worry about it. I “ruined” my surprise, too (a surprise wasn’t practical in our situation and me no like surprises) so even though you *know* it’s coming, it’ll still be a big surprise and wondeful, and then you’ll look back and laugh at it. Seriously don’t fret!
Post # 4
oh it’s okay! everything will still be wonderful when he does end up proposing so don’t worry too much about it. i’m sure he’ll still ask you. you were stressed, it happens. no worries!
Post # 5
I almost ruined his proposal too. I actually called him out on it a few days before (really long story) and he still proposed as planned.
I’d just apologize for being a little crazy and explain why–he’ll understand–we’ve all been in those hectic moments before. You could even add in how much he means to you and just leave it at that. I don’t think you messed things up, they’ll go back on track.
Post # 6
Just apologize…it’ll be okay. Explain how stressed you’ve been and it’ll be fine.
Post # 7
My Fiance and I had a very similar fight. I basically freaked out because he was never going to propose. Turned out he was planning afterall. I felt like a jerk. Don’t worry, the proposal will still be special and maybe now you can relax a little. Apologize, tell him you love him, then move on.
Post # 8
It’s totally ok! You have every right as a woman who isn’t yet formally engaged to question as to why you should contribute to his financial situation. Every right.
And it’s going to be fine.
I almost did something like this recently..and he stopped me before I went too far and guessed something. He said “uh uh uh…you cannot spoil the biggest surprise ever.”
Post # 9
I almost ruined his proposal while it was happening! I had no idea and felt horrible that I made him jump through so many hoops just to get me in the right place at the right time! Just apologize and tell him because you were stressed, etc. Im sure eveything will be ok.
Post # 10
I almost ruined his too. We were going to go to NY the weekend before the holidays and I PATTED him down to see if the ring box was in there. Turns out he had to do anything and everything he could to throw me off… he ended up waking me up at 2:30 in the morning so I would be caught off guard.
Post # 11
Thank you all for your kind words. I know that when he does propose it will be great and I will still be suprised!
@lara bee- Boyfriend or Best Friend has mentioned doing it early in the morning so that one I don’t see it coming and two so that I can enjoy it all day long! Haha! Boys are too cute!
Post # 12
everyone else has given you great advise so all i have for you is ((HUGS)) he’s going to propose soon!!!!!!!!!!!EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 13
Haha I was convinced my Fiance did not have a ring (because I had been looking over his finances, we were trying to figure out what apt we could afford), and came home one night telling him about how I was getting frustrated being in the dark and didn’t want a big surprise I just wanted to be an adult about planning our lives together, and he left the room for a few minutes, came back and asked if I didn’t want to be surprised, I said I didn’t and when I looked up he had the ring out! (haha so i ended up being surprised). Anyway, everyone has a different story and you know what — it doesn’t matter. I felt bad for a few days about not having a romantic story, but we have the rest of our life for romantic stories.
Post # 14
I think an apology would be nice, and I’m sure he will plan something great! You may not be getting a pre-Christmas proposal anymore, but all the better to truly surprise you! Hang in there – stress in life can aggrevate the waiting-to-be-engaged stress so try totske everything in stride! I’m sure your man will understand!
Post # 15
Girl, could you be any more like me? Except, I ruined my proposal indefinitely, because I was on his facebook (he knows I know his password/we shared a facebook for a while/why was he emailing his cousin on there about it?/I can’t handle another person telling me I am dumb, lol) SOOOOO, needless to say, November 14th will NOT be the day I will get my ring. Soooo…don’t feel as bad as I do!
But you know, guys can’t hardly keep their mouths shut when they get the engagement brain, either. In fact, the other day I just casually *asked* if bf had talked to my parents. And he texted me back and said he had; my parents had been stone-faced telling me that he hadn’t! Who knows anymore, haha.
But best wishes to you…I am sure everything will work out in the end…of course! 🙂
Post # 16
@firemanslady- Well maybe Boyfriend or Best Friend moved yours to our date twin anniversary! So maybe just two days later! Yeah he def pointed out all the hints and they were so obvious…like the jeweler said that in order to keep the ring at the store that she would need a deposit and when I emailed her last week just to ask if the ring by chance was still there she said that she needed to talk to Boyfriend or Best Friend. And a few weeks ago he went to the bank to “change over his accounts” but it was really for a loan and last week all of his money suddenly vanished…for my “christmas presents” which he returned…or so he said…
I don’t know but I’m still pretty confident that it will happen before Christmas so that we can announce it to my family from out of town and his too! It will save us a bunch of long distance calls haha! I’m just excited that it’s coming soon. I’m actually kind of nervous. But this is a great feeling.