(Closed) I think I might throw up…

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper

Can you tell your dad you can’t meet the cabinet lady?  That you really would like to but you have way too much on your plate right now.  Ask him to reschedule it to next week.

And, I’d skip the housewarming party.  Can SO go without you?  Unless you really really really want to go – I’d skip it, have some YOU time, get some laundry done and take a nap.

There is NOTHING wrong with taking naps.  No one needs to know what you are doing on your down time or why you can’t make an engagement of any sort.

Sleep is sooooo important, IMO, and everything else goes to out of sync without it.

HANG IN THERE – big HUGS.

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

omg you are brave for tackling all that all at once! 

Just remember…

Not sure if it helps, but maybe it’ll put a smile on your face…  πŸ™‚

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@MsBrooklynA: Don’t worry about it!! I get really stressed too and honestly if it wasn’t required of me I wouldn’t do near as much on a daily basis lol I’m not a super woman by any means. I totally get your frustration. 

Just know that we are here and you can get me on FB too if you ever need to just vent or whatever!!

Post # 22
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I feel exactly the same way!  I am so busy with wedding stuff and my fiance’s incessant social plans that I only get 6 hours of sleep a night and its making me cranky, overwhelmed and very SAD!!!  (((HUGS)))) to you.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

πŸ™ Sorry girl. Don’t know your stance on energy drinks/coffee…but in my college days (and still when I get really busy), coffee and 5 hour energy are my saviours. πŸ™‚

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

One thing you should definitely do is find a laundromat you can trust and DROP OFF 2-3 loads of essential laundry.  Don’t waste the time doing it yourself; that’s a small thing that’s worth paying for!  (((hug)))

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

πŸ™ Sorry you’re so overwhelmed! I get super stressed when I’m low on sleep too. I agree with pushing back meeting the cabinet lady. And can you cut short your visit at the housewarming party? Leave early and get to bed early to catch up on some sleep?

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve totally been there and I totally feel for you.

All I can say is, it’ll get better, and then when your schedule does simmer down a bit, you’ll be able to look back and go “Holy shit, was I crazy? How did I manage to do all of that?” and you will feel so proud of yourself. Trust me!

Also, mint tea helps πŸ™‚

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I feel your pain! How are your classes? Are some of them simple, ( like general edu. classes or ones that you just get)?  If you can,  do some homework during those classes, a lot of Gen ed classes ( and even a lot of major classes) you can read the book, and get the same information from paying attention to the lecture.  What I do,  in those classes,  I bought an audio recorder  from walmart  and record the lecture while i work on other things, then I put it on my i pod and listen to the lecture later. NAP OFTEN, even the 5 min, i am zoneing out be back later moments are better than anything. See if your SO can drive you to class and back one day. it will give you time to nap/study.

ASK your job if you could have another night off or if you can squeese a split shift in.  If you ask, they MIGHT work with you, because a tired grumpy employee does not work as well as a happy less stressed employee.

 

Make  a list of all the things you have to do, and when is THE ABSOULUTE LAST MIN. That you can do it and still have it done well.  You might be able to shuffle things around to take some of the stress off of you.

 

Also, TALK to your Professors. They will be more understanding than you think.  They might even give you an extention on things, like if you have a paper due friday, and you work everynight proceeding, they might let you hand it in a day or two with no penalty. If they know you, and your sittuation they are more willing to bend the rules for you.

 

BREATH it will be ok!

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh man, I hate when life gets like this. And I too, like you, will dissolve into tears when I feel this way.

Try making a list and numbering the items in order of importance and start there. Is there any way you can skip the house warming party? Any way you can do what

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@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: suggested and drop off laundry to be done for you or ask your SO to do some?

Write out all you need to do and then cross off things you can say “NO” to. Believe me. It took me years to say NO to people and certain things that really don’t need to happen right this minute, and it changed my life. Hang in there. You can do it!

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Oh wow, this sounds like my junior/senior years of college – I did the crying to DH thing when I saw him for 10 min 2x a week a LOT! I’d spend the whole time telling him everything I needed to do! Junior year I was a VP for a very active club, in an activity that required being gone all Saturdays aug-oct plus about 7 days of missed class, took 18 credits for fun classes such as BBMB (biology, biochemistry, molecular biology) animal reproduction, and microbiology, PLUS I co-chaired a HUGE week-long event for the ag college. I still don’t know how I made it through.

Definitely make a list! I kept a running draft in my email inbox (cause I was constantly on email) with everything from tests to study for to groceries to get.

Prioritize! What HAS to be done (study for tests, wedding), what HAS to be done but can maybe wait (laundry, cabinent meeting), and what would you LIKE to get done?(house-warming party)

First – put off that meeting with the cabinent lady for a week – I know you said it needs to get done, but fall just started, you have a little time. Right a check for the wedding gift and save a trip to wherever you were getting a gift from.What is your SO doing this weekend? Can he do the laundry for you?

What kind of work do you do? Could you possibly squeeze in some study-time during slow periods?

Do you use a laptop during class that you could do a little multi-tasking for other classes?

Go to the house-warming party – but either go early and leave early, or go later and stay for a bit. You need to squeeze in some fun things too because like you said – you are missing out on some things and it does suck when you have to do that.

And hey – the best and most-needed part of college was the naps! I too don’t function well on less than 8 hours of sleep. Some people are like tough it up, you can sleep when you’re dead, blah blah – but our bodies are all different and it’s not about being tough – your body needs what it needs and when you are as busy and stressed as you it’s not even about physical exhaustion – it’s the mental and emotional that’s so draining.

We’re always here to talk and help you out! You will make it through this!

Sorry for the book!

Post # 30
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Bee Keeper

I can really relate to this; my last year of uni was a nightmare, loads of work and deadlines, plus my part-time job, plus I was very ill throughout. It’s not pleasant to say the least and can be quite emotionally draining; I had to prioritise my job and studies, so my social life took a big hit as I was too tired to do anything socially.

I think making a list is a really good idea; psychologically it can help as it makes you feel more ‘in control’. Try to include everything eg working hours, any social events, any meetings, any lectures, and also any deadlines, for the next 2-3 months if possible; this will give you a clearer idea of what needs to be done and when, and breaks it down a bit, making it a bit less overwhelming. Then look at each week: are some weeks much more hectic than others? If so, can you move something from those weeks to another week? Eg if your employers are flexible, and you have a big uni deadline one week, would they allow you to work fewer hours that week and make them up the following week? Also try speaking to your tutors: I found that mine were very helpful, giving me allowances on non-essential/unassessed work, and deadline extensions on assessed work. So speak to them (make it clear how tired and emotional/stressed you are) and see if they can help.

It might be that short-term your social life has to take a hit; I found this, and it’s not ideal, but short-term it’s doable. Just be careful: you do need some leisure time each work, try to avoid getting into a situation where it’s all work and no play, as this will just make you feel worse. But do manageable things eg maybe schedule in 2 hours a week to see friends/go for a coffee/have some you time. Even though it’s only a small amount of time, it’s something to look forward to each week and gives you a break.

You could also try keeping a big calendar/check list, esp if this is a short-term situation (eg less than a year); every time you get through a week, or meet a deadline, etc, tick it off with a big red tick; sounds corny, but it can help to visually see the weeks ticking by πŸ™‚

Hope that helps!

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

*hugs* I get this way when I’m stressed, too. It just builds up until I cant take it anymore and just start crying. πŸ™ I agree with PPs who said to make a list. In the past that has helped me out a little by making things seem not so bad.

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