Post # 1
I am hoping for your opinion here. I have a person who I considered to be a pretty close friend- by close I mean we spend New Year’s and some B-days together.
Her wedding was on the low budget side. Anyway, my SO and I attended and gave her about $125. Was that too low?
I really didn’t have a choice as I had MANY other things to pay for at the time. I attended her bridal shower for which I got her a beautiful gift, I attended her bachelorette where I had to pay for my part plus drinks and food afterwards, and then finally attended her wedding.
Her wedding was about 2 months ago and she will not respond to my calls!
Post # 3
If she scoffs at ANY gift, she’s not doing friendship right.
Post # 4
um i would be excstatic if i got 125 dollars plus a bridal shower gift plusssssss u came to my bachelorette party!? what!? maybe she is just busy… i dont think thats the reason why she wont call you back. theres no way.
Post # 5
If she’s mad that she didn’t get a large enough gift out of you, then you didn’t lose a friend. This girl wasn’t a friend to begin with!
But in all reality, she might just be busy or occupied?
Post # 6
Gifts (in any amount) shouldnt be expected! If she is wiling to throw away a freindship bc of a gift… let her go!
Are you sure she isnt just busy oe preoccupied in some other way? I cant imagine that she would ignore you bc of a gift amount!
Post # 7
What makes you think you lost her as a friend?
Post # 8
Holy cow! I wouldn’t have any friends left if they thought $125 was too low! That’s more that I would EVER expect and friend to dish out for me! There must be something else going on!!! It’s just crazy to think that a friend would scoff you because of a GIFT!!
Post # 9
I agree with the above posters. If she won’t return your calls b/c you didn’t give her enough money for her wedding, then she isn’t really a friend. I suspect there’s something else behind this. Do you have any reason to think that it was because of the wedding gift? Could you have said something that might have offended her at the wedding? Maybe she’s just been ridiculously busy since her wedding and hasn’t had a chance to give you a call back?
Post # 10
Thanks guys! You’re most likely right. I guess I just wanted to be reassured.
Post # 11
$125 is totally fair. I can’t see someone getting too upset over that. I’ve seen gifts range anywhere from $50 to $500/couple. The $500 usually comes from older family friends who have very little obligations.
If she’s not returning your calls I would maybe pick her up a pumpkins spice latte (tis the season) and show up at her place and say that you were in the neighbourhood…
Post # 12
Uh. I agree. If she scoffs at ANY gift then she’s not a true friend.
By The Way. $125 is a very generous gift! Some of my husband’s family (who are VERY well off) only gave $50 per couple!
Post # 13
$125 is def not too low. If shes not returning your calls maybe shes going through something.. idk. Im trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t immediately assume that her lack of contact has anything to do with your gift. Did anything weird or awkward occur at the wedding or before that may be causing her to stay out of contact? Or maybe there are just a lot of other things going on in her life right now that you aren’t aware of. Perhaps they are having a difficult time adjusting to married life and need some time to themselves. I’d give her a break before you write her off and assume it was because of your gift.
Post # 15
Maybe she is very busy with post wedding stuff. Did you recieve a thank you card from her? Did you hear from somebody else she may be upset about the money or was it just something you thought of?
If she is upset about how much money you gave her I would not care about losing her as a friend. Friendship isn’t about money!
Post # 16
So the reason I am concerned is because me, and our mutual friend and I planned a lunch about 1 month after her wedding which she was supposed to attend. When I text messaged her about it I got no response. Also no response to phone calls. I found this strange because she is responding to facebook messages. Also, before her wedding we hung out on a monthly basis. But now there is just silence.
No I have not received a thank you card.
I guess I’ll give her time. But if I don’t hear anything from her I will be quite upset!