(Closed) I think I lost a friend because I didn’t give her enough money as a wedding gift

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If she scoffs at ANY gift, she’s not doing friendship right. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

um i would be excstatic if i got 125 dollars plus a bridal shower gift plusssssss u came to my bachelorette party!? what!? maybe she is just busy… i dont think thats the reason why she wont call you back. theres no way.

Post # 5
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375 posts
Helper bee

If she’s mad that she didn’t get a large enough gift out of you, then you didn’t lose a friend. This girl wasn’t a friend to begin with!

But in all reality, she might just be busy or occupied?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Gifts (in any amount) shouldnt be expected! If she is wiling to throw away a freindship bc of a gift… let her go!

Are you sure she isnt just busy oe preoccupied in some other way?  I cant imagine that she would ignore you bc of a gift amount!

Post # 7
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739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

What makes you think you lost her as a friend?

Post # 8
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Holy cow! I wouldn’t have any friends left if they thought $125 was too low! That’s more that I would EVER expect and friend to dish out for me! There must be something else going on!!! It’s just crazy to think that a friend would scoff you because of a GIFT!!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I agree with the above posters. If she won’t return your calls b/c you didn’t give her enough money for her wedding, then she isn’t really a friend. I suspect there’s something else behind this. Do you have any reason to think that it was because of the wedding gift? Could you have said something that might have offended her at the wedding? Maybe she’s just been ridiculously busy since her wedding and hasn’t had a chance to give you a call back?

Post # 11
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435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

$125 is totally fair.  I can’t see someone getting too upset over that.  I’ve seen gifts range anywhere from $50 to $500/couple.  The $500 usually comes from older family friends who have very little obligations.

If she’s not returning your calls I would maybe pick her up a pumpkins spice latte (tis the season) and show up at her place and say that you were in the neighbourhood…

Post # 12
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3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Uh. I agree. If she scoffs at ANY gift then she’s not a true friend.

By The Way. $125 is a very generous gift! Some of my husband’s family (who are VERY well off) only gave $50 per couple!

Post # 13
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1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

$125 is def not too low. If shes not returning your calls maybe shes going through something.. idk. Im trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.

Post # 14
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I wouldn’t immediately assume that her lack of contact has anything to do with your gift.  Did anything weird or awkward occur at the wedding or before that may be causing her to stay out of contact?  Or maybe there are just a lot of other things  going on in her life right now that you aren’t aware of.  Perhaps they are having a difficult time adjusting to married life and need some time to themselves.  I’d give her a break before you write her off and assume it was because of your gift.

Post # 15
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401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Maybe she is very busy with post wedding stuff. Did you recieve a thank you card from her? Did you hear from somebody else she may be upset about the money or was it just something you thought of?

If she is upset about how much money you gave her I would not care about losing her as a friend. Friendship isn’t about money!

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