I think I know when and how my boyfriend is going to propose!

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
1395 posts
Bumble bee

Stop thinking about it. Really. Just take him at his word that these are family photos. Why assume he’s lying to you?

Post # 3
205 posts
Helper bee

Honestly… I’m always a little surprised at “I DIDN’T SEE IT COMING AT ALL! proposals” because… I don’t like the idea that your SO can keep a secret from you that well. XD

Plus the fact that you’ve stipulated that a photographer MUST capture the moment and that he has to make sure you’ve got your nails done for the occasion? It makes it harder for him!

You don’t really know exactly how everything is going that day, so it will still be a surprise. If you think that knowing some little detail about a possible proposal is going to ruin everything for you, you’d be surprised at how happy you’re going to be when the real thing happens! (Or if you tell him to delay it every time you suspect something, you’re both going to be really frustrated at each other.)

Overall, enjoy your relationship! You trust him and love him, and he loves you. (if you really end up getting engaged that day, pretty yourself up for pictures. ;P Also, be happy that you know your significant other well enough that even though he tried so hard to hide from you, you know him so well that he could never truly lie to or keep anything from you.)

Post # 4
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Agree with PP, you’ve made it hard for him to make it a complete surprise because of your stipulations (photographer/nails done). Just enjoy this time and don’t spoil it for him by telling him your suspicions!

Post # 5
11525 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t think you’re reading too much into this at all, and I think that what you think is going to happen is probably what is going to happen. Unless your SO knows that you try to figure eveything out and concocted this story only to throw you completely off track.

So, you strongly suspect, but you don’t KNOW for sure. 

Whatever you do, please do not ruin HIS surprise by telling him now what you’re thinking. If you do, you likely will end up disrupting a lot of planning and scheduling on the on the part of him and his family members. If it DOES happen the way you suspect, tell your side of the story afterward, when all of you are happy and excited about the proposal, the ring, and the fact that wedding planning can commence.

I always wanted my proposal to be a complete surprise also, and my then-SO did his best to comply with that expectation. Unfortunately, I ended up having to go out of town on business, which ended up completely thwarting his original plan. So, he had to improvise, which was difficult, because we were in a long distance relationship the entire time, and he wanted the proposal to take place before another event. At that point, I was able to figure out what was about to happen, BUT he arranged for another surprise to coincide with my proposal that I had no idea would happen. And it was still wonderful and still special.

I hope yours turns out to be even more amazing than you think it will be! Just try not to sabotage it by telling him every thought in your head until afterward. 🙂

Post # 7
85 posts
Worker bee

I think I know my proposal is happening soon and at first I was worried that some of the ‘wow’ factor would be gone. I just know my boyfriend way too well to know when something is up and I don’t think knowing beforehand could ruin how I’ll feel in the actual moment it happens. I think the engagement process will be full of really special moments so I don’t mind if I’m right and I’m not totally blindsided. It sounds like your boyfriend is putting a lot of thought into your proposal which is so sweet!

Post # 8
617 posts
Busy bee

“My boyfriend and I”

Post # 9
5419 posts
Bee Keeper

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kmarie143 :  Don’t tell him you know. Even if it is a surprise its not ususlly a surprise because you likely can tell that your SO is acting different. Stop obsessing over it and try to enjoy this time. Unless you get your nails done all the time…of course that’s going to be a tell. 

Even if you see it  coming it’s still a special moment because you don’t know exactly when. Trust me you will still have your reaction. 

Think about how awesome it is that all of these family members are working to make a special time for you. 😍

Report back with a ring pic or if it happened the way you think or perhaps there’s a twist! 

Post # 10
8257 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

You’re going to be piiiiiiissed if its just some regular old family photos lol

Post # 11
702 posts
Busy bee

I think girls are much more observant than guys and (especially when waiting) will never miss a trick!

even when not waiting and not even living with my SO I pretty much know everything that is going on with him and that he is doing / planning – not because I snoop or anything. Just observant, intuitive and I listen!!

Even so – I recommend you calm down, try not to think about it and stop convincing yourself of what you think is going to happen. A) you’ll only drive yourself crazy, (b) you MASSIVELY increase your chances of spoiling it (either because he clicks and holds off or you ruin the moment for yourself) , and/or (c) you may be wrong in which case you’ll be very disappointed…

try to clear your mind and focus on something else for a few weeks. If he is planning something, try think how much effort he’s going to and to stop trying to anticipate stuff!!!

Post # 12
1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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jellybellynelly :  No joke! I thought my boyfriend was planning a proposal for my birthday. Had me all kinds of hyped up and excited…

We built a headboard. We really needed one, and I love it, but we built a freakin’ headboard. I was all up in my feelings for about 3 days afterwards just so angry at myself for building up my own suspicions.

Post # 13
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Finger Lakes, NY

I think it could well be as you suspect, but I also agree with others about not telling him anything just in case so he has no excuses to delay if this is in fact his plan. If you have a hobby you miss or something you’ve always wanted to learn, now is a GREAT time to throw yourself into it whole-heartedly to distract yourself. I’ve been waiting for months and it’s finally getting close, so I’ve been playing some video games, reading as much as I can, and now I’m attempting to start learning Arabic.

Not kidding.

Anything to distract myself and make the time move faster. It’s working really well, actually. June and July have zipped by for me.

Post # 15
1002 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Congrats!! That is a beautiful ring!

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