Post # 1
This is kind of an odd post but I think I met the girl that’s meant for me and I want to hear how others new and when they knew she was the one.
Here’s the story: I had a 15 hour flight and the girl sitting next to me and I really hit it off. I instantly liked her. We flirted a lot on the plane ride and she even used me as a pillow for a few hours. We took a taxi together since we live fairly close. I asked her out and it turns out she had a bf of 4 years but she told me she’s been wanting to break up with him for a long time and is planning on it.
Fast forward 2 weeks and I send her a message since I couldn’t stop thinking about her and SHE asked ME if I wanted to grab lunch. I already knew I had a massive crush on her by this point. We met yesterday and I didn’t even know if it was a date or not since I didn’t know if she had broken up with her bf. Turns out she broke up with him a few days upon returning from her trip.
The date went amazingly well, it was by far the best date I’ve ever been on. What was supposed to be a quick one hour lunch in the afternoon turned into us spending the rest of the day together. We went back to her place as well. We had amazing deep conversations, things you normally would only talk about with your closests and longest friends. We both have admitted that we really like each other and that we feel a real connection unlike one we’ve ever felt before. It just feels right. Like when I went to her place I felt at home with her.
We did sleep together but it was actually something we didn’t want to do, we told each other we wouldn’t but we’d start hooking up and then force ourselves to stop until we couldn’t stop anymore. it wasn’t the sex at all that makes me like her, actually the sex was absolutely terrible because I couldn’t perform due to nerves and alcohol. She didn’t even care and nor did I. We spent the majority of the time talking naked on the couch. We stayed up until 3 am just talking because we couldn’t get enough of each other.
I have a feeling that she’s different from every other girl I’ve been with. I feel like we’ve become instant best friends.
Post # 2
maybe she is the girl you’re gonna marry and live happily ever after with, maybe she isn’t.
You date and form a relationship and over the next year or so you’ll know if you are potentially a good match long term.
In the meantime enjoy the buzz of this first phase. It’s fun isn’t it?! 🙂
Post # 3
I knew really early on that my fiancé was the one. I just knew, that I would marry this man. I almost didn’t want to be in a relationship with him because of this, because I was so young at the time and not sure I was ready for the long haul commitment. Enjoy the feeling and the new relationship!
Post # 4
This story sounds so much like the begining of my relationship with DH! We fought our feelings, both of us wanting to take it slow, use common sense; but the connection was overwhelming. Even our first time sleeping together was a mess because of alcohol, but we giggled our way through and just enjoyed each other! Under all the fake restraint and real passion there was always this still calm voice that said “this is it”.
We tried to silence it (we’re both more cerebral people generally) but it persisted and I knew it was right. It gave dating a whole new purpose and direction. We took active and sure steps towards building something very real based on that assured voice. Ten years later that voice was right and we’re glad we didn’t play silly games denying it, and had communicated everything all the way.
Nuture and have fun with this. It could be your last dates! 😉 In a good way!
Post # 5
I am a firm believer that you don’t truly meet the person you are dating at first – you meet their representative.
That being said, I didn’t know my husband was “the one” until a year or so into our relationship.
Post # 6
I knew within the first few months. I think he felt the same but took him about 6-8 months to say the words. It has been great ever since
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center
Part of it is a realization that just hits you, but part of it is also you making a conscious choice/decision to name this relationship as “the one”, if that makes sense. Yes, there was initial attraction and ongoing attraction in our relationship, but a big part of it was also both of us committing to each other and that in turn, spawns that feeling. Kind of like a “we’re going to last because I’m consciously creating that sort of air/attitude in my relationship that we’re doing this for the long haul”. It was kind of a decision we made early on.
Post # 8
So much of this is parallel to the beginning of my relationship with my Fiance. We had met on a trip and really connected and then took the 15 hour flight home and I felt like I could have been on that flight next to him forever.
It wasn’t until the first kiss a month and a half later that I realized I was going to marry this man. I was 21 and actually did not want to meet my husband yet, but I couldn’t pass him up. And I was right, now 8.5 years later here we are six months away from our wedding.
We’ve grown up and grown together, but it was that ultimate feeling of both comfort and extreme excitement deep within that I knew he was the one. I described it as a burning flame that had the potential to be an enteral fire. But I’m really sappy and grew up on Disney movies and writing poetry so take my words with a grain of salt.
Post # 9
I knew after about a month. I didnt know on the first night, at all.
Post # 10
Don’t think too much about it. I met my Fiance on match.com. When I saw his picture for the first time, I called my mom and said “I found the guy I’m going to marry.” He wasn’t amazingly more drop dead handsome than all the other guys on the site or anything, but he was cute. Somehow I just felt it.
HE on the other hand… took a year and a half to even initiate a relationship (and I wasn’t even waiting- I dated others in the meantime), and then another 2 and a half years to propose. But here we are.
Just go with it, and you’ll just know.
Post # 11
I knew right away. I don’t know how to fully explain it. We just connected right away we spent hours on the phone talking before we even met. It felt like we had known each other our entire lives. We connected in so many different ways. I knew with a few weeks of meeting.
Post # 12
I thought I had met The One twice before I actually did — and then I REALLY KNEW. So, enjoy those feelings, let your relationship blossom… but (buzzkill) don’t make too sudden of judgements 🙂 Let things unfold how they may, and if all goes well, you’ll just get continuous affirmations that she’s your One.
Post # 13
Enjoy the new relationship while your are in the infatuation phase. To be honest, I had that feeling everytime I met a good date. You can tell if the person is right for you or not after the honeymoon phase is over.
I only knew my now husband was the one when he proposed to me and talked wedding.
Post # 14
My husband and I are one of those cases of “love at first sight” for lack of a better term. Now, logically, I know you can’t fall in love with someone who you don’t even know but I can’t think of a better way to describe it so we’ll just go with that. It was just kind of like “Hey, thats the guy/girl i’m going to marry.” They day we met we even started introducing each other as husband/wife and luckily for us it actually ended up being true. My friends thought it was really funny because earlier in the day I kept saying “I’m going to meet my husband tonight!” (talking about the bassist of the band) but I actually did end up meeting my husband.
So, I won’t say that you don’t *know* she’s the one. Because, hell, you very well might be right. But you could also be wrong so just don’t pin too much on it and try to enjoy getting to know one another and building a relationship.
ETA: We still didn’t rush in to anything. We spent 6 months getting to know one another before even dating and then lived together two years before getting engaged. So, while its lovely you know, REALLY get to know this person before you make any snap decisions.