(Closed) I think I messed up the invites :/

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsBlah:  You did absolutely nothing wrong. Just put it on the website or spread it through word of mouth. I would never expect it to be on the invites.

Post # 4
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think that’s something that can be spread by word of mouth.  I’ve been to a couple cash bar weddings, and they never put it on the invite.  

I think you’re fine!

Post # 5
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What do the invitations say? Do they say anything addressing what to expect at the reception?

You could do an additional insert that had some “Things to Know,” like information on seasickness (you could just say it’s unlikely anyone will get motion sick but if they are prone to it, they may want to take dramimine), something about parking or shoes or whatever, and the cash bar item. Basically just informational extra stuff that might be okay if you didn’t include it, but you’re making up some stuff to add so that the cash bar isn’t the only point of info.

Post # 6
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsBlah:  I would just have your family and friends spread the word.

I think because A) it’s a daytime wedding and B) it’s on a ship it’s not so scandalous to have a cash bar.

Post # 7
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i’ve never seen a wedding invitation that specified a cash/open bar, so don’t even worry about it. when i go to weddings i always anticipate having to buy my drinks, so i always take cash with me anyway.

just put it on your website and have your friends/family spread the word. it’ll be fine 🙂

Post # 8
855 posts
Busy bee

@MrsBlah:  I say don’t worry about it! That’s early enough in the day that I think people wont even be looking to drink much.

word of mouth would work. Tell your parents or siblings to spread the word or put it on your wedding website

Post # 9
2389 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Does the ship take credit/debit? That’s the only thing I’d worry about since you can’t exactly go to an ATM.

Post # 10
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Word of mouth or your website I think are the best ways to handle it.   I, like most of the PP, haven’t ever seen it mentioned on an invite.   I don’t think you messed anything up!!

Post # 11
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I agree, most people wouldn’t include that info on the invite! Just make sure you are directing people to your website (with an insert or something) and that the info is online :).

Post # 12
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Take a deep breath… and know that you are fine !!

Strictly from an Etiquette point of view… one should never mention ANYTHING financial on / with one’s Invites

So nothing about Gifts, Cash Bars, or Hotel Accommodations

All that info is to be passed on to Guests either by Word of Mouth (traditional) or on one’s Wedding Website (modern)

And as oneofthesethings:  has said, you’ll want to have all the facts… CASH ONLY… or will they take Debit / Credit as well.

Hope this helps,


Post # 13
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsBlah:  Spread the word through family and friends verbally. 

Post # 15
1877 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with the previous posts- you have done nothing wrong, and should spread the word on your website and verbally.  Don’t stress!

Post # 16
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know a lot of bees disagree with me, but I subscribe to the school of host what you can afford and don’t offer the cash option. Would you ever invite someone over to dinner and tell them they had to pay for a glass of wine? They’d certainly understand if you said “I’m sorry, we don’t have any wine,” rather than “sure, open your wallet.” Part of hosting is being hospitable. If I were you, I’d just stick with the soda/juice/coffee pacakge and not worry about a cash bar.

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