posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You aren’t the first to ‘ruin’ the date and won’t be the last. I didn’t bug it out of him for mine, so much as he accidently left so many clues around the house I figured out it would be at Christmas (though never told him, to this day, that I knew!).

I knew it was coming and couldn’t sleep. I woke up and every 30 seconds I was like “now… hmmm… I wonder if it will be now!”. Whenever there was a break or a moment I just was so excited!

Anyways, because I had guessed for about 3 weeks that he was proposing on Christmas, I decided I wouldn’t cry or be suprised at all, cause I knew. I knew to prepare. Well, let me tell you that he proposed while opening gifts (like I figured) and it was STILL amazing, romantic and I cried like crazy.

In the end, did I ruin it? Not at all. I was so thrilled and still suprised and shocked that I have no regrets about my proposal.

Don’t worry about knowing the date or even knowing the time. Trust me– it will still be okay πŸ™‚

Post # 4
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

i didn’t ruin it, exactly, but i knew it was coming, and when, he said before the end of March, i was hoping for it to be our anniversary, and i saw the ring box bulge in his pocket when we walked on the beach before dinner, and it didnt happen then cos it was too crowded, during dinner he suggested we go for a walk on the beach again after dinner, so i knew it was going to happen then, and guess what? i was still overwhelmed with emotion and got teary πŸ™‚ so even when you know exactly when, the moment is still overwhelmingly wonderful πŸ™‚

Post # 6
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

@coo:  well mine knew i was expecting it/thinking it was on that day, and he saw that on my whiteboard i was counting down to that day, but you’re right, i didn’t know for sure until i saw the ring box bulge. i don’t think he should have told you, kind of ruins the surprise a little, but i hope you guys have a wonderful day and do something special to make your engagement official πŸ™‚

Post # 7
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hmmm… Don’t take this the wrong way please – I am really trying to make you feel better – but aren’t you a bit overthinking all of it?

I mean you have been with you wonderful man that long, you have a child together, you are finally getting the proposal and all you can think of is your worry of “ruin”?

Come on, he just wanted to make you feel better, would you feel it was any different from previous times if he really said only “i’ve got this”? If you really fell into tears and told him you were expecting it on V-day… Men are only people too, you know – he probably thougt he was doing you a favor by telling you and calming you – he could not have known that’s not want you want if you were basically telling him it is – men can’t read minds! They don’t get our hints and secret desires from thin air or our whishful thinking…

Besides – you didn’t ruin the proposal – did he propose no, he just said (when) he will do it – so in extreme you just ruined the surprise of the date but everthing else of the proposal (including the surprise where, exactly how and when precisely on that day) is still for you to discover! Don’t freak out and enjoy the great feeling that it is finally coming! πŸ™‚

Post # 9
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t feel bad. If guys didn’t drag their feet, girls wouldn’t ruin the proposal. Boys make me so mad how they keep the ring forever and make us feel like crap for wanting to marry them so badly, all because they want it to be ‘perfect.’ This one is definitely on him– he needs to get it together! πŸ™‚ I don’t think you ruined anything!

Post # 11
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

 This morning he knew something was wrong, he kept asking and I’m thinking ‘surely he can work this out for himself!?’

well theres your first mistake – its a global agreed fact that menfolk are not mind readers. im glad you have talked about this and are moving forward – goodluck

Post # 12
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@eloping:  hehe, my hubby tells me that all the time, “I’m not a mind reader…” πŸ™‚

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