(Closed) I think I met the one, help how did you know she/he was it?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

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panda532 :  maybe she is the girl you’re gonna marry and live happily ever after with, maybe she isn’t. 

You date and form a relationship and over the next year or so you’ll know if you are potentially a good match long term. 

In the meantime enjoy the buzz of this first phase. It’s fun isn’t it?! 🙂

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Bumble bee

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panda532 :  I knew really early on that my fiancé was the one. I just knew, that I would marry this man. I almost didn’t want to be in a relationship with him because of this, because I was so young at the time and not sure I was ready for the long haul commitment. Enjoy the feeling and the new relationship!

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Busy bee

This story sounds so much like the begining of my relationship with DH! We fought our feelings, both of us wanting to take it slow, use common sense; but the connection was overwhelming. Even our first time sleeping together was a mess because of alcohol, but we giggled our way through and just enjoyed each other! Under all the fake restraint and real passion there was always this still calm voice that said “this is it”.

We tried to silence it (we’re both more cerebral people generally) but it persisted and I knew it was right. It gave dating a whole new purpose and direction. We took active and sure steps towards building something very real based on that assured voice. Ten years later that voice was right and we’re glad we didn’t play silly games denying it, and had communicated everything all the way. 

Nuture and have fun with this. It could be your last dates! 😉 In a good way! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I am a firm believer that you don’t truly meet the person you are dating at first – you meet their representative. 

That being said, I didn’t know my husband was “the one” until a year or so into our relationship.

Post # 6
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Newbee

I knew within the first few months. I think he felt the same but took him about 6-8 months to say the words.  It has been great ever since

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Part of it is a realization that just hits you, but part of it is also you making a conscious choice/decision to name this relationship as “the one”, if that makes sense. Yes, there was initial attraction and ongoing attraction in our relationship, but a big part of it was also both of us committing to each other and that in turn, spawns that feeling. Kind of like a “we’re going to last because I’m consciously creating that sort of air/attitude in my relationship that we’re doing this for the long haul”. It was kind of a decision we made early on.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

So much of this is parallel to the beginning of my relationship with my Fiance. We had met on a trip and really connected and then took the 15 hour flight home and I felt like I could have been on that flight next to him forever.  

It wasn’t until the first kiss a month and a half later that I realized I was going to marry this man. I was 21 and actually did not want to meet my husband yet, but I couldn’t pass him up. And I was right, now 8.5 years later here we are six months away from our wedding. 

We’ve grown up and grown together, but it was that ultimate feeling of both comfort and extreme excitement deep within that I knew he was the one. I described it as a burning flame that had the potential to be an enteral fire. But I’m really sappy and grew up on Disney movies and writing poetry so take my words with a grain of salt. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I knew after about a month. I didnt know on the first night, at all.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Don’t think too much about it. I met my Fiance on match.com. When I saw his picture for the first time, I called my mom and said “I found the guy I’m going to marry.” He wasn’t amazingly more drop dead handsome than all the other guys on the site or anything, but he was cute. Somehow I just felt it.

HE on the other hand… took a year and a half to even initiate a relationship (and I wasn’t even waiting- I dated others in the meantime), and then another 2 and a half years to propose. But here we are.

Just go with it, and you’ll just know.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

I knew right away. I don’t know how to fully explain it. We just connected right away we spent hours on the phone talking before we even met. It felt like we had known each other our entire lives. We connected in so many different ways. I knew with a few weeks of meeting. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I thought I had met The One twice before I actually did — and then I REALLY KNEW. So, enjoy those feelings, let your relationship blossom… but (buzzkill) don’t make too sudden of judgements 🙂 Let things unfold how they may, and if all goes well, you’ll just get continuous affirmations that she’s your One.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Enjoy the new relationship while your are in the infatuation phase. To be honest, I had that feeling everytime I met a good date. You can tell if the person is right for you or not after the honeymoon phase is over.

I only knew my now husband was the one when he proposed to me and talked wedding. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

My husband and I are one of those cases of “love at first sight” for lack of a better term. Now, logically, I know you can’t fall in love with someone who you don’t even know but I can’t think of a better way to describe it so we’ll just go with that. It was just kind of like “Hey, thats the guy/girl i’m going to marry.” They day we met we even started introducing each other as husband/wife and luckily for us it actually ended up being true. My friends thought it was really funny because earlier in the day I kept saying “I’m going to meet my husband tonight!” (talking about the bassist of the band) but I actually did end up meeting my husband.

So, I won’t say that you don’t *know* she’s the one. Because, hell, you very well might be right. But you could also be wrong so just don’t pin too much on it and try to enjoy getting to know one another and building a relationship.

ETA: We still didn’t rush in to anything. We spent 6 months getting to know one another before even dating and then lived together two years before getting engaged. So, while its lovely you know, REALLY get to know this person before you make any snap decisions.

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