Post # 46
If he says that he has everything on board then i think you need to be patient with him. He will propose sooner or later! (Hopefully sooner) and it will be worth the wait. Im sure you want it to be super special and romantic. I doubt that hes having commitment issues.. Maybe he needs time to save up for the ring? .. The more stress you put on him, the more financially stressed out he will be.. And this could result in him thinking that maybe you are too demanding.. Trust me, im with my bf for 4 years and 9 months now, im living with him for about a year.. I know hes going to propose soon, well i knew for 6 months now but he hasnt proposed yet! I guess its cause of all my nagging and fights with him as to why he hasnt done it already!! But when it happens bee, it will be beautiful ❤️Just give him some time.
Post # 47
Thanks for all helpful comments and opinions (and the discussion about gender roles was great too!). For now, I’m letting it rest and if I get worried or resentful again, I’ll sit him down and have a proper grown-up talk. I’ll be sure to give you an update when (if) things start heading somewhere. 🙂
In general, reading both my post and your comments, I realize I do come off very undecided. I probably need to take some time off to myself to figure out what my priorities are. That’s also why I don’t want to be the one who proposes or books a date – I have to figure out if I actually want to do it.
Thanks also for pointing out that timelines can change. It sounds obvious, but it’s hard to really accept. I am a big fan of timelines (I usually have stuff planned out five years in advance), but I do change them along the way to accomodate changed circumstances, expectations and whatnot. Makes sense a relationship timeline would change too.
So thanks everyone, once again, just reading your advice (both the kind type and the tough love 🙂 makes me feel a hundred time better.