- 11 months ago
Hey guys, this is my first time posting on here, but I know I needed to tell my story before I go crazy. A little back story, me and my boyfriend have been together almost 3 years now, but we have been been best friends for over 10 years. For our one year anniversary he got me a promise ring and since the beginning of our relationship, since we have know each for so long, we have always talked about getting engaged and getting married and having kids together one day. I never realized that possibly getting engaged would come so soon, but I think I may know when and how he plans on doing it, which for me just ruins the whole surpsrise factor. I know that I don’t know exactly how things will go that day and what he will say when he proposes if it does happen, but I always figured it would be a complete surprise and I would never see it coming until it happened.
I don’t know for sure that it is defintiely going to happen when I think it is going to happen, but I will explain why I am havng these thoughts. My boyfriend an me have always been very open about talking about getting engaged and getting married. He has an idea of what I want my ring to look like and I always told him to just make sure my nails are done and that the moment is caught on camera if possible. I started to have a little bit of a suspicion a few months ago that maybe he was propsoing soon when I facetimed him in the middle of him and his mom looking at engagement rings online (but I thought maybe he was just showing his mom the kind of ring I wanted and getting a price range to save up for one in the future). He has always told me that he knows around when he is going to propose to me, but would always drop these little hints of stuff that usually just left me even more confused of when it was coming, which I was okay with because I wanted it to be a complete surprise. My mom let it slip a little while after that, that he told her he was going to do it sometime between now and graduation, but I wasn’t sure if that meant my graduation which is this August or his which is another 2 years from now.
Fast forward to a few weeks ago is when my suspicions really started to get bad. A few weeks ago, I had a really bad day and my boyfriend trying to cheer me up said, “I wasn’t sure if I was going to tell you this or not, but I feel like it will make you feel better, I found the exact ring I am going to get you, from where and how much it cost”. Now in that moment, I just thought it was more of his little games he liked to play with me to throw me even more off to when he possibly was going to propose, but then things started to get more and more suspicous. A few days ago totally out of the blue and totally off topic he started to talk about how his mom wants to get family pictures done and how she thinks it would be cute for use to get picture with us and our dog too. This was a huge red flag for me because he just kept going on and on about how it was his moms idea, and that she has been begging him for months to get the family together to take pictures together, but this was the first time I had ever heard about it. To me it seemed like the perfect plan for him to throw me off from what was actually going on. By making it his moms idea it doesn’t seem to obvious that he is planning something, and the plan just happens to involve a photographer to capture the moment when it happens. Now you’re all probably thinking that I’m looking to much into this, but ever since all of this started coming up into conversation he has been acting very strange. He also asked me tonght if I was gonna get my nails done for pictures. Pictures also just happened to be right before our 3 year anniversary. Pictures have now gotten moved back because the weekend they originally picked ou, supposedly the photographer couldn’t do. Also he mentioned klater on that my anniversary present wouldn’t get ther in time which to me makes perfect sense of why pictures had to get moved back. I just feel like he is trying too hard to make it all sound like his moms plan and it is making it obvious that something is up.
Now I may really just be looking to into all of this, I’ve told one of my close friends what I think is going one and she says that this may just be all part of his game to throw me off even more, who knows honesty. Right now it is all I can think about and I have a full month to wait and find out, whcih scares me that he is going to realize that something is up with me. I always imagined my proposal to be this huge surprise and to not see it coming at all, but now I feel like I have figured everything out and that it isn’t going to be much of a surprise for me like I always imagined.
I was contiplating telling him my thoughts, but then I would feel awful if I ruined this huge surprise that he has worked so hard at coming up with. Who knows maybe I am just overthinking this and nothing is actually going to happen. I thougtht I would share my story because I amy just go crazy if I have to keep this bottled up to myself for a ful month.
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