(Closed) I think I know the answer to this question already, but, help?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

@Mrs.Mittens: Keep looking. In situations like this that are so emotional, it is always better to stay fair and unbiased. Feelings will get hurt if not.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should keep looking.

Post # 6
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3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Sorry, but I really want to smack some sense into your Fiance. IMO if you’re going to invite one of your parents, you need to invite the other as well. I can understand his not wanting a huge wedding, but to insist on being this minimalist is ridiculous. It’s your wedding too, you shouldn’t have to single out one of the people you care about like the lucky winner of a prize draw or something.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

How did couples counseling go great if your Fiance is still not allowing both of your parents to attend the wedding?!

 

^And the fact that I have to type in the word ‘allow’ kills me. He is being very selfish and I absolutely think that both of your parents should attend. I bet she would blame your Fiance forever…and I can’t say I blame him.It’s not a mutual decision, we all know from your last post that you want people attending your wedding and he doesn’t because he had a big wedding for his first marriage.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs.Mittens: Well I guess you and your Fiance will have to decide what is more important – sticking to the (petty) agreement, or your mother’s feelings. It’s really that simple, although I’m sure it feels more complicated than that. Is having one less person at the wedding really worth your mother very possibly having lifelong bad feelings towards your FI?

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Wonderstruck: I agree with you.  The silly, petty agreement that the OP’s Fiance is so set on is not worth the potential of a life-long further damaged relationship with her mother.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs.Mittens: So you’re going to keep a hgue secret from your mom, which will inevitable come out and strain your relationship most likely forever, because your Fiance cannot get over the agreement? Maybe I’m confused…I might have missed something, but what does the officiant have to do with anything?

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