- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Hey, everyone. As the title says, I don’t think I did the best job picking bridesmaids. I’m mostly just looking for some reassurance.
Mistake #1: Picking too soon.
My engagement is nearly a year and a half long. We are currently 11 months out from the wedding. I made the mistake of picking BMs about one month into my engagement. Hindsight, and let my experience be everyone’s lesson…WAIT! You never know how things may change and who you may be close to in a year’s time.
Mistake #2: Picking someone I’m not that close to. I know you’re thinking “WHAT?!” I am, too!
Here’s the deal. I was really excited, and at the time me and said bridesmaid were talking more, but mostly just at work. Still, we had several heart to hearts and I was feeling that she and I were becoming very close. I asked her to be my BM because she was a friend, she would have been the only girl at my job not in the wedding (I work in a small facility), and me and the FI wanted our numbers to match.
Now, some time has passed, and though she and I still work together, we aren’t talking as much as we used to. I honestly just feel like she is an aqcuaintance to me. And I feel guilty because I feel like there are so many people who would be better “qualified”, so to speak, based on our friendship and how long we’ve known each other. I’ve never really hung out with this girl outside of work. I mentioned us going and hanging out but it’s never pursued.
On the other hand, I know she is excited, will come to my events, will be a great overall bridesmaid. I just think, if we are being honest, that she won’t be in my life in 10 years. Ya know? I feel like I can’t really uninvite her from that position, so I’m more just looking for some comfort in my hasty, senseless decision, as well as how I can improve our relationship so that I don’t have someone I don’t consider a “best friend” standing by me on my big day.